This guy wants to go on a date with me but I don't know that I am really all that into him. On the other hand, when this other guy found out that he had asked me out on a date he got a little jealous. I really like the other guy and want him to ask me out but I don't want to hurt the first guys feelings. The other guy hasn't asked me out yet but told me he would call me to see what I am doing which is what the first guy is going to do. If the other guy were to ask me out I would definitely want to go but if the first guy asks me I would feel obliged. What should I do?????
2007-03-03 02:08:54 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should let the first guy go because he sounds like he isn't all that in to you.Pick the other guy, because he sounds like a keeper because he is jealous when someone else likes you and that means he really likes you.When you said you would feel obligated to go on a date with him means you don't really be yourself around him.And it sounds you are not comfortable in the relationship.
2007-03-03 02:22:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one is ever obligated to do anything. Sometimes you have to be a bit selfish and think of yourself first. Would you rather yourself to be happy or the first guy? Just tell the first guy you are not interested. I know it may sound mean but its an honest answer. People have to accept that. Date the other guy, the one you like. You will have a much better time with him than the first guy. Never let your happiness be second on the priority list.
The first guy's feeling may be hurt, but they are more women out there that would be interested in him. Don't waste his time when you feel that you don't like him too much. Just make yourself happy.
2007-03-03 10:15:54 · answer #2 · answered by Super Haitian 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are never obliged to go out with anyone. Do not go out with someone if you don't want to. Dating is a matter of personal connections and relationships. He will be more hurt if you guys go out a couple of times and he thinks he has a real chance and then you end up dumping him. If you care about him at all, even as a person with feelings, then you need to be honest with him.
2007-03-03 10:24:15 · answer #3 · answered by krissy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the one you do like. Not the one that asks you out on a date because you would be forcing yourself to like him. Take the guy you think you have a better, chance with, to me, It would be the guy that got a little jealous.
Tell the first guy your not interested and there are many other girls in the world. He should be understanding afterwards.
2007-03-03 10:14:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with the one which your heart leads you to. The truth hurts, it's better to tell the 1st guy that you aren't interested in going out with him than being said later that you are playing with his feelings. Do not go out with a guy whom you aren't interested in. The same goes with a guy. He shouldn't be going out with a girl whom he isn't interested in. Dates with our loved ones or someone we like shouldn't be seen as an obligation, rather it's something enjoyable and meaningful. If you feel obliged with the 1st guy, then I advise you not to go at all even if it means to hurt his feelings. If he's mature enough, he should know how to handle this rejection from you well.
2007-03-03 10:22:59 · answer #5 · answered by superb2dmax 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok first take a deep breath and here's your answer you really like the second guy right and you sort of like the first guy right well you can just tell the second guy that he's really nice and all but that you already have a boyfriend and then the first guy wants to be with you but has afunny feeling that you don't really like him well i think that he only likes you becasue he was jealous but i may be wrong just wait and see how it goes and then the real answers will come to you
2007-03-03 10:16:03 · answer #6 · answered by singing_chick101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should go out with both of them once or twice....just a casual friendly date though, don't let it get romantic on those test dates... and get to know them a little, and see how they act, ......then u will have a better idea of which one is the one for u..... then pick the one u like and let the other one know that u gave it a honest chance, but realized it just wasn't gonna work out for u.
2007-03-03 10:20:21 · answer #7 · answered by jumpinjack 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go with the first guy b/c if the other one never asks you, he obviously just wants you free but doesn't wanna go out with you.
if the other guy really liked you he would ask you out first, instead of waiting for someone else to ask you first, and then asking you
but it doesn't really matter cuz ur not marrying them are you?
2007-03-03 10:13:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should go out with the first guy because at least he IS interested in you and besides you may like him and the other guy might still call you then you can make your descision
2007-03-03 10:13:26 · answer #9 · answered by I love America♥♥♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to the first guy that you like him but you are attracted to somebody else. If he is nice, he would be understanding!
Best Wishes ;)
2007-03-03 10:13:21 · answer #10 · answered by none 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋