What if your dad doesn't love you?

Question

My dad never sas he loves me and he always calls me really bad things! What should I do?

Answer 1

You need to talk to your Dad calmly and tell him when the two of you are not fighting that you would like to talk to him like a Father and Daughter should. Tell him how much you would love to hear him say he loves you and how much you resent him for calling you really bad things. Tell him you want to be closer to him and that you two only have one life to live. If he still refuses then I suggest you tell him you love him.

Answer 2

Homeschoolgirl..

When was the last time you told your Dad,, “I love you Dad!” If you want to receive you also have to give,, yes??

Chances are your Dad does love you he is incapable of telling you and showing you in the way you understand. If he growls at you, and say’s bad things, in the only way he knows, he wants better things for you- wants you to do good- etc.. It’s called “negative reinforcement”

You need/want Positive reinforcement, being encouraged to do better, be better, receive praise when you do well,, etc.. YES?

When you and your Dad are in good moods,, sit, and talk (effective communication!!) with your Dad !!! Never let a day go by where you don’t say, “Dad I love you!” It may take some time for your Dad to change,, but almost any Parent will give positive responses when their child says “I love you” every day.

Answer 3

I have a father like that too. Chances are, he really does love you, but either has some serious problems of his own, or just doesn't know how to express love appropriately. Can your Mother help you sit down with him? I would make a list of points you'd like to make. Tell him that you thought that fathers were supposed to love and nurture their children, and you are sad that he doesn't show you that. Tell him that you think that he doesn't love you. Tell him exactly how it hurts when he says those bad things. I'd also tell him that even though he's done all of those things, that you still love him, because that is what families do for each other. *hugs*

Answer 4

Just accept that he is incapable of being the father you would like to have. Something may have happened in his past to make him the way he is.

Don't take it personally. Don't let the things he says make you think less of yourself. Just be the best "YOU" that you can be. Through the years you will find many people who will love you and respect the person that you are --don't settle for less.

Answer 5

You sit down with your dad and tell him how you feel. Tell him that you need to hear that you are loved and that you dont think him saying negative things to you will help you, but it only hurts you.

If he doesnt listen to you, then you dont need a father like that anyways. Ignore his words and keep being the good girl that you are.

Answer 6

I would normally say first talk to him and make sure what your feeling is justified but if he's just kind of a crappy person you should realize that some people are just that way and no matter what kind of person you are, you would have very little impact on his general outlook of things, people, events. Some people are just miserable. Miserable to themselves and everyone around them. "Be the change you wish to see in the world".

Answer 7

Ask him if he loves you. Tell him you feel like he doesn't and he never says it. Let him know how much it hurts you to be called rotten names instead of nice things. A father should know how to be nice to his family. Ask him if someone was mean to him when he was little, and tell him that it doesn't feel good to go through that.

Answer 8

tell him you love him may be he feels the same way.