just found out my 16yr old nephew is smoking weed, should i tell my brother & his wife?

Answer 1

As a parent I would want to know.

As a sister/brother, if I found out that you knew and had not told me it would put a real strain on our relationship.

Answer 2

Absolutely.

Would you want him to tell you if it were your son?

How much would is damage your relationship with your brother if he found out later that you knew and did not tell him?

Pot is a gateway drug. The only person who will tell you it is not is a pothead. Yeah some people smoke a few times and never try anything else. But go find any junkie and ask them the first drug they tried and 99% of them will tell you that it is the first thing that they tried as a teenager.

As for the relationship with your nephew - I am sure that he will be ticked at you for awhile but he is young - He will get over it.

Answer 3

No. As parents your brother and his wife have the responsibility to raise him and part of their job is to catch him doing stuff he is not suposed to be doing. His job as a kid is to do stuff and try to get away with it. I am 49 never had kids but my best friend raised two to adulthood and now has a 7 year old ( unplaned).
The approach he took with his kids was simple and clear. He sat them down and told them all the things he tried as a kid, got caught at , got away with. Told them not to do it but knows they are going to try anyway, just be warned I know you are going to try and I understand that but when I catch you you are going to pay the price. It seems to work pretty well, he is pretty vigelant and amazingley sneeky. Has some pretty good stories to tell about it. Like the time his son was afraid to go to school one day because a bully was picking on him and was going to beat him up after school. So my friend went to the school ( from across the field to watch and see what was going to happen) the bully did not show up to kick his son's butt, however he did see His son picking on some other kid. Needless to say he had a suprise when he got home.
I wouldn't tell your brother, but you could maybe drop suttle hints, maybe someone else you know caught their kid or something along that nature. It is their job to investigate.
Or you could talk to your nephew and explain the downfalls of smoking weed and he can look at "you" like you don't know what you are talking about instead of your brother.

Answer 4

There is more evidence to suggest a link between mental health in adolescents and cannabis than ever before as the potency of cannabis is getting stronger. Have you tried approaching him about the topic and finding out exactly what is going on? How did you find out and would this have a bearing on your ability to approach him? A lot of people experiment with drugs at this age and it doesn't mean he will move onto being a heroin addict! This being said it does need to be broached with him and who better to do it that a person who cares for him, but isn't immediately responsible for him - you.

Answer 5

If I were you I would go to your nephew and let him know that you know about his drug use and give him the opportunity to tell his parents. Set a deadline for him to go as in (24 hours) or you will have no choice but to go to his parents. By doing this you give him the chance of atoning for his wrong doing and coming clean to his parents and showing a level of maturity that he lacked in smoking it in the first place. If he doesn't meet the deadline then tell his parent but be prepared that they may see you as the bad guy and not believe that you saw what you saw.
My younger brother tried dope in hs and then he got caught by my uncle. When my uncle told my parents my brother denied smoking it saying that it was his friends. My parents didn't speak to my uncle for a month. Then I caught my brother doing it and told him that he had until dinner the next night to tell our parents or I would. He came clean and they had a good talk about it and other drugs that it could lead to.

Answer 6

particular, do it quietly and discreetly and regardless of you do - do no longer tell the different individual different than the guy you're reporting it to. Why? straightforward - immature human beings would call it snitching/tale telling/ratting - regardless of! So what. If he's no longer doing something unlawful then he would be ok, if he's then he will the two decrease back off from doing it or no longer do it at school. stupid, incredibly inspired juveniles would have stated him and think of it incredibly is cool - it incredibly is no longer. it incredibly is the initiating of a protracted drop for some ending in the two destitution or death. This additionally impacts on different persons. drugs harm human beings and lives.

Answer 7

WELL......... U have 2 tell his parents!!!!!! How else is he gonna stop!!!!! NO OFFENCE but being a kid is hard and sometimes u get involved in the wrong crowd!!!!!!! It's unlikely he will stop just because u sed so!!!!!! But if u think he doesn't want his parents involved then encourage him, tell him about the risks and STOP HIM!!!! Ask him!!!! If he doesn't want his parents involved then u support him, but still have a private conversation with his parents and tell them about it but not 2 get involved!!!! Either way weva he wants his parents 2 no or not u have 2 tell them!!!!!!And....
HE NEEDS HELP!!!!!
So maybe u or his parents need 2 give him that!!!!!

Answer 8

Do you think it's a problem? Would it cause more grief to tell his parents than to let him experiment and then move on, as most people do? I think theres a knee jerk "Drugs!" reaction that may not be the case everytime. Ask yourself how it has affected your nephew, has it made him a bad person? Has it made him mess up his life? Is it just a phase? The answers to these questions will give you your answer.
Obviously if it is a problem and is messing up his life then maybe you should tell his parents but not before talking to him about it first. It may be that you can resolve it without bringing his parents into it and save everyone alot of grief.

Answer 9

It is a very difficult position to be in and I can totally empathise. As a parent myself (well he's only 2 but still...!!;-) ) I would be absolutely gutted if any of my brothers/sisters/friends knew something as big as that and didn't tell me. As someone said, it could put a real strain on your relationship with his parents if they were to find out that you knew about it and didn't say anything.

I would speak to the parents and ask them to be discreet about it when/if they talk to him. Hopefully they will understand your feelings and make sure that you won't be made out to be the one who 'told on him'!

Good luck with whatever you decide to do!

Answer 10

have u tryed 2 talk 2 him? what he say? if u have talked 2 him and he gave u the i dont care the tell cos they will find out and they will find out that u did no and didnt say a word 2 them could get u in more of a prob then now trust me i have been there