Views on parents who hit kids in public?

Question

I feel it is shameful, and think would they like me to walk up and give them a back hander as ive dont it in the past?

i can see this has already caused quite a fuss, and god help the poor kids who are in care of parents who smack them, there are better methods to disipline, guess some people have no respect for there children and alot of the negitivty im recieving is probably form the older people who are facist

Answer 1

I know i totally agree with you. some big fat lowlife hitting a little kid sometimes i love to go up and give them a back hander see how they like it. I have a two year old and discipline her when she miss behaves by making her leave the room until she says sorry. I used to work in a large department store that sold kids clothes and some of the women would literally wallop the Young kids across their heads. it makes my blood boil as a person who had it happen to me as a child it only made me aggressive towards my siblings.

Answer 2

Sometimes kid suffer tantrums and there is no easy way to manage this situation, and a good spanking is the only thing that controls them. I don't think parents should overdo it like hiting kids in their head or insulting them, but a strong attitude and a good spanking in the butt it's called discipline, and not abuse. Bribery is the worst thing a parent could do to make their children behave, because if you tell a kid, if you stop screaming I'll buy you a gift or something, then you are just encouraging that behavior. So next time he or she screams and misbehaves they'll know they can get away with something if they are in public. I believe public humiliation works sometimes, a good flick in the arm or firm grab and stern face, or even a whack in a place like arm, butt or even hitting their hands or mouth if they say a bad word, all of these things can be done and work to teach a kid respect and discipline. I didn't like it when I was a kid, but it made me a better person, I learned to respect elders, my brothers, and people in general, not through fear, but through tough love. So all those yuppie parents who think smacking children should be a crime, I say allowing them to have spoiled kids should be a crime. Cuz those are the kids who get to schools and view teachers as another parental role and treat them with disrespect.
I can guarantee you that no healthy parent enjoys smacking their kids in public, but most know it is necesary for their kid in the long run.

Answer 3

I think that children should be disciplined, how else are they going to learn what is right and wrong and to behave like mature adults one day?

My opinion is, that if you discipline the child well enough while at home, they wont act out in public because they know they will get in trouble for it later.

I'm 21 now, but when I was younger my parents spanked me all the time. I personally think they way overdid it, and a lot less would have been efficient, but I NEVER threw a tantrum in a store because i knew I would get in trouble at home.

My friend says that when she was little and she would start to act up, her parents would tell her she would get a spanking when she got home and she would stop immediately of course. Who wants a spanking?

However, I dont think anyone should smack thier child in public. Its humiliating and it draws attention from everyone. Teach your child how to behave at home, and they will behave in public.

Answer 4

I see nothing wrong with a parent giving a tantrum throwing, screaming child a good smack on the butt while out in public. You can't reason with a child that's having a tantrum so the parent needs to get their attention. One smack on the butt is not child abuse and it doesn't hurt them. I, however, have discovered that the threat of public humiliation works wonders with my boys and husband. If the boys start acting up or my husband starts being an ***, all I have to do is say (in a tone that says bring it on), "Do you really want to start something here?" and that's the end of it. I don't embarrass easily but my husband and kids do so I use that to my advantage. It makes for nice and peaceful outings. I would rather see a parent try to control their children rather than the parents who do nothing about it.

Answer 5

there are much worse cases of abuse going on ..than someone smacking their child ... in public or private ...

Although I don't do it .. I would also not get hysterical over a seeing someone smack their kid ... there is a difference between a smack and a beating...

next we'll be hearing that supernanny's naughty step .. or corner is psychologically damaging ...

It's easy saying things are wrong ... but holes could probably be poked into any method of disciplining children ...

and like some people have said ... I think that the children of yester-year (who where smacked) were a lot better balanced than the kids of today's non discipline policies.

teachers were not in fear of their lives ... and kids did not stab each other to death in school.

It's ok saying that smacking is/was wrong ... but what are we doing right today...?

except over indulging



Dr Bad
kids are kids ... not little adults...

Answer 6

Absolute, total bilge. The utterance of the deluded. The ur-sprache (see Tony Harrison - British poet) of a swamp-dweller rejected by toads and shunned even by the most venemous denizens of the underworld.

Can one reason with a three-year old? Will an errant eight-year-old appreciate the arguments of Erasmus? Can Sophoclean wisdom be translated from classical Greek into txtspk (textspeak - see also Orwell, 1984) for a non-punitive admonition for a child of ten years?

The questioner espouses a doctrine of the uttermost tripe. Discipline must be enforced in proportion to the ability to the person being disciplined to respond and learn from the experience. Hence, a clip around the lug works well until the breasts develop or the testicles drop. Once the chastisable individual has developed adult physical characteristics, then the parent (and law-enforcement agencies) can begin to apply the techniques of mature reasoning. It shoud be noted, however, that the human brain is not fully developed until the age of twenty, consequently, summary chastisement options should remain available. In short, if you behave like a mature adult, then you will be treated as such. If you behave like a spoiled brat, then you will continue to be treated as such.

Contemporary behaviour exhibited by many people who have achieved their majority may well predicate towards the extension of corporal punishment to people in theit twenties. Think on!

Finally, in English law, it is permissable to use a reasonable degree of physical chastisement on ones child, in public or in private. It is, however, an offence for an adult to use such a sanction upon another adult without due cause. The questioner has no due cause, and is thus advocating the crime of assault, with a related battery. A backhander given to me from the questioner, in response to me disciplining a child, would meet with a robust response.

Answer 7

You aren't a parent are you? Kids need discipline and they don't get it by being spoken to nicely. Try and explain why it is naughty to rip up mummy's clothes in a nice calm manner and they'll just ignore you. I remember when I was little and I'd misbehave at school because all they can do was put us in detention but at home I'll behave myself or I get a clobber round the head. It doesn't hurt in the long run, and a lot of kids can do with it!

ps, I'm eighteen, not some old fogey who was beaten with the cane. Young people do agree with smacking too.

Answer 8

Parents are in a catch 22 with this topic. If the kid is acting up or having a tantrum in public and ya don't smack them for it.... people say "whats wrong with that parent, I'd smack that kid if he were mine".... and if ya do smack them... they say you're an abusive parent. Mine have never had a tantrum so bad that I was tempted to smack them in public, but I have been known to abandon a full shopping cart in the middle of the store and take them home....and I didn't have to do that too many times before the embarrassment was enough for them to learn how to act in public. And many kids misbehave more in public than at home because they known their parents will hesitate to punish in front of other people...or that they'll get what they want just so the parents can avoid the embarrassment. Kids aren't stupid. But the bottom line is this.... you CANNOT determine the method, means, or necessity of a punishment, or alter its consistency based on the possibility of negative opinions from people who have less than 2 minutes of experience with that child's behavior.... cause they just don't have enough information to make a fair judgment. I would guess that you don't have children.

Answer 9

Er.... excuse me.. but have you not noticed how many young yobs there are on our streets? and do you wanna know why? because their parents, you know, the people that bring them up and pay all their food and clothes bills, were told they couldn't discipline them. No smacks. If the government minded their own business our children would have more respect.

If I had a child and I wanted to smack it in public or not, no-one but no-one better interfere. Smacking didn't do me any harm and it sure as hell wouldn't do my child any harm. but beating a child is different - beating a child is wrong and shouldn't be done.

Answer 10

Some times a smack on the butt is required. But never in public. Remove the child from the situation, then go about disciplining them.