my brother in laws fiance threw a party and invited my mother in law, her sister and her sisters daughter and left me out, yet i am suppose to be her sister in law. Is this wrong or am i the only one that things that it is . why would she leave me out for? she will not say hello or talk to me when other family members are around. Then when she is infront of my inlaws she will talk to me and this is where i find it hard cause she ignores you the week before and then next week she might talk to you. My mother in law asked if i was invited and i said no and she made up an excuse. whats up with that? This is where i am getting frustrated as i have been in the family for ten years and she has only been in the family for 3 yrs and she trys to make me feel uncomfortable and left out. If i go to my inlaws and she was there first she acts bitchy and wont even say hello. i am really confused. what is her problem? does anyone else realise what she is up to or is just me and my husband?
2007-03-03 01:10:40 · 8 answers · asked by Blondie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
my husband told me not to worry that she looks bad not inviting you. that she will be revealed in good time but the thing is i dont think that anyone else cares. how can you do that to someone.
2007-03-03 01:49:45 · update #1
i think that she is jealous of you and is going to great lengths to exclude you from things. that is very rude inviting everyone else and leaving you out. in my opinion pleople like this are not worth the effort and in most cases get away with doing things that are not right because people do not stand up to them. i also think that the other family members who were invited eg your mother in law should not go or say something to her. she thinks you are threat and has made dam clear by not inviting you and everyone else. i know it is hard but dont let her get to you and its time you stand up to her..
2007-03-03 01:33:48 · answer #1 · answered by angel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She obviously does not like you at all. Do you have any idea why? Have the two of you ever been close, was there a falling out or has it always been like this?
Regardless of her reasons it is completely inappropriate for her to leave you out intentionally. That is not how you treat family. I have a cousin who I absolutely hate and she knows how I feel and I know she hates me but we invite eachother to everything, we act like nothing is wrong and our kids get along so wonderfully. Of course at night when the kids are in bed my husdband and I talk about how much it kills us inside to be nice to her and she probably does the same. See, she thinks I am a stuck up materialistic witch and I think she is white trash. So we will never see eye to eye but that does not mean that it is ok for us to make other family members uncomfortable and we have children the same ages who should not suffer.
So why is she doing this. A couple things come to mind. She could be jealous of you. Are you more successful, prettier, smarter, wealthier - it could be anything. If she has low selfesteem it would make her feel better to make you feel bad. She could just be a huge biach. Maybe she just genuinely does not like you. I know that there are just some people who do not get along (but you are family so she should make an effort).
So what do you do abou this?
You can stop inviting her to things, you can start being just as nasty to her. Make smart comments to her infront of people and making her feel like crap. Although this has the potential to make things worse because she can spin it to make it seem like you are the bad guy. You do not want that.
Or you can be the bigger person and ignore her. This is probably the best bet but it could eat you up inside.
It might make you feel better just once to ask her what her problem is infront of everyone. Make sure you do it when your hubby is there to defend you. Let her know that you have had enough of her crap and you are not putting up with it anymore.
It sounds like your inlaws are trying to either keep the peace or they like her better. All in all it seems a little unhealthy.
Good luck and no one would blame you if you wished the wedding was called off - then you would not have to worry about it.
2007-03-03 10:02:21 · answer #2 · answered by chanajane3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're sister-in-law has an attitude problem
Don't make the mistake of letting it get next to you. Don't make the mistake of letting her know it gets next to you.
This may very well be just the type person she is. Therefore there is not much you will be able to do to change it.
The clear picture will come to surface one day and let it be the least of you're problems.
She is a user and it is best to stay clear of her when at all possible. After all you are not loosing anything by not being around her.
2007-03-03 09:14:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to talk to her in front of some people, and ask her why she never asked you to the party. Some people have to be center of attention. Don't ever let anyone make you fell like you don't belong.. just except that she is spoiled and she'll get what she wants no matter who she HURTS in the long run.what does you husband have to say to this problem. Hope things get better for you
2007-03-03 09:36:42 · answer #4 · answered by floralgirl1960 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may not like you or she feel you are a threat to her in the family.
You must be proactive and try to talk to her or get her to talk to you. If she still does not response ,don't waste time , put her out of your life and carry on with your life and be friendly with other family members.
2007-03-03 09:18:07 · answer #5 · answered by raul 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would come right out and ask her, point blank. Whats the problem sis?
2007-03-03 09:15:59 · answer #6 · answered by ladydaisy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she doesnt like u and she is a user she is only gonna talk to u if she needs something from u dont worry about her just dont talk to her.
2007-03-03 09:15:53 · answer #7 · answered by Jessica 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
disown your in laws.
who needs more family members anyways?
2007-03-03 10:30:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋