I am dating an older woman who I have been friends with for awhile, she is totally in to me . She came to NY from SC to see me and doesn't ask anything of me, she even paid for my plane ticket to fly to SC, BECAUSE i AM MOVING BACK THERE. But I am not totally into her as a girlfriend and I dont know how to let her down easy, and save the friendship.
2007-03-03 00:55:26 · 18 answers · asked by keilon c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The best thing is to be very honest with her.People get hurt all the time,but it is much better to tell her how you feel now than let her go on thinking something special is between you.She would be more hurt or angry that you led her on.Hope it works out for you and she is willing to still remain a friend.Good luck.
2007-03-03 01:08:57 · answer #1 · answered by annie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's 26, and her mothers and dads won't enable her see you'? This woman needs to get a backbone and tell her mothers and dads that she's an grownup and that she would be in a position to do darn nicely what she pleases. She's an grownup and would not want mom and pa's acclaim for each thing she does (sure, it fairly is maximum proper to have, yet interior the tip, it fairly is her existence, and he or she could do what makes her chuffed, not her mothers and dads). Is there a reason her mothers and dads do in comparison to you? If there is, and you comprehend what the rationalization is, perchance attempt to restoration it (eg. you assert which you do not have a job good now. in the event that they do in comparison to you in view which you're unemployed-then get a job!) superb of success!
2016-10-17 04:15:49 · answer #2 · answered by seabrooks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure why it was important for you to say she was "older". You let her pay for your plane ticket. Shame on you. No matter how you let her down, you're going to hurt her because she obviously really cares for you. And you are using her. I hope she'll smarten up and look elsewhere for a friend.
2007-03-03 01:05:46 · answer #3 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a chance to tell her how you met your new girlfriend.(white ly is healthy).
Tell her It is not fair for her if you accept the air ticket. let her know u treasure this permanent friendship and would not wish to break that. Get IT !
2007-03-03 01:09:35 · answer #4 · answered by taste 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just need to tell her the truth. leading her on will only hurt her more. she may have a hard time remaining friends with you. love is like that. my ex once told me when i told him that i wish we could still be friends (for the sake of our kids) and he made it clear that he didnt want to be my friend. so good luck with saving the friendship. you have to do what is right for you because if youre not happy, she wont be either.
2007-03-03 01:06:32 · answer #5 · answered by psst.... its me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do, don't listen to M B. You need to let this chick know how you feel. You don't want her to think you were leading her on. Are you moving back there just to be with her? Maybe you should reconsider if so. But she does definately need to know what you are feeling, don't leave her hangin.
2007-03-03 01:01:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not accept her money for the plane ticket. Give it back to her and explain your feelings and tell her you don't want to use her. The sugar mama train has just derailed....lol
2007-03-03 01:05:58 · answer #7 · answered by no cutesy name : ) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be upfront & totally honest with her. don't try the letting down easy thing because it'll just cause more confusion. a mature person will understand, accept it as is & keep on keepin' on!
2007-03-03 01:01:55 · answer #8 · answered by Brandi A. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop taking her favours and using anything she offers. its important that you stay 'clean' of her before you break it to her. do it straight, clear and as short as possible. make sure there's no room for misunderstandings.
there's no easy way to break a heart, but the fast and short route gets her on the healing road faster.
2007-03-03 01:17:20 · answer #9 · answered by Jade Ice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be open with her rather than to give her hope. Talk to her about what you feel and think don't hesitate to express yourself. Be a man!
2007-03-03 01:04:59 · answer #10 · answered by Arianne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋