2007-03-03 00:20:48 · 15 answers · asked by lettuce 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I'd let her do as much as she can for herself obviously don't let her struggle but if you do everything for her she will end up giving up and think that she do nothing for herself and become totally reliant on you.
2007-03-03 00:26:43 · answer #1 · answered by ♥~shona~♥ 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
My Partner of 8 years has M.S. She was diagnosed 2 weeks after I moved in with her. All you can do is be there for her and if she asks for your help then give it otherwise let her have some freedom and Independance its best not to jump everytime a cup is dropped or a plate goes flying, chill out, if she need you, she will let you know and after a while you can read the signs and give a hand without being a pest. I learnt the hard way!
2007-03-03 03:06:27 · answer #2 · answered by night_rapter 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have ms as well but not the progressive type. I would say be there for her but make sure you don't treat her like she's dying please, that wont help. How is she? Dose she have any physical problems? Is she taking any of the medicines and such. If you think maybe she would need to talk to someone just let me know if I can help. Dont treat her to diffrently, that will just make it harder but try to understand if she needs to cry or yell, its good to be angry and sad its part of the accpting what is and moving on. But I'd let her do what she feels like she can do because staying active and postive is what helps the most.
2007-03-03 00:27:02 · answer #3 · answered by Key P 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I suggest let her do as much as she can - this WILL get less, but she will have the achievement of doing things and, well, you wouldn't want someone doing everything for you, would you?
She is still an individual, and an adult, and will WANT to do things for herself. IF she doesn't, you should be firm and encourage her to do things herself, as it may well slow the progression of the illness to keep doing things.
You may well gradually HAVE to do more, but allow her the dignity of being as independent as possible for as long as possible.
it's hard to watch someone you love struggle, but sometimes that's what you have to do.
2007-03-06 21:04:14 · answer #4 · answered by jop291106 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Soon enough she won't be able to do much of anything for herself - while she still can, let her enjoy all the independance she can get. Don't force her to do things, but don't force your help upon her either.
It's great that you are there for your sister.
2007-03-03 00:29:19 · answer #5 · answered by Cloth on Bum, Breastmilk in Tum! 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
By all means, help your sister. Family support is one of the best ways to help anyone who has a debilitating illness. The family unit is precious, and you may regret you didn't help. Ask her, how she feels, and go with her to the Dr. when ever you can. There's nothing to loose. It will be a good way for you to understand what she needs, and hope you can help.
I would not advise you to drop your whole life, and be her nurse, so to speak, but your attention will ease her dread.
2007-03-03 00:36:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably best to sit down discuss the future with her, you will have no idea the thoughts going through her head
do some research to what the future will hold for your sister, i cared for young adults with M.S so i know what the condition is and the life that your sister will have to live
give her the space and all the independence she can have for now she will respect you for it, and be as open and honest with each other as you can
you will have to discuss the future with her what type of treatment she wants for when her M.S gets more invasive
love her, give her support but please go get help and support yourself because you too with suffer and have to watch you sister battle this condition
all my love and best wishes to you both
love and light Charlene xx xx
2007-03-03 00:41:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure she knows if she needs your help she only has to say and other than that let her get on with it. It's important with that type of condition that the sufferer remains as positive as possible and the more things she can cope with alone, the better.
2007-03-03 05:56:51 · answer #8 · answered by gerrifriend 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her do what she can now, as its her only independence and its going to fade. Over time yuor going to need to start doing a lot more, so currently just give her her space, independence and freedom while she has it.
2007-03-03 00:23:53 · answer #9 · answered by Frenchie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her do as much as she can - the less you do the less u can do
there are normally specialist nurses to give advice - contact social services for an assessment for any appropriate equipment or care
2007-03-03 00:36:33 · answer #10 · answered by lovelylittlemoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋