i have finally met the one person that lives to make me happy. i have been dating him for just over 7 months. we have been good friends before we started dating. now we madly in love. everything between us is simply perfect except for one thing, my parents. my life with them has not been that simply. i never really had a relationship with my mother at all & as for my father, he obviously has to take the side of his wife. my predicament is that my parents do not want to accept my boyfriend as he is not of the same cultural background as me. i dont know what to do. should i fight for my happiness or just give into my parents. i am afraid to go against them. another problem is that they are arranging for me to meet another guy of a similar cultural background as well as a similar class as me even after notifying them of my current boyfriend. What do i do? i really need advice.
2007-03-02 23:41:09 · 9 answers · asked by serendipity 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Stand up for yourself, but don't start arguments. You can tell this other guy that you are not interested. Your parents can do whatever they want but it doesn't need to affect you. Your parents may not accept him now, they may not ever accept him, but you should do what's best for you. Your parents have their own lives and their own choices and now that you're an adult (if your 18 or older) you get to make yours.
I would refrain from talking about him in their presence. If your parents are financially supporting you, you may have to become independent of them, but it will be worth it. Good parents will not disown you for this. If they do threaten to disown you for this, then unfortunately you have to make the choice of having parents who will control every decision you make in your life or being independent and free. They make be unhappy will your decisions but if you make every decision in your life around what will please them you will never be happy.
Good luck in searching for your independence!
2007-03-03 02:05:18 · answer #1 · answered by Ann 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u cant leave him now wen he need u the most n so do him. before making any final desicion ask urself is this the guy for whom u can leave n fight with the orld n most imp will he be gng to support u every time u need. just ask her that wat will happen when u leave ur parents, will he marry u, support u regardless n as far as culture concerned ever culture, custom tradition says n teaches the same thing. dnt worry, be calm n make sure u know ur bf's family n background well.n if he really loves u n will alwyas luv u n be with u defintly goahead in life with ur love thats wat ur mum n dad is dng, they r with each other, love each other, supportng each other n always respect ur parents regrdless they agree for ur relationshp or nt cz they have all the right to say no n yes to anything abt u cz u r their daughter however u have all the rights to make decision abt ur own life but dnt go with emotion only cz u will nt gng to live ur entire life with this emotion, there r so many things u will need in future to live n survive.
2007-03-02 23:53:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are living on your own away from your parents, then you need to live your own life. Your parents cannot live your life for you. In the end do you want to make your parents happy or yourself? You know what you want so go for your total happiness and let no one stand in the way of that.
2007-03-03 00:14:53 · answer #3 · answered by dirkthesmirk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if its merely for this reason, then id say follow ur heart. An arranged marriage is a force marriage that wont bring you happiness. If this man is good for you, then go for it. If your parents love you that much, they should come to accept him too. But talk to them and make them understand. one of my relative is going through the same thing but she went ahead with it and shes happy
2007-03-02 23:50:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how old you are. If you are old enough to get married, do what makes you happy. If you still have to live with your parents, it would be best to do what they say for now, but tell the man how you feel, and if he really loves you, he will wait.
2007-03-02 23:46:00 · answer #5 · answered by supertop 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the answer/advice you'll examine could sound the most hurting yet believe me faster or later you are able to particularly save in ideas those strains in existence... your father and mom truthfully understand whats suitable and incorrect for you in existence....the guy isn't settled and insha allah he could truthfully get settled yet are you actually prepared with a backup as what if isn't settled....okies you are able to say you are able to artwork etc yet how lengthy and until eventually even as.... the reality is we babies are so selfish that we predict of we are suitable at each little thing that we do ....with the words you used on your Q u continuously reported/remembered allah....answer this to your self will Allah like you betraying your father and mom and hurting them and marrying somebody else....sit down and picture they could have had aims for you because you've been born...the marriage gown they could chooose the preparations they can make ..... damage them in case you experience which could be a good go back present you promises them....allah be with u...
2016-12-05 04:35:43 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have to choose. You won't be happy no matter which way you go. However if your parents really love you and you are of legal age they will support your decision.
2007-03-03 00:17:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
fight for your happiness! i had to marrie young and the wrong guy because of my parents, stayed married for 10years he was good to me but i wansnt happy(it wasnt love), so i divorced him now and this time i am the one who decides who to marrie and when! not sure if i ever wona get married again anyways lol
2007-03-02 23:50:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
follow your heart
2007-03-02 23:46:17 · answer #9 · answered by furmanator1957 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋