She stays away for up to a week, then comes home like nothing has happened. when confronted about her behaviour, she packs a few more things and off she goes again, Oh by the way It's all my fault.
2007-03-02 23:18:39 · 11 answers · asked by narelle p 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Of course its all your fault. I mean, you only gave BIRTH to her, right? You should talk to her like the adult she wants to be. Make her pay to stay there, lock her out if she doesnt want to stay, and be forcefully controlling later on if need be. I am only 26, but I have two boys, one of which is almost 12. I left home when I was twelve for 3 days. When I got home , my dad kicked my butt from here to tomorrow and whooped my cheeks with a belt. Though I dont suggest this, you need to invoke the fear of God into that girl. Otherwise, get ready to have one of your single male neighbors stuffing dollars down her thong in about 2 to 5 years. Unless shes not so inclined and then it might just be hooking up with every low life downright dirty dog in town because her mom or dad never strapped her a$$ or taught her life is going to suck ALOT worse outside of the home, than inside it with mom and dad.
Of course, what do I know, I'm just a kid too, right?
2007-03-02 23:28:58 · answer #1 · answered by B Rock 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See you answered your own question. Your fault you say.
Well do not believe that one. I was one of those that ran a few times and finally ran and didn't go back. I blamed everyone and everything for a while but It was the fact i did not know how to deal with family. That was it for me. I honestly wanteed to be part of the family but always seemed to mess things up and cause my sibs to give me a real bad time. What do we do" We run if we can.
I didn't get along with my parents very well either but again that was the normal thing of thinking I was grown and did not have to anseer to them. Yes it was wrong.
As for your daughter I do not know. The fact she can run and be gone for a week and come home again has a lot to say.
She has a place or more than one place to go where people will side with her not knowing the complete story. They will give her what she needs and probably even more. That makes it very easy for her to defy you. I do not know how you can convince the people that protect her to stop doing that. They are as much the blame as your daughter.
I had no place to be protected and spent time in jail until they could figure out waht to do with me. I lived in the woods for a few months and other events I sure would not want to do agaon.
Believe me I did not have bad parents. not at all. They both were great people and tried very hard to understand and help.
Actually I have no real regrets because what was can not be changhed. I have had a very good life so far and hope to have another seventy years. Sure wuld be old.
2007-03-03 00:03:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids! (I have one of them too) If you change your behavior toward her she will stop at least for a minute and wonder what you are up to. Try calling her bluff. Tough love is hard but in some cases necessary. If she has no respect for rules in the house she sleeps and eats in then it's time to take a break from respecting her wants and wishes. Change the locks on the doors and do not give her a key. If she has a sibling, give them her room and pile all her stuff (unorganized) smack in the middle of the other. Do not set a place for her at the table. You get my drift... If she wants to act like being at home isn't important, then show her what she is missing. Always stay in control and if push comes to shove, call the cops and tell them you have a consistent run-a-way and she is "out of control". They will help you!
2007-03-02 23:35:33 · answer #3 · answered by rggiggles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have allowed this 16 year old to acquire a destructive habit of manipulating everyone by running away and she might as well just hold her breath and turn blue. She will do this in later life with her own family--watch and see---she is in need of a good smack but it's too late for that. In 2 years she can go away and stay away. I pity the girl for the future she faces. You are the parent--be one--but how you handle this is beyond me--where does she go? Friends? the friends are harboring a runaway--strictly illegal in most places--or is she with a guy?? Minors are taboo in that case. Good luck with this and be in peace as best as you can.
2007-03-02 23:53:30 · answer #4 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a 22yrs old (female) and I think that you need to let her know who is boss! You take that girl and you bend her over your knee and spank her spoiled ass! Who is the parent here? Where is the discipline? Everyone is so worried about getting in trouble for disciplining there children....Thank of it this way what trouble are you going to be in or even her since you are not enforcing discipline? Your daughter could end up being mugged, raped, a drug addict, an alcoholic, molested, murdered. Is that what you want for her....I am assuming the answer is no. She will hate you for it now but she will love it 5-10yrs down the road when she See's how her old running buddies ended up!
2007-03-03 00:01:55 · answer #5 · answered by Cymanthia A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who says you need to stop her! The game get old im sure! So next time help her pack if shes threating to run away! And ask her to call you when she gets where shes going cuz its not a safe would! And that you will pray for her safe keeping! And help her out the door!And that you will wecome her back as soon as shes ready to follow the house rules!
Ive had my 12 year old let me shes running away! and i say good bye call me later! She walks out the door for 5 min. and comes back! And i say wow that was a short time what went wrong? And she will reply oh its cold outside etc. Sometimes i think she just needs a couple min. to relax and think!~
2007-03-03 00:11:19 · answer #6 · answered by smfry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh boy... this IS a problem!!! she must be really spoilt to be doing this to you, she shouldnt be doing this, you're the parent, you lay the grounds!!! it may be your fault because all parents do things that we kids hate to protect us, but it doesnt give us the right to behave in such a manner!!! try speaking with her, ask her if she prefers and is ready to live an independent life without you and your husband. she may want to, to run away from her problems, but deep down she doesnt want to. does she have a grandparent or aunt and uncle she can live with for a few days, maybe you two just need some time apart. stand your ground.
in my country, our parents beat us if we do such things, i'm glad for that because i probably would have runaway long ago and regret it. p.s im not telling you to beat her
2007-03-02 23:30:40 · answer #7 · answered by *grid_iron gurl* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need Dr.Phil and that's not a joke your daughter has gotten out of control and there are a lot of wackos out there that could reach her.
2007-03-03 00:36:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your fault for not laying down the rules and showing her just who the boss is in your house. If I had tried that with my parents, they would of kicked my ass and rightly so.
2007-03-02 23:23:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why would you say it's your fault?
Let her live with the consequences of her decisions. You can't decide how she wants to live her life. She's old enough to think for herself.
2007-03-02 23:24:34 · answer #10 · answered by cchinitaa 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋