My mum shouts at me for no reason and she likes my sisters she never shout at them and i get blamed for stuff they did. What can i do? My mum doesn't care about my eplanatins.
2007-03-02 23:13:03 · 22 answers · asked by asin k 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Hate and anger is proportionately related to one's love and fondness. So if your mother shouts at you she loves you more than others. At the sametme try to understand her feelings and what is expected of you. Then she will definitely show you more fondness and be good at you also.
2007-03-02 23:45:42 · answer #1 · answered by sampath k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No hun, she doesn't hate you. That is a very strong word. I'm thinking you are the oldest?
Stop with the excuses of what she is accusing you of. It doesn't do any good and makes things worse whether you are to blame or not.
Try doing something really nice for her...morning coffee, cook dinner, big hugs and saying "I love you" will bring the bond back to a place where you can sit down and have a chat with her explaining how you feel. Once you two are having a good day, tell her that you need some advice....a friend of yours is having trouble at home with her mother and thinks that the mother likes her brothers and sisters more. Once you get into the conversation, then confess that this girl is you. I wish you all the best! Good luck!
2007-03-02 23:21:50 · answer #2 · answered by rggiggles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm... Sometimes we all get feelings like this from the person we love because we care that much about their opinions of us...
You know what I think though? I think she shouts at you the most because she views you as actualy the most responsible sensible one of them. This is why she probably wants you to be the best!
Believe me, when a mother shouts at you for any reason, it is because she cares about you and wants the best for you. However, this may not be the right way to show you that, but she may not realise it.
My advice would be for you to confront her and share your feelings with her.
You'd be surprised at how much she'd actualy understand.
Good Luck
2007-03-02 23:23:55 · answer #3 · answered by . 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry there buddy. I hope you can talk to your mum and ask her that same question. She probably does love you, in a different way MORE than your sisters. But she cant act that way, now can she? I love both of my kids very much, but they get me mad sometimes. It certainly doesnt mean I hate them. Ask your mum to have a talk before you go to bed or something. Good luck.
2007-03-02 23:20:28 · answer #4 · answered by B Rock 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I get mad sometimes with my kids but i definitely don't hate them parents don't always get things right you know we are learning better ways to do things all the time please talk to your mum and tell her how you feel i'm sure she will feel awful and try not too shout at you so much good luck and loads of hugs to you :)
2007-03-02 23:36:29 · answer #5 · answered by clare w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand totally. My mother valued my sister more than me also. She would deny it if she was questioned about it though. Personally, I just think she likes girls more. For example, when my sister got pregnant my mom dreamed about having a granddaughter. She never spoke about a grandson.
Currently I am a counselor and I work with emotionally disturbed kids. This is more common than you think... parents having favorites and other kids in the house become black sheep regardless of how they behave. Its a sad situation and takes a toll on self-esteem.
Bottom line, value yourself regardless of what your mother thinks and dont let her attitude ruin you if you are a good person.
This isnt Shane is it? (There was a kid I worked with a couple years back that sounds like this story... wonderful kid but crappy mother.)
By the way, not all mothers love their kids. In a perfect world, thats true, however, this isnt a perfect world. If you think that is true come work with the kids I work with and then you'll be thinking how ignorant you are for stating that comment.
CounselorDan
2007-03-02 23:22:21 · answer #6 · answered by CounselorDan 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should tell your mum that she feels this way. Maybe she does not realize it. But if you know that you have not done anything wrong then maybe its something else. Every mother loves her child. Not to worry. No matter what, a mother will never hate her children.
2007-03-02 23:20:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
"MOTHER " is always a "MOTHER" with out her you won't have come to this world. All mothers in this world doesn't hate their at all ,if she shout at her children she is trying to correct her child for being spoil ed. For a Mother a child is always a child he or she may be a cheat a culprit ,a murderer, a thief ,a drunkard some kind of moron etc.
2007-03-02 23:23:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she probably picks on you because she may trust you more than your other sisters, she doesnt want you to lose that quality that she sees in you. she loves you and dont let her shouting get to you!!! in the end, when you're married, you two will recall these encounters and she will be closer to you than your other sisters.
2007-03-02 23:19:26 · answer #9 · answered by *grid_iron gurl* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
every mother loves their children. No matter what. Always remember that. I'm sure your mother do that because she loves you more than other siblings. Parents have their own way showing their love and teach their children. Don't feel so bad, ok
2007-03-02 23:23:21 · answer #10 · answered by MiSz JaY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋