I'm 26 and my boyfriend of over 3 yrs, who's 32, lives about 6 hrs away from me. He visits me about once in 2 mnths for about 2 days. However, over the past yr, though he is busy with work and his family, every time he promises to come - he misses his mode of transport. I was left waiting for him at the airport this morning, and when I called him, he lied first saying his flight was rescheduled and then told me he was ill, and slammed the phone down on me. There have been countless times when I have been awaiting his arrival and he just doesn't show up and informs me about an hour or so later. Sometimes he will come in that evening, or the next day.
I really do look forward to seeing him and I can't help but feel very hurt when he calmly tells me that he missed his flight and will make it later, that day, perhaps.
I was extremely upset this morning! Should I end this relationship - I love him very much
2007-03-02 22:24:40 · 9 answers · asked by Exotic_beauty 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dear, Dear,Dear
It's alright to take the blind fold off now........
Move around, he is.....
2007-03-02 22:30:18 · answer #1 · answered by inthrutheoutdoor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have been with him 3 years and this is how he has treated you. What do you find in this man that you love about? How can a man that loves you not call ahead of time that he'll be late or that he won't be able to make it. This is called common courtesy! Your so called boyfriend doesn't have any. If you love this man and want to try and work it out you need to have a serious conversation and see where his thoughts are about your relationship because from the sounds of it you guys are on two totally separate pages.
You have been with this man for 3 years and to me it sounds like you've hit a dead end and your not moving anywhere. Do you really want to invest anymore time in a relationship on a man that doesn' t seem to care about how you feel? Or even give you the common courtesy like any human being would to tell you that he won't make his flight or will be late?
How much of this will you take? It sounds like your just his call girl. You need to find a man that is going to invest just as much time into the relationship as you are.
2007-03-02 22:47:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's using you. He has another girlfriend, but also wants to see you and be with you. Now it's getting too difficult to manage all the lies and acting that are involved. It's no longer convenient for HIM to see you. It's all about him, to him. You are his play toy. You need to dunp his butt, you deserve much better than him. You are not a high priority for him, and never will be. I'm so sure it hurts, a lot. So be sad and cry, for a little while. Then get mad, for a little while. Then get over it and move on. Hopefully you'll find someone out there that will REALLY love you and that will take care of you the way you deserve.
2007-03-02 22:31:36 · answer #3 · answered by jimmyjohn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you make the decision to end it have you ever considered other options such as one of you moving closer to each other or having an open relationship? Are you sure that he feels as strongly for you as you do for him? Also, 3 years is a long time to be with someone. Do either of you plan on taking it any further than what it already is? Not trying to make you doubt your relationship but these are some things that you should ask yourself. Re-evaluate your relationship.
2007-03-02 22:32:36 · answer #4 · answered by sdj4ever 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen, I hate hearing stories like this, but let me lay it on you as objectively as possible. You are a young woman who has many opportunities everyday to do what you want and be with anyone, especially if you live in a big town. Beyond the fact that I have NEVER heard of a 30+ man living far away from his girlfriend at LONG lengths of time before seeing said girlfried again, and DOESNT cheat on her, doesnt mean its not possible. Its possible, but VERY, VERY unlikely. You have plenty to worry about, and cheating aside, if you are not even worth the time to be AROUND, then you have no reason to stay with this guy. I am supposing that you have no control or even access to any of his personal information. Access to his cell phone security code, or pin number at the bank, or keys to his house, or anything? What about his internet accounts? Have you checked those lately? Listen sweetheart, I'm sure you love him, but as I am sure MANY people, your friends, have told you, you deserve better. I can't imagine what my wife would do if something like THAT was going on with us. She hates me anyway, but that's a different story. Ditch the jerk. Like Tina Turner said, "What's Love Got To Do With It?"
2007-03-02 22:43:33 · answer #5 · answered by B Rock 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES! End this relationship, please.
Don't wait, no matter how much you love him, yet from his actions, he don't love you like before.
Remember, don't give him the chance to say "I am leaving you.", dumn him before his next move.
Go look for someone better, you deserve someone better!
2007-03-02 22:44:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is seeing someone else,but doesnt know how to tell u.I think u shd have a candid talk with him and split up amicably.u love him alot,but dont let urself be taken for a ride.
2007-03-02 22:28:19 · answer #7 · answered by traces 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take the hint - leave
do not throw your pearl before swine
2007-03-02 22:28:04 · answer #8 · answered by tomkat1528 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not your boyfriend. keep it moving.
2007-03-02 22:33:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋