My friend met this girl who he happens to like very much but there's one problem... she has 6 kids. He doesn't have any plus he has no desire to have any in the future. But he really likes this girl so he ask me what would i do? (My first thought was post this up on "yahoo answers" and see what the SURVEY SAYS...
2007-03-02 22:11:22 · 14 answers · asked by B. Gregory 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My friend has read some of these answers and he thinks you all have great answers down there! He wants to pick the answer that suites him best. Thanks for the help guys!
2007-03-03 11:21:56 · update #1
Her kids are a part of her. He has to understand that if it is going to let it get serious with her he will have to accept them. Otherwise dont waste each others time.
That said my grandfather married my grandmother when she had 4 kids. They were verry happily married for 30+ years and had one more kid. He was a good father figure and treated everyone the same.
2007-03-02 22:17:05 · answer #1 · answered by ☺☻☺☻☺☻ 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
In the end it's not just about him and her, it is about him, her and the six children, whether he likes it or not. If he doesn't want kids in the future, why would he want to take on the responsibility of not one, or two, or three but six children? He couldn't seriously expect not to become at least a part-time guardian if he dates her does he?
It doesn't matter if they're married or not as far as I'm concerned it's a package deal and you can't want one and not take the others. If he's not into parenting, then he needs to find someone who doesn't have any children.
I'd also like to think that the mother of these children would also like to know that he is willing to accept all that comes with her as she'd find it hard to be with someone who wants her, but not her children. I would tell him not to do it because if he isn't into handling the responsibility of being there for kids who are going to look up to him as a male role model (if they don't have one) then for their sake he needs to move along.
2007-03-03 06:39:41 · answer #2 · answered by dirkthesmirk 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Six kids? Geez, a person can barely deal with having two of their own kids, how would someone be able to deal with another person's 6 kids? Just think of the economic stress it would be to have to be responsible for caring for that many kids, not to mention the constant hassle of their conflicts with one another and having to be responsible for rearing them to be responsible adults. Most people have a hard time dealing with someone who has two or three children that are not their own. You would have to have a job that would make about $75,000 a year just to make ends meet. Money issues would keep them from being happy. I don't think he would be happy because he doesn't want kids in the first place.
2007-03-03 06:18:53 · answer #3 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to be honest with her and tell her he really likes her and her company, but when it comes to any long term commitment, he's not the one, because he doesn't want any kids, much less 6 of them! Maybe they can be close friends and companions and share some good times together.
2007-03-03 06:26:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt date hr if iam in his place .... she has 6 kids for gods sake 1- lots of responsibility 2- another economy for these 6 3- and u know the rets of the problems.......... he will really suffer if he dated her may be he will be happy at the begining but after a month or two he will severly change his mind
2007-03-03 06:17:33 · answer #5 · answered by goku 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my goodness.. waahhaaat???
6 it's so six..
well if he wants her he has to want that 6.. A package of 7 is what he will get from this girl.
i'l think about it a hundred times.
2007-03-03 06:23:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he like her so must do your friend every like kids at all could he know the girl dozen have 6 kids so if he take the girl he take the kids to
2007-03-03 06:18:29 · answer #7 · answered by EVA J 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he allow to himself to have baby carry his name.. or raise the other kids.. it's not one or two it's 6.. he can pay to the 6 kids..
what the aim from friendship? what the future? let him think about that see what he will decide.
2007-03-03 06:47:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I totally wouldn't. 6 is way too many. Hasn't she heard of contraceptives?. Sounds like a classy lady. NOT!
2007-03-03 06:16:30 · answer #9 · answered by ladybugewa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he doesn't want kids in the future then why would he go out with someone with 6 kids....she deserves someone who adores kids and wants them in his life...and so do they......tell him to find someone else to date....
2007-03-03 06:15:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋