help me out?

Question

my brother and i used to be so very close. because of a father that split when we were toddlers and an abusive mom, we bonded and were insepratable even thru highschool. my brother was like my best friend whom i could speak to about everything...well he got married about 1 year ago. and started acting really distant to me not calling or awnsering my calls or e mails. turns out his wife did not like me for no reason. now she has convinced him I am some shallow mean person because i keep up on my apperance,like got my lips done ext...anyhow i emailed my bro to tell him i thought he was cold and insensitive to treat me this way and drop me like a bad habit. she wrote back saying i am cruel and she would erase my email and not even tell him i wrote him. why is she against me talking to my brother. why would she hate me so much. my brother does have my name tatooed on his arm? could this be why. also my brother out of no where said if she doesnt like me than i cant come around?

Answer 1

"she wrote back saying i am cruel and she would erase my email and not even tell him i wrote him."

Show that to your brother so he knows what kind of deceitful person he married.

Tell your brother you miss him, the distance between the two of you is painful, you love him enough to respect his wishes, and that you'll always be there for him.

Call him every year on his birthday, Christmas & Thanksgiving to say hi.

Chances are, his current wife is a manipulating, two-faced, selfish beast that he will eventually separate from, and you'll be there to catch him when he falls... and to say "I told ya so."

;)

Answer 2

Honey, I'm sorry you're going through this. That is so hard when you feel like the one person you can count on isn't there for you anymore. I would bet that your brother still loves you very much but is going through some tough emotions. The first year of marriage can be very, very difficult. He loves his wife, and he loves you. If for some reason she is turned against you, and doesn't like him to talk to you, he may be avoiding you to keep the peace at home. This isn't fair, but he has to live with this woman, and it's a hard decision to make. There a couple things that you can do, which are very difficult, but they are the only things that work, to restore a relationship. First, you have to forgive your brother. Even if he's wrong and you're right. You don't have to tell him you forgive him, but in your own heart and mind, you have to really forgive him and mean it. You have to pray for your brother and his wife. Pray blessings over them and pray that the love of Jesus Christ would abound in their hearts. The more you pray for them, the more you will love them. Also, the more you pray for them, the more you will see a real change in the way they treat you. The first thing I would do is write a list of all the things that your brother and his wife have done to make you angry and sad. Then I would go through each one, and say, "Jesus, I forgive my brother, or I forgive his wife, for what they did to me." If you don't feel like forgiving them, ask Jesus to give you His heart for them. Ask Him to help you love and forgive them. This only works if you have accepted Jesus Christ into your heart and confessed that He is your savior. Once you do that, you will be given everlasting life - you will never die! Jesus will give you His own nature to love and He can work powerfully in your life for His purposes through prayer.

Answer 3

I hate to say this but it sounds like right now your relationship with your brother is dead in the water, and through really no fault of yours.

I would say that at this time even though it's hard, let it go and move on in your life. I think that as he grows older he will grow up and come to realize that he miss you, his sister.

Some times people get so wrapped up in their relationships that they forget about the people who really mean the most to them. He is some what stuck, as he did take a new wife and she is obviously on the selfish side.

I hate to say this but it is true ( I mean no disrespect to any one) most men do not grow up, mature until they are much older. He probably will have to get to that point before, he can see that he really does have room in his life for both his wife and other family members.

Until then move on in your life, I know that it hurts you but believe me he will be back in your life again very soon. As I said he just needs to grow up and stop letting his wife control his every move. She sounds like a totally immature, jealous woman.

Good luck, you will be alright just give your self some time. God will be with you through this, just stay strong and believe.

Answer 4

Your brother perhaps said that because he fears angering his wife. No matter what you will still be his sister and he knows this. He and his wife might are on rough times and it will take her to go through understanding of you. Maybe confront the problem if practicable.

Mostly I would pray God touchers her heart and that the spirit of understanding comes through for you two.

Answer 5

You are fighting a losing battle as he is pu*sy whipped. One day that witch will leave and your brother will be very sorry he threw you out of his life and I can't wait, stupid man. Obviously his wife is extremely jealous of the love he has for you or I should say had. He is a traitor God bless you darlin

Answer 6

That's really an unfortunate situation. If you haven't already tried, I would take him out to lunch and have a heart-to-heart chat with him and find out what can be done to remedy the situation. You are his sister. Of course he loves you and wants to do what he can to keep you in his life.

Answer 7

is your brothers wife threating to leave him if he ever talks to you? have you ever tried to go to his home and try to take to him?. but then there is the tatoo on his arm of your name so she could be jealous

Answer 8

YES ITS HARD TO UNDERSTAND BUT I AM REALLY YOUR DAD