and the guy promise to get a divorce from her wife but the wife doesn't want to.
2007-03-02 21:33:14 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he and his wife are not living together.. the other one is in a different country
2007-03-02 21:45:36 · update #1
Think about if you where that wife, how you would feel about a mistress?
2007-03-02 21:36:26 · answer #1 · answered by MJ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been through this kind of relationship, having affair with married man with 3 kids. My advices, don't believed all the promises, they just want to have fun and try to walk away from marriage problems. You'll never find happiness by being a mistress in fact people also will label you as a wedding crasher. Moreover how can u get happiness while other people keep cursing on you. Just think the feeling of his wife and kids. If the guy can having another affair while he's still married, it wouldn't be surprising if he do the same thing to you too.
2007-03-02 22:19:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anne Nurainne 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should first put yourself in this man's mind. He wants his wife AND you. Basically, he wants his cake and eat it too! Of course his wife doesn't want a divorce - Do you know if there are children involved? If you were to make the wise decision of leaving this man, you would prevent the destruction of a famiy unit. Would you like your father to leave your mother for another woman? It's highly unpleasant and you come across as 'desperate and dirty'. There are plenty of men out there and you could be with a man who's willing to give you ALL of his attention.
In this situation, I have more synpathy for the wife, who must be going through so much. You should try to contact her and apologise to her because she deserves that much!
Girls like you need to realise that being a mistress isn't quite how it is in the movies - All men love to get what they can. How do you know that if he does divorce his wife that he won't go and find another woman when he's your partner?
Open your eyes and get out while you can. You clearly have no idea of what you're doing and it is quite pathetic to say the least.
2007-03-02 21:49:02 · answer #3 · answered by diamante_sheeny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think the wife loves him, and wants to keep her family together. think if the wife can hang in there long enough with neither filing for divorce he will eventually come back hone and leave the mistress. being a mistress is a hard road, as she may only get the crumbs and morsels he throws her way, afternoon delights, romance behind closed doors, secretive things, she also must consider that what she is doing is so wrong, he is telling her what he needs to so she will be available when he wants her.
2007-03-02 21:40:23 · answer #4 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it and don't think for a minute that his promises are any good. Nine times out of ten he is just trying to get you on a string and use you and he will and has no intention of ever getting a divorce from his wife. He just wants a sex partner on the side and cares little about your feelings.
2007-03-02 21:36:38 · answer #5 · answered by Lewis P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would you want to be with a guy who can give in to the appeal of a mistress and cheat without a guilty concience or leave you anyway? Have a good think about whether or not this guy is really legit with you
2007-03-02 21:46:46 · answer #6 · answered by Bambi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mistress, equals Skank! It's the only REAL way to look at it. You're better than that. Tell The Clown to get it over? And then you'll do Lunch. Not before! Now go out and show yourself, some Respect. `Cause Clown ain't got any for you.
2007-03-02 21:40:25 · answer #7 · answered by Goggles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Na, This is a no win battle. Get the HELL out of there before you really get hurt. Most men who cheat will not divorce their wives. It's just how things are. So move on while you can.
A Friend.
Clowmy
2007-03-02 21:39:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad idea....i wudnt wanna be that !! I mean...wat if he doesnt get a divorce ???? You will be stranded....so rather be free or be ready for a terrible situation !!! though if ur guy does come to u...u're Lucky !
2007-03-02 21:41:40 · answer #9 · answered by ღ♥*~Samantha*~♥ღ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A complicated life ... search for simplest.
2007-03-02 21:37:20 · answer #10 · answered by Sara007 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋