Our relationship is online,and we have never met in person,but been seing each other online for abt a yr now.but he still wont leave me cos he thinks he wont find anyone else.And on my part,i stayed with him cos i am very lonely.I live in a foreign country all by myself,and i hardly have friends,and i donot like the guys of the foreign country,so i found it hard to find a relationship here.I am of a race diff from the country i am living with now,so though i like thier cultureand other stuff,i do not like thier attitude towards dating,so i wont date any of them,but i respect them.Everytime i threaten to leave him,he threatens suicide,but i know all the love i felt for him is gone.i know if i leave him i will be very lonely,but i dont love him anymore,and i cant even be nice to him these days,but when i talk of breakup,he accuses me of seeing a new guy,which isnt true.I once did,but thats was then,and i know he never got over that.I am really confused,shd i lleave him and be lonely?
2007-03-02 21:23:06 · 8 answers · asked by traces 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like he uses the suicide as a means of controlling you. The smartest thing to do is end contact with him. You will probably be lonely for a while, but you'll get over it. Besides, it's better to be lonely with the chance to meet sombody that's right for you, than to be stuck in a dead relationship with somebody that's all wrong
2007-03-02 21:31:39 · answer #1 · answered by Luviticus 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, if you never met in person how can you have a real relationship with him? maybe if you guys met, that would help?
what if you just say you dontknow what you want, but that this isnt really working... and that you just want some time to yourself?
lonely or leave? cant you just slowly build down your relationship, dont be that nice to him.. speak less.. make him like you less and for him to break up with you.. its not like there is someone else in your life...
the other country thing, if your lonely, go home!! if you can
2007-03-02 21:36:17 · answer #2 · answered by Simone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are sure that you don't love him anymore, YES, leave him.
BUT... wait for some time, maybe a week, try not to contact him and not replying to him at all, see what happens. Do you miss him? If so, then is better not to give up. Yet, you don't miss him at all, only got a feeling of lonely, then, is the time to make the final decision, get away rom him and move on!
Hope this helps.
2007-03-02 21:31:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry for you, because you can not love some one you don't even know or have even seen That's not love You may have cared a lot but that's it.
The guy is a loser and hes guilt tripping you and its working never talk to him again forget you even spoke to him Move on ASAP you don't need this sort of crap hes just messing with your head Good luck
2007-03-02 21:35:42 · answer #4 · answered by deb m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry but this relationship is dodgy from the start don't let him threaten suicide stop talking to him if you are so lonely and unhappy in the place you now live save your money and try to move away good luck and try to find friends and a genuine lover :)
2007-03-02 21:28:09 · answer #5 · answered by clare w 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand how tough this situation for you...but never love someone out of pity coz it will just make things worse. You better tell him the truth before its too late. Don't stay just because you are lonely, trust me, its not really good to use someone to fill your loneliness...because you are just giving them false hope. Talk to him and make him understand.
I hope things will be ok soon. :)
2007-03-02 21:33:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hiya there, the guy is an absolute PLONKER,,hes a havering *** hole, hes probably got two or three different women online? and telling yez all the same stuff? maybe its his way of only getting and keeping a woman?lol, hes messing with yer head and yer emotions, jist dont bother with him? and put up that thingy mi jig to block him seeing when you are on line. theres plenty of decent folk on line, without ending up with a saddo?lol take care, derek
2007-03-02 21:42:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um Yeah. It's bound to happen sooner or later.
2007-03-02 21:28:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋