should you smack your kids?

Question

to discipline my 13 children i somtimes get the old trusty metal studded belt out and give them a little smack on the botty, i was smacked as a wee boy and it never did me no harm, discuss.

Answer 1

A little slap on the back of the legs with your HAND is OK. But it is only a SADISTIC person that would use a weapon on a child

Answer 2

Why do you get so frustrated with your children that you want to hit them with a belt? What is wrong with YOU? 13 children?? No wonder you are frustrated. What were you thinking? Are you so damaged that you can't find another way to deal with children to resolve issues? Obviously the smacking you got as a wee boy did more damage than you realize. Open your eyes and take a look at yourself and make a change for your children's sake. Obviously any child who is being parented by such a frustrated individual would act out more than a child being parented by someone who handled their frustration better.

Answer 3

Of course you getting wacked as a child did you harm because you are repeating that cycle of abuse. Why would you use such a weapon if you are only giving them a little smack? Why not just use the palm of your hand. Are you feeling insecure in some part of your life that you have to use that weapon of choice.
...No you should not smack your kids. We are supposed to bring children up, not bring them down.
If you smack a child once and they do the same thing again and again and you continue to smack the child, what lesson is being taught. If a child doesn't learn after the first smack, then that proves that smacking does not work. stop being a child abuser and learn how to disipline your child properly. Smacking is the lazy man's way of disipline and it is abuse.

Answer 4

This is a touchy question for some people. I don't believe in beating a child, but a spanking sometimes gets the point across better. It depends on the situation. Kids today don't have a real grasp on final consequneces...like permanent injury or death.
Kids of yesteryear knew that there were dangers if they did not listen to their parents. They learned what death was at a young age. We shelter our kids from that these days---which might not be to thier benefit.

I rarely spank my kids, but when they do get spanked it's because they did or attempted to do something that might put themselves or another person in a position that might harm them or the other person permanently.
Here's an example. When my daughter was young, I tried to drill it into to her head not to run out into the road as she could be severely hurt or killed. Kids cannot even begin to grasp what this means. Well, one day she bolted out onto a road during a busy time. All the warnings I gave her about not running into the road went out the window. I was standing there ordering her to stop, but she defiantly ignored me.
She got her butt warmed that day, but I can tell you that she never did it again. Yes it hurt. That was the point, but it didn't hurt her half as much as the next oncoming car might have harmed her.
I can give another example where a good ol' fashioned spanking might've prevented the death of my mom's cousin. My mom's cousins were repeatedly told to stay out of the spring house on my grandparents farm. Kids are naturally curious, but sometimes this can be a liability. During the summer drought season, the spring house had to be open for necessity. My mom and her siblings knew that this place was off limits. Her cousins didn't listen. My mom's six-year-old cousin accidently fell into the cistern of the spring house and drown. Had she been spanked the first time she was found in that area, she may still be alive today. At six years, she had no idea what drwoning meant, but she would definitely not have forgotten a thorough spanking and probably would've stayed clear of the spring house after the first time she was told not to go near it.

Answer 5

Smack? No.

I AM an advocate of spanking though, so long as you don't go overboard. Too many young parents like to think they can bring up their children "right" through simple reasoning, but at such an early age, all children can understand is consequences. THEY are the center of the Universe, so they can't even comprehend if their behavior is socially unacceptable. They need to be shown that if they do something the parents don't want them to do, their Universe will be hurting.


EDIT: Carefully look over every answer here. Those who approve of spanking are deemed by society as politically incorrect (despite the sense they make), and are therefore getting all thumbs-downs. :P

Answer 6

Thats it time out for you!! Go stand in the corner! How about I give you a smack with that belt and see how you like it!

Answer 7

i was never hit by my parents and it has never done me any wrong. i was a perfectly behaved child and if i ever did do anything wrong then i was deprived of something i wanted to do, for example - go out with my friends. or i was sent to my room. i learnt my lesson this way and i never made that mistake again as i knew the consequences. im not saying you shouldnt hit your children but i think the studded belt is going too far. its verging on child abuse

Answer 8

i dont believe in beating a child or leaving marks but mild physical discipline shouldnt be a problem though i think the metal studded belt should be left out of the equation you want to get their attention not hurt them

Answer 9

I personally don't think there anything wrong with it, and the bible tells us to but , to use a studded belt! I would think that was a bit to much, the belt alone or hand will work, don't leave a mark that will be abuse . You have to be careful now you can get locked up...

Answer 10

why do you need a belt?smacking does nothing but knocks the devil into them.children associate smacking with pain not discipline,their are other ways to discipline them.

Answer 11

it doesn't work on all kids, some it just doesn't sink in and exclusion works better. different kids react different and i think if it works as a deterent, especially just the threat of it, then its up to the parents to decide. however i think a studded belt might be a bit much!