okay.. this is the problem, my bf never makes time for me.. and i mean MAKES time.. When i ask him what are you doing saterday.. he's like "well i am free... i think" meaning he has nothing planned but if someone comes allong and ask him.. he will go with them instead of saying, i have time and we can hang out or do something and when someone comes allong say he cant, because he is seeing his gf...
Do you get where i am going.. its like i am the last thing on his list and when he is bored and cant find anything else... than he has time for me!!! He never makes time!
and the only thing we ever do is hang infont of the tv and make out, so i want to go and do things.. then he says "sure we can... what do you want to do... i cant think of anything!" It like he cant even put in the effort to think of something.. i can, again...
Do you say my problem? i am right? Are all guys like this? What can i do? should i tell him how i feel? I really want him to realise without telling him.
2007-03-02 21:02:25 · 12 answers · asked by Simone 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hi Simone
I can see where your going with your questions and i don't think dumping someone you love is as easy as the previous answerers think nor do i think it's the answer your looking for.
the only way your going to change things is to be up front with him, tell him you don't mind him having time out with his friends but not at your expense, if he values your relationship he should put in some time, and it don't have to cost a fortune to do something special together, If he won't make the effort you'll need to tell him Don't organise anything for saturday cos your taking me to the movies/dancing etc Then if he chooses to still go out with mates in preferance to you then you know you have problems but give him a chance first, sometimes guys are the last to know what their girls want lol
hope this is of some help Simone and i hope all goes well for you
Paul
2007-03-02 21:26:02 · answer #1 · answered by paul R 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi Simon, I don't know if you are a boy or girl,but you did mention he was seeing his girlfriend. It really doesn't matter. He only has time when he has nothing at all to do. This guy is really full of it. Kick is a s s to the hub,and find someone who will make time for you in his life,and treat you fairly with out asking him to do this. Don't let a person treat you like a door mat, you don't have to take that kind of treatment. So yes, move on and start having some fun in your life. A Friend.
Clowmy
2007-03-03 05:14:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you think the guy really likes you or love you? Coz i think if he does, he wouldn't make you feel like that. He would at least devote some of his time to you, call you or something. I think, you better talk with him... Ask him where this relationship is going... Coz if he just sees you as a last resort when he has nothing to do, then he really doesn't care about you. Some guys are just too numb to feel anything going wrong. If you think he doesn't put an effort putting your relationship as one of his priorities then i think something needs to be done. Just talk to him and make things clear... Maybe you can still save your sinking relationship...
2007-03-03 05:11:26 · answer #3 · answered by roma_balbin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as though he is just using you when he is bored and I don't think this is a guy you really want to get involved with at the present. I would not want to feel like a leftover for anyone and I don't think you do either. Don't you want someone who will think of you and care for you and put you first and love to be with you and have fun with you and do things with you? Of course you do and so do all of us. Do move on and find someone who will put you first and enjoy being with you.
2007-03-03 05:10:53 · answer #4 · answered by Lewis P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're absolutely right. I think maybe you should dump him, he sounds way too immature.
Maybe he has another girlfriend, and you're just second on his list, and that's why you have to wait in line...
If he really cared about you, what you wanted would come first. Maybe you should dump him and find someone else... I would NEVER put up with that sort of behavior.
2007-03-03 05:07:27 · answer #5 · answered by kenniemcooper 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is good to have a bit on the side like you for those times when there is nothing or person better to do. You are always available and that suits me. Make sure you buy those new condoms Ive got nothing much doing tonight after 10pm
2007-03-03 05:12:32 · answer #6 · answered by burning brightly 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well obviously you are young so don't start your life off dating guys who are not for you just so you are with someone.....set some standards and stick to them......If you are going to be "in a relationship" or have a bf then he needs to put you right near the very top of his priority list or don't be his gf....get my drift here...if you get comfy with being treated this way and allow it to happen, it will become a lifetime pattern for you.....move on...find someone who wants to live and experience the fun in life and who will care enough to want to do that with you...good luck
2007-03-03 05:08:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not all guys are like that. Dump him and tell him why. You need someone who likes to spend time with you and puts you first...not someone who puts you on the back burner.
He is immature AND inconsiderate!
2007-03-03 05:06:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
was gonna go into it and deeply explain how ..... but hey, JOHN M's answer is bang on, couldnt say it any better myself .... kick it to the kirb baby he aint worth the effort
2007-03-03 05:10:21 · answer #9 · answered by Doc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes u should tell him because he will never feel it by himself
2007-03-03 05:09:05 · answer #10 · answered by cocazy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋