i've been dating a man who is 15 years older than me. we used to work at the same restaurant, i left a couple of weeks ago. a female customer who knows both of us, and is aware we are together started coming in about a month ago. neither of us had met her before this. he told me tonight that she has kissed/pecked him on the lips when she leaves the bar a few times. i said that hearing that made me uncomfortable and hurt my feelings a bit. i further explained that i was primarily offended that she would take this liberty with him knowing full well that he is my boyfriend. he told me i was naive, silly and juvinile. he refused to even acknowledge the fact that my feelings were hurt. i explained that i would never behave that way with another girls boyfriend. there was no crying involved. am i wrong for not approving of this girls behavior? oh, she has also come to him crying stating that she "loves sex". the whole thing doesn't sit well with me.
2007-03-02 20:15:46 · 11 answers · asked by eijan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your in the right and if he shows no more concern for your feelings than this than honestly you could do much better i'm sure.
-NmD!
2007-03-02 20:22:18 · answer #1 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How would he feel if it was the other way around? He might be innocent and this lady is stirring up trouble, believe me it happens a lot. As he is older than you by quite a bit, he may not see the need to get into an argument about this. A lot of people kiss each other good bye in this way but if it makes you uncomfortable, you should explain it to him in those words and if he still thinks nothing of it, you should maybe rethink if he is the ideal man for you.
2007-03-03 04:21:06 · answer #2 · answered by claire 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your question doesn't seem to tell the whole story. I couldn't give you a good anwser with out asking you some things. but I don't know you so I'll do the best I can
1. why do you feel the need to say that he is 15 years older then you? Is it because he called you " naive, silly and juvinile" okay...if you are with someone with that much of and age diffrance then it means the age thing doesn't bug you both- but it must bother him if he brings ity up in a way life that to you.
2. if you were both in love, no matter how silly it may have sounded to him that you didn't like that girl around him in that way he would respect you. end of story. he may have talked to you about it, or aked you why, but he would not call you names.
I think it doesn't matter what you hear on this- I have seen this over a 100 times. people that get in with a boyfriend or a gier friends who called them names and does not respect them, seem to keep this up their whole life.
I am sick of it. It is not hard to see when someone is not treating you in a way that you feel good about. heck your writing to a bunch of people on yahoo to see if your doing okay? your asking for doom. do not date people who make you seem like less of a person then you are. you will do what you want- but I don't know how anyone could do this to themselves. don't ever think he is doing anything wrong to you- your asking him to treat you like a "naive, silly and juvinile" person because a "grown up" will not deal with someone who calls them names and is spending time with a person who "comes to him crying stating that she 'loves sex'." but if you like being treated badly then just keep doing what your doing.
I know I don't know the whole story, but thats from what you gave me. you know the whole story. You know you chose to go as far as to ask people on yahoo. be truthful with yourself.
2007-03-03 04:33:24 · answer #3 · answered by JenGem 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see why some people wouldn't find anything wrong with kisses goodbye, but, if you have a problem with it, than he should respect it.
and, every time your upset about something, or have a problem, if he's gunna pull the "your just young and naive" card, than I would strongly suggest finding someone whose not gunna make you feel like a child. he's your boyfriend, not your father, he needs to respect that.
2007-03-03 04:25:14 · answer #4 · answered by Liz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as though you a jealous type individual. You need to understand that things like that can and do happen and that it is the worse thing you can do to let such things bother you. It would be different if he was seeing the girl on a regular basis and having an affair with her while caring about you but he is not. Don't let little things bother you and let him alone and if things work out......then fine and he should understand the same about you. Don't let the green monster destroy your relationship.
2007-03-03 04:50:35 · answer #5 · answered by Lewis P 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No you are not wrong, he is being naive and silly, if he don't know what's going on, He's flattered and needs to watch his step. You need to tell this women to back off. In a nice way, Yank her by the hair and tell her you are going rearrange her life if she don't stop it.
2007-03-03 04:24:52 · answer #6 · answered by Reta S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you arent wrong.i wouldnt want someone kissing my boyfriend.because sometimes a kiss can lead to something else.i didnt mean for that to sound wrong but sometimes it happens so you were right to be upset....also i noticed some people putting you shouldnt be dating him in the first place.they are wrong so dont listen to them..if you are in love dont pay any attention
2007-03-03 04:30:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have every right to feel the way you do, i bet he wouldn't like it if a guy kissed you on the lips? i hate women like that,
2007-03-03 04:20:14 · answer #8 · answered by fallen_angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first it is wrong of u chosing a man who is 15 yrs older than u for dating. this is too wrong.
2007-03-03 04:20:06 · answer #9 · answered by angel 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
try to get along with yourboy friend
2007-03-03 04:23:18 · answer #10 · answered by NQS 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋