im 14 and iv been going you with my boyfriend for 13 months and im thinking of sleeping with him. He'll be my first but im not sure.i trust him with all my heart but part of me really wants too but the other half is saying not to. i dont want to let him down... wat should i do?
2007-03-02 19:41:05 · 19 answers · asked by Lost 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
13 months isn't long enough. It takes about 2 years for it to be true love, sometimes longer.
Too many people these days rush ahead thinking it's love, when it's just one of the earlier/incomplete stages of love.
I'm assuming the age of consent where you are is 14 (or lower?). If you haven't reached the age of consent, then definitely do NOT have sex with him. But if you only want to SLEEP with him, then go ahead if you feel comfortable.
2007-03-02 19:53:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
" " " I am really impressed with every ones answer especially the guys I didn't know there were guys that thought that way " " "
Wow I can't believe you said that you don't want to let him down.
Is he a virgin ? that's the million dollar question. I know kids think that they know every thing and don't listen to adults advice. But you need to listen and listen real close. " " IF HE"S NOT A VIRGIN " " he hasn't been faithful to you, so you would be doing something like that because you think he cares for you.
If a boy has tried sex before believe me he's not going to go with a girl for 13 months that hasn't put out, with out getting it on the side that would be going totally against nature Don't think as you get older that a MAN couldn't hold out that long for a woman that he loves because a MAN will. I don't understand what you mean when you say ( I'm not sure I trust him ) I hope it's your bottom half that's saying no.
I don't know if any one has ever told you but for most girls sex is not a very good experience. Don't worry though the pain won't be long he'll be done real quick I promise.
2007-03-03 00:45:18 · answer #2 · answered by Shangrala 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fairy Girl, listen to what your real heart is saying that is that piece of you that you are calling the other half. That is your true heart calling you and saying I am not down with this line or script saying that I need to sleep with my boyfriend and if I don't I am letting him down. What about you letting yourself down and the people that know and trust you down(like your parents,and siblings.) Once you have sex a part of you is gone and missing forever and you can't take it certain mistakes back like a baby, an STD(such as AIDS, Herpes, or any other one.), the trauma of having to have an abortion, or putting a child up for adoption, or if none of those things happen a relationship that is no longer ( you are a child he is a child too, within a month his parents can decide to up and move and you can't control that.) or him having sex with you and dumping you for another girl the next day, week or year.
Bottom line: Sex is an adults only activity that too many teens get trapped into and they can't handle all of the consequences that comes with participation in that activity cause there are adults that can't handle Sex either.
2007-03-02 20:00:48 · answer #3 · answered by calmlikeatimebomb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No
You are much to young.
There are some nasty diseases out there, and think about accidently having a kid.
Babies are 24/7- never going out, having to change 6 to 10 diapers a day, feedings every three hours, not sleeping for more then three hours at a time for at least the firtst year.
The diseases are more then enough reasons to not have sex.
If he is pressuring you then tell him to leave, you don't need to do that, and if he loves you then he will not pressure you. Chances are you will not be with him for very much longer after you have sex anyways (most young lovers break up right after they have sex).
Done right sex is great, but is it worth doing at 13? No.
2007-03-02 19:46:42 · answer #4 · answered by Harmon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let yourself down!!!!
don't be a fool
have some respect for yourself
you wont like yourself much if you do
& in a very short time thats all he will want from you
keep yourself pure til you are married or over 21
that way you will be so proud of yourself & you can hold your head up & look back & say what a very nice decent girl you were & the boys respected you as well
2007-03-02 19:54:02 · answer #5 · answered by ausblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He would be letting you down by pushing you into having sex. For you first time you should be so in love that you have no doubt. I think at 14 you are a little young. You should think about what would happen if you get pregnant. Ask him what would happen if you did have sex and got pregnant. If you are very serious you should talk to your parent for birth control before you do anything. If you can't talk to your parent please go to planned parenthood and have them give you info about birth control they will help you out. You should have a pap smear done before having sex to make sure there is nothing wrong with you. I had friends in Jr high and high school that had babies and it was very hard for them.
2007-03-02 19:52:18 · answer #6 · answered by bubbles 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are only 14 do you realy think you can make such a big decision? I dont think you should believe me when it happens there is no going back, I made that mistake when I was 15 I am 22 now and I still regret that day. I thought we will be together forever but we werent. If he realy cares for you he will understand and respect your decision.
2007-03-02 19:47:46 · answer #7 · answered by Angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound confused. With a decision as big as this, it is always best to wait until you are really sure. Dont try to talk yourself into it. You will know when and if it feels right. If he is the right guy for you, he wont be let down if you say you want to wait. He will think more of you for respecting yourself and having sex for the right reasons. If he gets pissed off with you coz you want to wait, then he is not definitely not worthy of you. Dump him.
2007-03-02 19:52:09 · answer #8 · answered by saturdaygirl4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, hold off a while. Doesn't sound like you're thinking of doing it for the right reasons.
Avoid the fist time for a few years.
2007-03-02 19:46:17 · answer #9 · answered by itry007 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No wait or you will regret it in the long run. I lost the best relationship of my life because I didn't make her keep waiting until marriage. Don't do it because it just complicates things hold out at least until you get older if not until your married.
-NmD!
2007-03-02 19:44:41 · answer #10 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋