Is there a protocall on who you invite, my boyfriend says I should invite his side of the family too. I like them well enough, but due to my moving about loads I have never ever had all my best friends in the same room and so I want a quietish (not too many people) do where I can really appreciate that as it'l only happen once. Also I don't know them that well, so I'ld feel obliged to spend my time making sure their ok and chatting with them a lot, rather than catching up with friends, some of which I haven't seen in over a year. He's ok with that, but will his mum etc be offended if I don't invite them? I've never been to a hen night.
2007-03-02 19:23:42 · 12 answers · asked by emily_jane2379 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Don't invite any of his family whom HE knows, but who are relative strangers to you, or they will spend the evening smiling to your face, but JUDGING you behind your back, and remember first impressions count. You will be really letting your hair down for the last time as a single woman, and your close mates will ensure you have a great time, but the barely known in laws will carry exagerated tales back to their side of the family. Of course, it's a great crack to go clubbing and invite his mother - she won't come but will be delighted to have been asked!
2007-03-03 00:04:23 · answer #1 · answered by caroline 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've noticed some people do have relatives and partners relatives if they're in the same age group so there doesn't seem to be a protocol. It may keep the peace if you invite them but it's about having fun and saying goodbye to your life as a single woman. You shouldn't feel obliged to hold their hands instead of having fun. The last one I went to, about 4 years ago, I only knew the bride and a work colleague but we all chatted and had a great time.
2007-03-02 19:58:42 · answer #2 · answered by leekier 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The tradition is actually all girls on both sides and your mates, His mum will not be expecting you to worry about her, but obviously she will be put out if they she or any sister in laws were not invited. So how about having two one formal say dinner and a few drinks and then a wild one with your mates? Or get your maid of honour to organise it with your influence so u only have one, (then she is to blame as such) also you could see if your mother in law to be would like to bring a friend, so she isn't left out. My sister organised mine and i didn't know my sisters in law or mother in law but i got to know them that night, when everyone had to do a dare or a shot after a cocktail dinner, it was fun and we all get on really well now. Just be yourself its your night so stop worrying. good luck Hun x
2007-03-06 08:04:10 · answer #3 · answered by squawinpants 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When we got married we decided it was our day,so we only invited who we wanted on the hen/stag nights & to the wedding itself. We tried not to offend too many people. But it's the one event in your life that should be totally how you want. Im sure his family will understand,or you could have a seperate hen night for them.
2007-03-02 19:58:10 · answer #4 · answered by ROGER E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the 'norm' is to invite all family and friends. I had my Mum in Law and her Mum at mine but they left at 9.30pm after the meal and we all stayed dancing in the club after that.
BTW, your matron of honour/bridesmaid usually organises your hen night either with or without your help. I chose my own venue and left the rest up to my Sis in law.
Have a great one whatever you decide.
2007-03-03 15:25:52 · answer #5 · answered by Mitsy77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think the 'norm' is that your bridesmaids organise it all for you and the guests include both your and your partners female relatives along with female friends but you don't have to go along with tradition.
i'm getting married soon and am having 3 different hen nights!
one with my family (as they don't live near me), one with my friends (and there will be some male honarary guests!) and the third with be a few female friends going away for the weekend.
my partners family members are not invited to any of them as we don't get along and they live 100 miles away.
at the end of the day its your night and its upto you to choose who you want to be there and you don't have to explain to anyone why you chose some people to attend and others not to attend.
all the best for the future
2007-03-03 02:52:40 · answer #6 · answered by flojo 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hens nite... i've got been given blended up with a chick in a bar.. she made me positioned on her underclothes ... n i even have been given paid $one hundred... it replace into owesome :p n i slept together with her chum on real.. so HENS evening is owesome...Mike
2016-12-18 04:39:11 · answer #7 · answered by karsten 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normally you invite both family and friends. Most people decline especially the older ones if you going clubbing!!
Perhaps they don't really want to come, because you haven't invited them they are having a whinge at your partner.
In my opinion its your night spend it how you please!!!
2007-03-02 19:36:37 · answer #8 · answered by Lisa P 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you throwing your own? If you don't want to offend his side of the family, call it a get together.
2007-03-02 19:27:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
throw a preparty first were the men can join in and old friendships can rekindle themselves, then decide were to take it from there.
2007-03-03 14:49:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋