Yes, we do love each other. He is educated, has a secure job and is family oriented, but he is 34 and I'll be 23 only in June. I'm just afraid to think about the future, even though it all seems so rosy now. My own parents had a 11-year age gap and are still married, but they argue a lot; my dad is the older one and is kinda old-fashioned, compared to my mum. But, being married to someone who is much younger than himself didn't keep him from straying a bit either. They are still together and are each other's best friend now, but had a lot of difficulty getting there. I don't know if I can survive all that. Anyway, their marriage took place ages ago, and I wonder if things have changed. So, if I am to accept him, what should I expect from this marriage? He'll always be 11.5 years older........
2007-03-02 19:22:36 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just because your parents argue a lot does not mean you will also. Every relationship is different. That is not a huge gap, not in todays world. Sometimes more mature men end up being better because they know a lot more. I would say 20 years is a bit much because when you are 40 and still in your prime he will be 60, a senior citizen. But, don't let him being a little older than you stop you from a happy marrage.
2007-03-02 19:27:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mom and dad are 15 years apart, my mom being older. It didn't really work out for them because my dad was on drugs constantly and wasting all of their money.
If he has a secure job and sincerly cares about you AND your feelings then you should get married. Is he nice to you? Is he a slob? These are the kinds of questions that you need to ask your self before tieing the knot. Does he do drugs? Will he be abusive a couple of years down the road? Does he really enjoy my company? Does he like kids? Will we still be secure in a few years? How long will this last?
2007-03-02 19:28:17 · answer #2 · answered by Nicole 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Age doesn't matter in relationship but maturity yes. So if my man is 11 years older than me but knows how to handle me...yes i would marry him. hehe It is really true that you will meet some issues as get you get to know each other especially when you are married and living together...but I think if there's an understanding between you two and open communication...then you can work your relationship well.
Every individual has different experiences...your parents relationship might be different from yours. So i think only you who can answer that question if you want to marry this man or not. Because only you who knows him well more than anyone on yahoo.
Goodluck!
2007-03-02 19:38:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was in a relationship with a man 11 years older than me and I was extremely happy. Men mature much slower than women. I was almost the same age as you when we got involved and our relationship was awesome. Go for it girl. Don't base your expectations on what your parents had/have because you are two different individuals. Take each day as new and love each other like you've never loved before. Age is nothing but a number!!!
2007-03-02 19:31:40 · answer #4 · answered by renee m 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you really love the guy, then go ahead and marry him. marriage is not all bed of roses. more than likely, it is more of thorns than roses. the point is, you love each other enough to want to stay together. 11.5-year gap is not great. it is mostly the woman who adjusts. women mature fast. have a go at it. others succeed, you can,too. just work hard at your marriage. good luck.
2007-03-02 19:32:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends
2007-03-02 19:26:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you know you love eachother and feel like you want to spend the rest of your lives together you should get married. also if you really love him you would be to accept the fact that it might take a lot of difficulty staying together and are ready for it. age isnt supposed to matter.
2007-03-02 19:29:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
go ahead
my mom was 19 and my dad 29 when they met, and when my mom was 22 and my dad 32 they got married
They have been married for 26 years and not a day goes by they ever regret it.
2007-03-02 19:28:20 · answer #8 · answered by PROUD TO BE A LIBERAL TEEN! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Asian girls will look at at an older man to be more stable and secure than a youg man who is often not so mature in mind
2007-03-02 19:32:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know couples with a thirteen year age gap so yes. Unless you allow it to be more age isn't anything other than a number.
-NmD!
2007-03-02 19:28:48 · answer #10 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋