I'm overweight now but a few years ago I was slim. I have a lovely face and hair (although I say so myself!) and when I was slim I had lots of male attention. Now that I'm overweight I am barely noticed. Is this because of my weight or do you think it's because I feel bad about myself?
2007-03-02 18:58:38 · 44 answers · asked by martina_ie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh, Well in all honesty,
This may not be exactly what you wish to hear...
But you are who you are,
And you have what you have...
Be proud of it, Seriously.
Take pride in what you have.
You are unique...
Stop worrying about the little things in life,
Be positive and have a little confidence in your self.
:)
Guys like lots of body types,
Some men honestly prefer big women,
Others prefer tiny, and petite women.
Lots of men absolutely love & adore smaller breasts.
And other men love big breasts!
It all depends on the particular man....
And trust me, There is a man out there for just about every woman.
My whole point to this,
Is that men like many types of women.
But most of all, Men like women with confidence....
:)
You'll get there soon,
Just work on it,
Know who you are, Accept it... And move on.
Live with it, But embrace every experience of being who you are.
Your very unique, Why be ashamed?
Why have no self-confidence?
Why let society persuade your thoughts & outlooks upon your self & your life ?
Just be yourself,
And be proud of it....
That's what most men adore.
Be flirtatious, and spontaneous ( Men love that as well )
Good luck & trust in yourself hun.
2007-03-02 19:01:28 · answer #1 · answered by It's Just me.... Kiwi :) 2 · 7⤊ 0⤋
of course they dont, everybody has different tastes. some men like really skinny women, some normal size and of course the fuller figure. its because of the way you feel, u think your not good enough for any attention so you probably hide behind your size. i know b/c this time last year i was a size 18, after having my 2 youngest kids my weight ballooned from a size 12 to 18. i have since lost all that weight since joining weight watchers in march 06 (50 pounds, 3.5 stone) and i feel so much better i walk down the street with my head held high making eye contact with passers by( something i never did when i was heavier, id look at the floor as i passed people) luckily i had a fiance at the time and we ended up getting married last may b/c i was getting back to my old self. hold in there if your unhappy with your weight join a slimming group, they a few out there and youl make new friends too, i did. its the best thing i EVER did.
2007-03-02 19:11:26 · answer #2 · answered by claire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is a combination of them both. It all depends on how overweight you are. If were talking obesity levels then unfortunately most men don't find it very attractive. But i can't speak for all men, there are loads out there who like a woman with a fuller figure. I also believe that because you are now so self conscious of your looks you don't make yourself approachable therefore not receiving any male attention. Just let yourself go, and be the one to make the first contact rather than the other way round. You only have one life.
2007-03-02 19:42:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you were not worrying about your figure you were probably much easier to be with. Do you keep on about the weight you`ve gained or the diets you have tried etc..That can be very boring, If you have a lovely face and hair and you dress nice don`t worry. Some men like slim women and some like plump women that`s just a matter of choice. Just enjoy yourself and watch what you eat, then forget it. You`ll soon be knocking them dead. Good-luck!
2007-03-02 21:30:41 · answer #4 · answered by JoJo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's both my friend.
You are overweight because you feel bad about yourself or you feel bad about yourself because you are overweight. I was overweight and chose to lose it by choice. I didn't do it to attract men. My Dear....I did it for my health.
As for some men, when they see a slim girl, they often want something that they can't have. Some men are shallow and dumb and only think about their hormones. These men are very unattractive to me.
I'd rather go out with Mr. Wimpy and romantic than these low life philanderers who think that they are God's gift to women.
Please read some of my postings about losing weight. I believe in you. Don't let out on me. Realize that your overweight self is only a cocoon and the butterfly of you is going to come out very soon in the summertime of 2007!!!
2007-03-02 19:20:55 · answer #5 · answered by Agent319.007 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no not at all theres allways someone out there for someone it dosent matter how big u are skinny u are well if no 1 will notice u then there just idiots because they dont no u and its not all the looks its personality but although u do ave to ave sum attreaction but not a great deal well all ya gotta say to ya self well i know why they dont notice me im to god damn hot for those suckers ! lol dnt worry ull find sum 1 and if u are still self conshious about ya self then go down the gym and eat healthy foods not all the time though just now and again kk xxstarxx
2007-03-03 00:57:24 · answer #6 · answered by xx_star_xx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is probably coz you feel bad. if you have low self esteem it shows. i expect you were really confident when you were slim. i find a lot of men prefer larger ladies, in their words, it gives them something to get hold of. i have a few large friends and they are all happily settled. just be yourself and start to enjoy life. once you are happier then you will notice the difference. i was size 12, now 18-20 so i know how you feel. good luck. x
2007-03-02 19:33:23 · answer #7 · answered by val f1 nutter 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some men are only attracted to slim women, and some are only attracted to larger women, and some are attracted to both. The one thing all men are attracted to is confidence, and if you have lost yours, men will not be attracted to you. A confident woman shines, no matter what her size. You need to either learn to love yourself for what you are, or loose weight if it makes you feel better.
2007-03-03 03:36:00 · answer #8 · answered by pamperpooch39 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the man. Generally we are pigs and the " hotter" chick will get attention from us but we are not perfect ourselves so don't you worry about it . Worry could be part of the problem as well, a negative attitude could be subconsciously projected and keeping the men at bay also.
2007-03-02 19:03:58 · answer #9 · answered by donaldjasonblair 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally look at the girls heart, not body. But guys differ, and the harsh truth is that yes, some will over look you because of your weight. The good news is that those who over look you for your weight do not desrve you! So once you get attention from a guy, then you'll know he's serious and looking at your heart.
2007-03-02 19:03:28 · answer #10 · answered by J. 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋