I'm looking for those who gave up a child for adoption.
2007-03-02 18:54:16 · 3 answers · asked by E M 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I know one of my friends had a child at 15 and gave her daughter up for adoption. She had a great experience and felt she made the right choice. She is now married and has a son, she sees her daughter every time she goes to church, which might be weird for her.
2007-03-03 01:59:52 · answer #1 · answered by divinity2408 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mother works for LDS Family Services.
She told me and my wife that some people have bad experiences coming to LDS Family Services not knowing what to expect.
For instance, there are a lot of legal hurdles to jump over when presenting a child for adoption through third-party adoption agencies. There are also numerous papers that need to be filed and signatures that need to be obtained. If the birth mother is under 18, then it's even more complicated.
Then there's the whole side of finding an appropriate family for the child to go to. Since the only people that can really adopt from LDS family services are temple-going couples that can't have kids, it can sometimes take a long time to find an adoptive couple. Who takes care of the kid in the meantime? The birth mother (or father, if he is participating in adoption proceedings). You can also place the kid in separate faciliti care earlier, but it is discouraged because babies need parental love and care.
When the baby is finally placed, visitation rights tend to not last very long so that the child can gain a full emotional attachment to his/her new parents and be weaned off of the birth mother/parents. Psychological studies show this to be better for the child's mental health as time goes on. Of course, adequate records are kept so that later in life, when the child will undoubtedly want to contact his/her birth parents, he/she will be able to do so (albeit with the consent of the adoptive parents if he/she is under 18).
If you are prepared to do a lot of paperwork and deal with a lot of headache, it will be less stressful and less difficult as you go through the process. Also, it will be worth it in the long run, since you know that your child's new family will have been screened for any history of abuse or problems.
2007-03-05 08:57:23 · answer #2 · answered by James, Pet Guy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok, um, is it just ME or is anyone else wondering WHY this question is in the Religion category...?
2007-03-10 15:55:09 · answer #3 · answered by ♪ Brunette Latina ♫ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋