My eldest son and partner gave me my 8th grandchild yesterday, as he lives in Spain and I am in UK havn't seen him yet but I wanted to share my joy with the world, my mother has never cared for my son but I left her a message to tell her the knews, because she knows it will hurt me, she has not bothered to reply. When my dad was leaving her he wrote her a letter, I thought that after 25 of marriage that was a bit harsh so I took it upon my self to tell her. She stayed out of my life for 10 years, when she became ill I recived a message from a family member and went straight away yo find her, her excuse was that she just hadn't been well. I excepted it. She has spent years telling me how much she hates my father and my sister but all of a sudden she has re-kindled her relationship with my sister, I am pleased for them but now I am out of the picture. What would you do?
2007-03-02 18:45:18 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i know this is a painful time for you but right now, but screw your mother, she's being an a sshole! enjoy your new grandchild. if your mother wants to be an adult and have a decent conversation with you then fine. if not then go one with life. dont spend your time worrying about her, she's not worrying about you. life is too short. dont spend it being upset and depressed because morons who are supposed to love you are being spiteful and mean.
2007-03-02 18:53:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately some parents just see their children as carers for their old age. This has happened to me. I would never of begrudged my mother anything but my father has treated me with little or no feelings. He likes to knock me down on anything that is good happening in my life. I have decided to let him go his own way. I have felt bad over things which have not been my doing for years and out of a sense of duty stood by him. but no more. Have your freedom and let them get on with it. It will be the best for you in the long run. She will soon tire of your sister and want to be back but don't do it. She will play you one against the other.
2007-03-03 01:35:22 · answer #2 · answered by elliebear 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she sounds a bit jealous of you! no-one could say you didnt try, sadly she sounds very bitter, we experienced something similar, my grandma sat one day and bitched about my mum too ME!!! i wasnt having it and told my mum, there was a bit of a to do! my mum does so much for her, but she,s jealous of my mum, we girls are close too our mum as is my mums sisters and she gets the green eyed monster, we left her alone for a bit she soon said sorry, you enjoy your family what more can you do if shes so stubborn, otherwise tell her how you feel then leave let her think about it, all the best, families hey!
2007-03-02 19:14:31 · answer #3 · answered by apple 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Turn away and don't look back. That's what I finally did, after 57 years of being hurt by my mother. My son finally told me he thought that's what he thought I should do and I listened to him. It's hard to accept, when nothing you do will ever make it better.
2007-03-02 20:54:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should try to unite your whole family, may be ask you dad what he saw in your mum or something, and then try to get them togeather through that. The four of you should spend time togeather, at your place having a meal, laughing (representing happyness) and drinking wine (distinguished).
2007-03-02 19:30:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry. Sometimes people are like that with their family. Please see if you can talk with her one more time, find out from her what is going on, to cut you out. Depending on how she replies, etc., will determine if it's just temporary, or long term. I wish you the best. Take care.
2007-03-02 18:53:05 · answer #6 · answered by SAK 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well Im kinda in the same situation with my father. so to me I just say if thats the way they want to live their life without their child then so be it cuz if u keep it in ur mind it could be unhealthy for cuz it will stress u out when they're not even stressing over it so just try to push it out of ur mind.hope everything work out for u
2007-03-02 19:18:41 · answer #7 · answered by lolipop_01_420 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it were me I wouldn't be bothered to contact the mother and sister cos they're too much a pain since they excluded you
2007-03-02 18:54:05 · answer #8 · answered by Just curious 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but we can choose our friends we can't choose our family as the saying goes your mum is a spiteful vindictive person by the sounds of it move on if you can she doesn't deserve you and i wish you happiness :)
2007-03-02 19:34:11 · answer #9 · answered by clare w 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get on with your own life, you dont need someone hurting you like that, mum or not, it doesnt mean you need her in your life
2007-03-03 03:09:38 · answer #10 · answered by chakra girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋