my boyfriend cheated on me and now he says that it was a mistake and that he stil loves me and i stil love him but im with someone new and i dont really want to hurt him . so do i stay with my new boyfriend or go with my heart but im only 14 and my ex is 15 so should i wait till im a bit older???? please help me
2007-03-02 18:33:48 · 26 answers · asked by Lost 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he "still loves you" then that means that he's suggesting that he loved you WHILE he was in the act of cheating on you. He doesn't love you, he doesn't know what love for anything but himself is. Don't start a cycle of being a sucker. Start your romantic life off by not falling for lies.
You're with someone new now, leave it at that. Don't doom yourself to make the same mistake twice. Also, be fare to the new guy; if you're entertaining thoughts of going back to someone who treated you like a piece of crap, then maybe you're not that into the new guy either. Don't treat your current boyfriend how you're ex-piece-o-crap-boyfriend treated you.
2007-03-02 18:40:33 · answer #1 · answered by wendy_the_pyro 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my...your young and you have that problem? My advice to you is wait 'til your a bit older. Many thing may happen along the way. At your age it's too early to say that you'll end up with this guy(your current boyfriend) or your ex. Just try to enjoy life to the fullness. Maybe time will come and there is a man that really deserves your love...a man that love you just like the way you love him.
Other advice...If you always listen to what the heart tells you...you'll end up to be bitter person. If you always listen to what the mind tells you...you'll end up to be a loser. In love, try to balance your heart and mind. This advice is based on the past experience of my known friends that suffered the same "love problem".
2007-03-03 03:01:57 · answer #2 · answered by Sherwin R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that you can love at your age, but when you get a bit older, love will be better and more powerful.
You obviously still have feelings for your ex, but if you get back with him he is going to know that he can treat you like crap and you will forgive him.
It also sounds like you are with a guy who may be nice and treat you right, but if you dont feel strongly for this new guy then you shouldnt stay with him. You will only hurt him more in the long run.
Maybe you need to be single for a while, so you can work things out in your own head.
2007-03-03 02:48:30 · answer #3 · answered by saturdaygirl4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay w/the new guy. You are still real young and he will do it again! Trust me! You'd rather be safe than sorry, if you still like this other guy, you know this is bad Karma to date someone you don't really care for. How would you like someone to see you this way or feel this way about you? That sounds like the guy who wants you back! Do your young thing and have fun, and take no one serious. School, homework, eating healthy, working out, reading, hanging out w/friends. Once you have kids, or reach an age that you consider old, you will take yourself back and think and then tell yourself why didn't I just have fun, and enjoyed my youth. You don't want to regret anything you didn't do, so be a smart girl, love yourself enough not to put up with any guys bull, and have fun w/your girls...GOOD NIGHT!
2007-03-03 02:44:37 · answer #4 · answered by HOPE 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't go back with the cheater. Once a cheater, always a cheater. Don't learn the hard way. He'll waste your life away. You're only 14, so you've got plenty of time to live and guys to date. So take your relationships lightly. But also stick up for yourself and don't let a guy walk all over you!!!
If your new boyfriend is nice, stay with him. Get to know him. If you don't have the same feelings for him as he does for you, then find a new guy that's going to be nice!!! :)
2007-03-03 02:44:53 · answer #5 · answered by Alexa K 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't be with eather just wait trust me it will help u i mad the same mistake ! but trust me there is no such thing as love at this age! just wait never tell some1 u love them till u r older! a wise women once said i kiss but don't love and i leave before i am left! just remember that u should wait ur too young to be worried bout love! and weither u think he still loves u! and if he loved u he would have never cheated on u! well gtg bye!
2007-03-03 02:46:27 · answer #6 · answered by "Queen of Dorks!" 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi folk, ur boyfriend cheated on u at the age of 14/15 that is called infatuation, my good friend dont think of boyfriend issue now all u just have to be thinking is ur academic progress, if u are progress ive academically he will be the one crawling and begging for a relationship with a star. so now wait till u are mature enough for relationship.
2007-03-03 02:44:10 · answer #7 · answered by olawale michael 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should stay with the new one. If he cheated on you and says he still loves you he is just going to do it again and again because he knows all he has to say he is still loves you and it was a mistake and you would still be with him. Its not real love, you still have a long life to go and you will meet so many different man. Don't stick with one that has cheated on you becuase he ain't worth your time!
2007-03-03 02:41:16 · answer #8 · answered by Natasha M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because you are somewhat young to be dating seriously instead of having fun, you should know that some people can be quite emotionally manipulative. Just because someone seems comfortable to be with doesn't mean that he is good for you. People can get used to anything, even harmful situations.
Give yourself some time to think about things. Whatever decision you make, your ex has made sure that you have to hurt someone (him or your boyfriend). Ask yourself if he's worth it.
2007-03-03 02:39:30 · answer #9 · answered by God_Lives_Underwater 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sweetheart, if you're happy with the guy that you're with right now, you should stay with him. your ex-boyfriend really blew it when he cheated on you. he may realize what a terrible mistake he made, but that doesn't mean that you should go running back to him. you don't deserve to be cheated on! and usually if they cheat once, they'll cheat again.
you're still young, and I'm sure that you'll have a lot of boyfriends in years to come, but guys who cheat aren't worth your time. they just cause you a lot of pain and heartache. so my advise is stay with the guy who doesn't cheat!
Best Wishes
2007-03-03 02:47:12 · answer #10 · answered by atiana 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋