I know this is kind of a weird question to be asking, but I'm getting married soon and have been saving myself for marraige. I have heard that it can be harder for the woman to orgasm...but I don't know, so I was wondering if anyone had any tips on the best "methods"/positions for the woman. serious answers only please!!
2007-03-02 18:28:48 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I have problems with this too, and good job on saving yourself for marriage.
This isn't really anything anyone can help you with though, it's something you and your soon to be husband will have to figure out on your own. But more than likely, you will like clitorial stimulation. I don't know many women who don't (my friends and I have discussions...hence why I say this).
But when you first lose your virginity, I recommend missionary position (man on top, woman on back) and use a pillow (under your butt and hips) to help the angle a little, and make sure you're well lubed.
Congrats and have fun. Good luck, and just remember, this is special and you and your husband would be the only ones to know the best positions and methods for you both to enjoy it.
2007-03-02 18:40:27 · answer #1 · answered by kaeh 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree that the wedding night won't be the best. I cried on my wedding night. haha! I was dreaming that it would be the most perfect night. NIGHTmare is more like it! The stress of the day made us both very tired. And we drove a long way before our first hotel stop. But by the third day we were both having fun (in bed) and much more relaxed. If you aren't experienced, then yes, it may take a lot of "sessions" to reach the big "O". The secret is lots of foreplay.
2007-03-03 02:44:48 · answer #2 · answered by TPhi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is not so much in the position as it is in the state of mind try to be relaxed if that is at all possible on such an exciting day and Good luck to you both. By the way this being your first time the 2 of you will probably have to aquire your own rythm so just have fun and take time to get to know each other in that way.
2007-03-03 02:44:47 · answer #3 · answered by frogenstien 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably the best way for you to have an orgasm on your wedding night is through oral sex (clitoral stimulation). It most likely will NOT happen through regular intercourse so PLEASE don't be disappointed. The best thing you can do is make sure that you are well lubricated (get KY Jelly just to be on the safe side) and go very slow. Some women (a lot) never have an orgasm through straight intercourse so be patient and it you want to, buy a book (you'd be surprised how helpful they can be).
Congratulations for saving yourself for marriage; you'll be so happy that you did. Best wishes and I'm sure you will have a beautiful ceremony and wedding night.
2007-03-03 02:39:36 · answer #4 · answered by stseukn 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
everyone is different go with the flow so to speak it's your weeding night and it will be perfect for both you and her. take along a goodie bag too like lotions and bath oil give her hot bath with oil in it and wash her yourself and go slow and gentle it work her up get in the tub with her too. go slow and deleberate over personel areas after a little while carry to the bed and rub some oil on her it will get her fired up for sure then do whats natural when your both ready oh by the way she could do the same for you think about that on your wedding night it's about feelings not posistions or methods.
2007-03-03 02:42:07 · answer #5 · answered by alice k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wedding night is an event with meaning and emotions that transcend "technique". Just be in love. Savor each other. Cherish each other. Your wedding night is very special. It's more about your emotional experience than your physical experience. The physical pleasures evolve most naturally from the emotional pleasures. Congratulations.
2007-03-03 02:42:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow, um........It's peculiar that you've never seemed to "experiment" and therefore know what you need.....Most people will tell you that woman on top is better, but in my experience it doesn't really matter. I guess you could go to your local bookstore and pick up a Kama Sutra book, or Sex For Dummies, or something like that.
2007-03-03 02:37:09 · answer #7 · answered by daisyprincess78 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the BEST - is not on your wedding night -
you have had so many emotions this day - things at the last minute
the food is wrong - the candles blew out, etc
you and the groom get a good nights rest
then one of the next few days - E N J O Y ! ! ! ! ! ! ! !
2007-03-03 02:38:23 · answer #8 · answered by tomkat1528 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It'll come with time...
But most likely, not on your wedding day!
Women don't usually expereince this on their first time.
Good luck
2007-03-03 02:41:00 · answer #9 · answered by J. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He'll get off so quick she won't have a prayer of the big O.
2007-03-03 02:37:26 · answer #10 · answered by Sheriff of Yahoo! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋