first of all, i am a stay at home mother, so i feel i can say this. i also remember a time when i wasnt a mother. some stay at home mothers seem to forget that they are still mature intelligent women and all they seem to care about is diaper genies and finger painting. i am a feminist, and as a feminist i believe that women have CHOICES, because for so long we didnt have a voice in society. if a mother wants to stay home with her children, that is wonderful. but if a women decides to go back to work after having children, she shouldn't be judged and told that she is a bad mother. women's thoughts, education, and ambitions should not have to stop just because she is a mother. i love my little girl, but i also like having adult conversations too!
2007-03-02 18:18:37 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i forgot to mention that im also a full time college student. i dont plan on living off my boyfriend's income forever. face it ladies, the only true security you have is YOUR OWN, and you can't always believe that your HUSBAND will always be there. did anyone see "waiting to exhale"?
2007-03-02 18:21:11 · update #1
to stingray...my name is leah, they told me it was already used.
2007-03-02 18:28:55 · update #2
sorry, i forgot to asked the question. i guess its the result of "420" before the baby.....
anyway, i just wanted to know if any other women feel this way about stay at home mothers who have their nose stuck up in the air and feel they completing some gigantic task because they had a baby.
2007-03-02 18:32:07 · update #3
I wish you the best and hope your future holds a wonderful relationship with your daughter. I don't know why stay-at-home moms are annoying. I can see your point. I did a little bit of both with my kids.
I noticed how you spelled your daughter's name. "Raychel". That's kinda cool! My daughter also has that name - "Rachael". (she is 17).
2007-03-02 18:34:40 · answer #1 · answered by TPhi 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I'm not a women but every day at work you are judged by what you get done every day at school you are judged by what you turn in as home work so why would you think you would get a free zone and not be judged being a mother. This is life Do not be mad about it enjoy the blessings you have and worry about the grades not what some one thinks. Some one that would not put out the effort you do. Who cares what they think if they will not walk down the same road you do. They can't judge you. Neither can I. You are very smart find children that was raised like you want to raise your child an if that is what you want out of your child. Be happy you will get what you want. Your child is the most important thing you have and you can never do a rerun. Do the intelligent thing and study the type of child you want. Then do what is needed to get what you want. Good Luck I think the feminist move mount was the best thing for men not women that wanted to stay home and raise their children. Now the stay at home Moms are judged by the feminist. No matter what you decide enjoy it. Always tell your child she is beautiful and smart . OK intelligent.Never talk down to her. Always find some thing uplifting to say to your child remember she is only a child not an adult. Tell her how lucky you are to have her as your child. I tell every one infront of her how lucky I am and how God blessed me with my daughter. I was bless to have my child she didn't turn out the way I wanted. She wants a job I would never want for her but I guess she could do worst then want to be the President of the USA when she gets 35. She is 18 now and has her life planned what it will take to be president. Why couldn't she just want to me a stay at home Mommy or any thing like her Mom who gave up being Doctor to raise her.
2007-03-03 03:44:57 · answer #2 · answered by kiss4u 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have worked all my life when my girls were babies choose not too at the moment to make sure i am there for them if needed this doesn't make me a snotty person or anything else this means i am a good mother looking after my off spring, kids need guidance sometimes they don't have to do anything i say it is their own choice that counts one of my children is being bullied which is very worrying so i choose to put my life on hold to be there however i can, so i'm sorry but to me and i assume many other women your question sounds narrow minded and petty what is your problem with women who decide or choose to stay at home?
2007-03-03 03:43:56 · answer #3 · answered by clare w 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
True, moms should not judge those moms who don't stay at home-they work, school, etc., however, on the other foot, moms who work, go to school, or whatever outside the home, should not judge the stay at home moms. I am not a feminist, I know I am eqaul to man Yes, as an adult it does help to have other adults to talk with, not just "baby talk" and small child talk. I think I get your message, in a different way of wording. As a woman, I am equal to man, and yet my child(ren) are important to me too. However, as an adult, like the story about the airplane, if the plane were to lose altitude quickly, oxygen masks come down, as the adult, I need to take care of me first, with putting on an oxygen mask, then in turn I will be capable of taking care of the child(ren), with helping them put on their oxygen masks. Am I right? Take care.
2007-03-03 02:39:49 · answer #4 · answered by SAK 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Uhmmm....
I'm missing the question here.
I wish I could be a stay at home mom - my boy changes daily and I don't want to miss a thing. I know I make a difference in my job and it is very fulfilling but some days I just want to stay home and fingerpaint all day. We all make our own choices in life and to be judgmental and condescending is unfortunate but not uncommon. Instead of judging each other, maybe it would be a better choice to remove yourself from those that are annoying you. I'm pretty sure no one is holding you hostage and those stay at home mommies that bug you so much are probably annoyed themselves by your attitude! How's that for free speech? Guess I'll be getting some more thumbs down! Probably won't get best answer either but my use of free speech is sure to make the femininist in you proud!
2007-03-03 02:27:37 · answer #5 · answered by MI Mommy 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
that is wonderful and i agree with you but try not to be judgmental. everyone has to walk their walk and everyone is annoying at some point or other. as much as you may have in common with other stay at home moms you obviously don't feel totally compatible (with those that have the aforementioned attitude/attributes). try associating with other people you have values in common with. you feel and think the way you do for a reason. so do they. the best way to lead is by example, and your daughter will be watching you whether you realize it or not. i appreciate your question and your point of view. keep at it. just remember we are all at various stages in life regardless of our age.
ps. i don't have kids (except niece, nephew, godson and other lovable runts/crumb-snatchers).
2007-03-03 02:34:37 · answer #6 · answered by Mani 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I Very much agree. However I find a bit of irony in the fact that your id is "raychels mom" and not your own identity :S
2007-03-03 02:27:30 · answer #7 · answered by stingray36lvr 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i didnt hear anything that sounds like a stay at home mother in anything that you said. nothing loving nothing compassionate nothing selfless ...and a full time student is not a stay at home mother. bogus!
2007-03-03 02:52:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You sound very spiteful,relax and enjoy life.
2007-03-03 02:23:01 · answer #9 · answered by JOHN D 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
And, what's your question?
2007-03-03 02:28:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋