My sister was sexually abused from when she was about 9 - 14 years old. She had a child when she was 16 and now she has another (ages 6 & 2). When the eldest was 3, he pulled down the kettle and it caused severe burns and scaring to his face and chest. Now the 2 year old has just done the same thing, but the burns has affected from the nipples down. My sister has a lot of anger towards the children and she is on depression medication. Does anyone think that she might be doing this to her children?? Or is it just me, thinking the worst, because of her reactions to the kids???
2007-03-02 17:59:02 · 12 answers · asked by k_irs_t 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I hate to say it, but she is providing what she got. People are repetitive especially when it happens to them. She is re-living what occurred to her as a child. People take out on their children they only the thing that they KNOW, which is learned. We must not just judge, and try to understand, although it is the most difficult thing we observe. She loves, but knows no better. What she experienced is all she knows to do. I am soooooo sorry that this fact is public. Things that happen in the home usually stay in the home. I had to learn to walk away from my own kids when they were throwing tantrums because I would get so angry. I would never hurt them in any way shape or form. They are my life, that is why I would walk away. Walking away is the best
policy.
She is overwhelmed, and needs more family support to help her to make it on her own. She needs a SMILE and time away from the kids. Pick up some slack and volunteer to take care of the kids. Its hard to deal with, what she has been through at the age she started.
Just imagine yourself at that age with 2 kids. How would you deal? Just be honest and open, and maybe she will ask for help. It doesn't take too much to get to that point, especially when "you" are on the point of breakdown and don't want to admit it. She'll be all gravy as long as the family is.
2007-03-02 18:36:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mercy. It sure sounds as though it may be done purposely. What are the odds? Who would leave a kettle where one child could reach it, muchless two? What did the treating physician say? Did they report it to Department of Human Services for investigation? If not, maybe you should. Someone needs to advocate for those poor little children. Why does she have so much anger toward the kids?
2007-03-02 18:48:28 · answer #2 · answered by debbie m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, I have to agree with the others; report what you know, but, to avoid ruining your relationship with your sister, strongly suggest to the relevant authority that she is told that her health care provider reported a possible case of child abuse; because there is no proof. If she doesn't break down and confess, they are unlikely to remove them. Why is she not receiving counselling?: it is vital that she does, and you could volunteer to look after them, both when she attends sessions, and at some other times, to give her time to herself. Also, encourage her to join a support group, either in person, or online at www.myspace.com Join myspace (free) and click on "groups" in the bar near the top of the webpage, then select "other" and enter terms like "sexual abuse" and "child abuse", and join, maybe changing later. Then you can refer your sister directly to the appropriate group. Yahoo! groups and Google; groups may also be worth having a look at. See: http://www.healthyplace.com/communities/ and learn the relaxation and meditation techniques, and see if you can get her to join you in them, or just sitting comfortably in a quiet, darkened room, gazing at a lighted candle for 20 mins, while you focus all your attention on the feeling your breath make as you breathe regularly,in and out (preferably through the nose), in and out, in and out.........If she did this when feeling angry or depressed, as well as 20 mns. every day, it would be a big help. She should also consider a change in the amount or type of medication, possibly seeking a second opinion.
2007-03-02 21:41:23 · answer #3 · answered by CLICKHEREx 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi,
my heart goes out to those kids and to you. being sexually abused as a child can develop into the worst mind set, if the abuse isn't dealt with properly. i gather your sister has not done that. anger & depression are not a surprising outcome. i can assure you, she doesn't mean to hurt her children, but her mind is sick and she can't see what she is doing. she needs serious mental care and those kids need to be removed from her immediately! they are in serious danger. i agree with you, she did burn those children.. when my kids were 2 and 3, they couldn't reach the kettle. Oh Dear Lord. please get them out of there! call child protective services and/or the police now! the children no doubt will have major issues too...having the scars, forever..and knowing their mother did it to them. God be with you all!
2007-03-02 18:20:49 · answer #4 · answered by Sandra Dee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
each now and then, there is no longer something you could do. She's were given topics, she has to take responsibility for herself. What your mom is doing is what's called "allowing"! regrettably, she's residing contained in the relations and that is "sucking" everybody into her drama and disrupting the completed relations. that is analogous to a relations coping with a member that has some variety of dependancy. i'm no longer positive once you've considered that television series on A&E stated as Intervention, what's happening on your relations might want to probable qualify for a weekly episode. the completed relations desires (might want to get) counseling, if something, to the way in which to create healthful obstacles and deal with your sister. even if you realize it or no longer she has created some topics for you that would want to carry over to different aspects of your existence.
2016-10-17 10:01:59 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you even suspect she is harming the children you owe it to them to contact CPS or the police so someone can investigate it. These aren't minor bruises you are talking about, these are possibly life thereating injuries. It is better to risk being wrong than to stand by worrying that she may get upset and then have something happen that you could have prevented.
2007-03-02 18:05:03 · answer #6 · answered by Starshine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to be reported to the authorities...NOW!
#1. Protect those innocent children
#2. Get professional help for your sister
2007-03-02 18:05:53 · answer #7 · answered by Navy Mom Terri 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry, but I think its your sister doing this to her kids and you need you call the police with your suspisions immediatly. Dont wait until its too late, just because you dont want to lose your relationship with her. If she is hurting her kids like this its only a matter of time before... they die, im sorry to say
good luck
please do the right thing
2007-03-02 18:04:59 · answer #8 · answered by Chef Mommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be coincidence, but given her history of being abused and your obvious concern I would take the necessary steps to make sure the children are protected. Go with your gutt feelings!
2007-03-02 18:35:52 · answer #9 · answered by smilinattheblues 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with mommy and starshine. You need to contact the police or child services to protect the children and get your sister the appropriate help
2007-03-02 20:07:00 · answer #10 · answered by erin_leigh_hall 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋