When my boyfriend and I have sex he can't really keep his thing up and that makes me feel like I'm unattractive. He's done other things to show he's attracted to me but somehow because he can't keep his thing up makes me feel really unattractive. I start to think like I'm not good enough because he's never had those problems with his ex couple years ago. Now he's with me, he developed this problem. I just feel like it's partly my fault and maybe it's because I'm not attractive enough or something. Is it normal for me to feel unattractive?
2007-03-02 17:46:35 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is totally normal, and he probally feels embarrassed about it too. It is not your fault at all, and it is normal for you to feel unattractive. Is he older or doing drugs? These things can lead to that problem. Maybe he needs some medication to help, or try getting him drunk once.
2007-03-02 17:52:13 · answer #1 · answered by juniper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gosh, sounds like you're putting a lot of pressure on him to perform. If I were in that situation, sex would feel like a test, no matter how attractive my partner would be, rather than a shared, comfortable experience.
Cut him some slack. Let him know that whatever happens, you still love him (if you do). Take turns doing the "tonight, it's all about you" thing, and when it's your turn, you can say "Tonight, it's all about you, you can come if you want, you can just touch, and explore, if you want, I'm here for you tonight" and see what that does. There are many exercises and scenarios that can help take off the pressure.
2007-03-03 01:57:24 · answer #2 · answered by DavID 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it's normal to feel that way, but you really shouldn't. all *your* parts work right? so, sounds like he's the one with issues.
2007-03-03 01:50:37 · answer #3 · answered by Gabrielle 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋