I am 18 and my boyfriend ("fiancee") is 19. We have been together for a couple of months, but we have been friends for 4 years. I am really in love with him and he has already proposed to me. I said yes and he wants to wait to get married. I don't want to have a big wedding, I would rather just get eloped. I think he thinks I want a big wedding, but I am not sure. Somebody help me!!!
2007-03-02 17:36:51 · 10 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Talk to him about it. You can aways have a private, destination wedding. My husband and I went to Gatlinburg, TN. Neither one of us wanted a big wedding... but we still wanted the formal ceremony. And by the way, I was 22.
Good luck and congrats.
2007-03-02 17:42:00 · answer #1 · answered by mrslang1976 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have a few things to consider before you decide whether or not to elope. Maybe you should sit down with your parents and ask if they would mind if you eloped. Some parents may be very hurt to not be included in such a special day in your life. Of course the ultimate decision is up to the two of you, but I'm sure you wouldn't want to hurt your parents. The other thing you should seriously consider is your age. You are so young...why the big rush? Why not wait a few years? Whatever decisions you make, I wish you both the best of luck! Congratulations!
2007-03-02 17:50:55 · answer #2 · answered by Cynthia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about marriage too soon. Enjoy the engagement.
Theres nothing wrong with eloping nor large weddings, it depends on both parties.
Perhaps you can elope but have a bigger party afterwards if thats what your partner wants? or perhaps compromise and have a small gathering of just close friends and family members. Talk about it with your fiance foremost and understand each others wants.
Congratulations :-)
2007-03-02 17:52:50 · answer #3 · answered by ppl_tell_me_im_insane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I eloped. We have been happily married for six years now. It depends on the people. We also had our families there. I don't think I would have wanted to do it without our families. We didn't run to Vegas or anything like that. We just got married in my in laws basement. Since it was so darn cheap, both our families gave us big fat checks to start out with. We definitely had plenty of money when we got married! It's not for everyone though!
2007-03-02 17:42:12 · answer #4 · answered by Mom of 3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOw... i didn't know that elope still exists in this world? i would find it most exciting and it's sure to stay on a special memorable event in your life. LOve matters more than anyting nowadays, forget about the big wedding, its you and your groom who must be comfortable with it. congrats anyway.
2007-03-02 17:54:51 · answer #5 · answered by Nui Nui 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your time in this engadgement I did much the same at that age and after four years it fell apart. When the time comes do what you both feel is best, just be sure this is the right man for you first and take your time. Be together, be engadged but hold off for awhile before making that step that way you are both positive that it will last.
-NmD!
2007-03-02 17:42:56 · answer #6 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not start with communicating with your bf? Tell him exactly what you want and ask him exactly what he wants. The biggest problem in any relationship is poor communication. So, start your relationship with great communication. Neither of you is a mind reader. Either you two have talked about something or you haven't. If you haven't then how is he going to know what you want...or how would you know what he wants? Talking is probably as important as sex in a marriage. Both ar required.
2007-03-02 18:17:29 · answer #7 · answered by judgebill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you want. You two need to stop second guessing what each other wants to hear.
Agree to never do that. So, when you tell him you don't need a big wedding, he needs to believe that.
Be sure this is what you want. What is the hurry?
2007-03-02 18:29:26 · answer #8 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him what you want. And eloping is okay as long as both parties have thought bout it thoroughly
2007-03-02 17:47:22 · answer #9 · answered by TiFF Nakita 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you better talk to him about the size of the wedding not yahoo answers
2007-03-02 23:23:26 · answer #10 · answered by Library Eyes 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋