Its been 2 weeks since we've had sex. I understand doing his medical residency is stressful.....its not just him thats stressed....I'm stressed out too since this is my 2nd year at medical school. Yesterday, I literally pounced on him when he got back but he just took a shower and went to sleep. I tried pleasuring myself earlier today, but its not the same as the real thing. Please give me other ideas, becauseI need him to have sex with me soon!!!!
I know it sounds disgusting. I'm sorry.
2007-03-02 17:30:05 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Everyone has needs and its his job to meet yours. You need to talk to him and find out what is going on. It is likely that you just picked a bad time. Choose a day that is open for him and put on something sexy...it will all work out.
2007-03-02 17:36:39 · answer #1 · answered by juniper 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds to me like a communication breakdown. You seem to be willing to share this intimate thought with those here on Yahoo Answers, but you have not shared that with the one who counts. Sometimes when a person is tired and stressed out, they just cannot muster up those amourous feelings that you're desperately needing right now.
I think the first thing you need to do is talk to him about this. Be nice. He may be just stressed and tired, as you said. But let him know that you're needing him.
Secondly, you two need to find a way to make a little time each week to spend together. I know that's hard, but even if it's for a few hours. There's work.........then there's time for each other. Both are important.
Best wishes.
2007-03-02 17:44:36 · answer #2 · answered by C J 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My first concern is that you, a medical student, think that asking a question about sex is disgusting. It is possible that there is a medical reason in addition to fatigue that is causing his desire to be less intense than yours at this time. I had a similar problem it seems my love was taking a vitamin supplement that was killing his potency, since he didn't know what was causing the problem, he acted like there was no problem. It wasn't until he found the cause that he confided in me. This is a problem that men do not chat about. In your case you could ask from a medical standpoint hypothetically of course.In the meantime I got suggestions to wear naughty lingerie etc. which would have really frustrated him. I almost entertained the idea that he was having an affair. When something as simple as a vitamin supplement was to blame.
2007-03-02 17:42:09 · answer #3 · answered by newyorktilson 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's already stress with his studies. Don't stress him further with your demands. You need him to be relaxed if you want to get what you're looking for. Don't talk just yet. Because if you tell him that you badly need sex now, he might feel insecure and think that if he can't give it to you, you'd probably look for it with another guy(s). Just try to relax. Prepare a meal for him. Watch a movie together or listen to some music. Then start by holding hands, kissing, etc. But remember to feed him beforehand (give him lots of protein-food, caffeine-induced drinks...), then touch him or move around him half-naked. If all this still doesn't work out, while he's on bed, dead-tired, remove his pants and start l-i-c-k-i-n-g his *** and his balls, and put a finger in his a-s-s. He won't resist any further, and for sure, he'll bang you.
2007-03-02 17:44:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe you better look into this a little more ask him if he still wants a realationship with you or is their someone else or try to spice it up some maybe he needs a little more spark like a adult movie or maybe something physical is wrong with him. but either way you need to have a serious talk with him about this issue and don't get mad it don't help only adds to pressure take some of it off hima nd relax school can be stressful for anyone at any age.
2007-03-02 17:38:32 · answer #5 · answered by alice k 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
talk to him when sex is not involvedand he and u are not stressed and keep asking and pouncing also if he goes to sleep wake him by oral means its a fantastic way to be 2woken upand he should then be willing to pleasure you otherwise u might need to end relationship with him as there wont be sex in 10 yrs time
2007-03-02 17:48:59 · answer #6 · answered by ariesfunram 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You could try seducing him, making sure he sees "the goods." Also, you could give him oral sex while he is doing something like watching t.v, because if you do it while he is studying, he might not want to be disturbed and might snap at you.
A slight possibility could be that he is learning about disgusting diseases & stuff like that, and he has to see those gross pictures all the time and it just turns him off.
2007-03-02 17:37:36 · answer #7 · answered by Joshu@ 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Stress does have a major effect on libido. Do something to relax him, get his mind off work and school. Go out, have fun, then have sex.
2007-03-02 17:35:22 · answer #8 · answered by eaglefox200 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Like anything else in life the key to making love and for it to be fullfilling takes communication. Tell him how you feel, and what you want him to do. No man who truly cares will not listen and do his best to meet your needs.
-NmD!
2007-03-02 17:35:10 · answer #9 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He doesnt want it and that said, you cant make him.
It could be a variety of reasons - his too busy, too tired and doesnt feel like it or doesnt feel you attractive when you "pounce" on him.
Give him space or you wont end up having sex at all!!
2007-03-02 17:33:39 · answer #10 · answered by ppl_tell_me_im_insane 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋