9yrs old girl wet her self why?

Question

my daughter friend she wee lots in playground at school she wet my daughter bed, and she don't wear nicker at school or anywhere. i try tell her dad he said normal i said not normal something wrong with her. she need help and her father. so i need help this one she is drive me up wall.

Answer 1

Believe it or not wetting the bed at this age is VERY common especially in boys. With that said girls have the problem also sometimes. It doesnt necessarily mean something is wrong with her. It just may mean her blatter is taking longer to develop. The reason why boys have more trouble with this is because their bladders usually take longer to develope fully compared to girls.

With that said, this behavior may be signaling an emotional problem especially if this is a new behavior for her and she regressed to an earlier stage of development. If she has always been this way, it just may mean a weak bladder.

Also about the dad stating its normal.... it may be normal - for his family. Wetting the bed does run in families due to physical development being primarily genetics. He may know that there is a history of this in his family. If thats the case, there really isnt a problem.... its normal for that child's family developmental pattern. I'm sure the dad isnt going to say. "Awe its normal because I wet the bed and had accidents controlling my bladder all the way to 15."

Just some thoughts.... by the way children regress to earlier stages when facing hard times because it allows them to go back to a developmental stage they have mastered. It helps them feel secure and safe until they are ready to move on with life.

So basically, if this is a new problem there may be a problem. If it has always been something she has delt with it may be developmental. Is there any other warning signs of a problem. If this is the only thing.... it really isnt a big deal if its normal for her and her family.

Regardless of the reason, I hope the father has visited the doctor about this. Wetting the bed at this age is more common than people think and may not be a big problem however it still isnt the optimal normal and things should be check out. If he has already done this, this is probably why he's stating everything is alright and normal.

About the sexual abuse comment, there needs to be more warning signs than just wetting accidents to jump to that conclusion. With that said, who knows.... that could be a cause like any other. That wouldnt be the first thing I thought about though if thats her only problem.

CounselorDan (Child Therapist)

Answer 2

This is very common for this age group 7-10 ish. It is obsurd to assume that they child is being molested if there is no other signs and it would be grossly inappropriate to report the family to social services because of wetting the pants. Whoever suggested that was way off the mark.

My daughter is 8 and she started wetting her pants. She hod it from us at first because she was embarrassed. Well come to find out she was constipated because her teacher at school would never let her go to the bathroom. Everytime she asked she was told to wait. Well when you hold poop your colon expands and you lose the urge to go. She was still pooping but only little tiny balls. So when I would ask her if she went she would say yes. She eventually became so constipated that she was in pain and I took her to a doctor who figured the entire thing out. She was so constipated that it was causing her to have extra pressure on the bladder making her not be able to make it to the bathroom in time.

I have a friend whose daughter started peeing her pants when another girl at school was picking on her everyday- she was so stressed out that she started to wet. As soon as the school was over she stopped.

I know someone else whose son was being his pants because he was too busy doing other things, like video games. There was nothing else wrong.

Ultimately she is not your child so you should not get involved more than you have. If it upsets you then you should just spend less time around her.

Answer 3

It's somewhat common for kids at this age to sometimes wet the bed, but it is strange for her to having accidents while she's awake. She most likely has a physical or emotional problem that is leading to this. Talk to the school counselor, maybe if the counselor is aware of this problem they can get to the underlying causes, and maybe if the Dad hears it from the counselor at school he'll take the problem more seriously. I'm not saying this is the case, but abuse, especially sexual abuse, can cause kids to start wetting themselves. If you think anything like this is happening to the little girl then report it to child protective services or whatever agency handles such things in your community.

Answer 4

This sounds really strange. If the father is resistant to getting his child some help, then something unsavory might be happening. Or, I might be catastrophizing here. Does the child have a mother or mother figure in her life? Maybe the mother would shed some light on the situation. Perhaps they have tried different things, doctors, medications, maybe that is why the father seems to think it's okay, he has given up.

All I can say is that a girl that is 9 years old and wets herself often at least needs the special underpants that are advertised on TV for bedwetters. When she stays overnight at your house, buy her some for use at your house.

You might want to tell her dad you think this is serious even if he thinks it's not, and that you are going to report it (to child protective services in your area) so that she can get some help. Just be careful and be sure he is not interested in getting her help, or you are going to look pretty silly at child services.

Answer 5

I wet the bed when I was this age. Its not that uncommon. I was horrified to stay the night with any of my friends. Try not to make such a big deal about it to anyone, she probably feels so stupid. I wouldnt wake up till it was to late. The only thing I was ever told to do was to hold my pee for as long as i could when i was awake to stretch my blader. Im not sure that was a good idea cause I have bladder infections now as a adult.

Answer 6

DEAR
FIRST YOUR HUSBAND DOES NEED HELP I DO NOT JOKE ON HERE OK I DO RESPECT MY OLDER PERSONS THAT IS HOW MY MOTHER AND FATHER BROUGHT ME UP TO SAY YES MAMA NO YES SIR AND NO SIR DEAR IF SHE I DOING THIS PLEASE READ (1ST) NIGHTMARES ARE IS REALLY SCARED OF SOMETHING IN THE ARE NIGHT? (2ND) KIDS AT THE SCHOOL MIGHT BE PICKING ON HER ARE TELL HER IF SHE SAYS ANY THING ABOUT WHAT THEY ARE DOING TO HER SHE IS GOING TO GET BEAT UP FOR IT? BECAUSE SHE MIGHT HAVE SEEN SOMETHING SHE WAS NOT TO ? (3) IF SHE WAS BIT BY ANY THING LIKE A FLY ETC SHE MIGHT BE HAVING BAD DREAMS TOO THAT A WAY GIVE HER A TEDDY BEAR NIGHT LIGHTS AND PLEASE JUST ASK HER WHY SHE IS DOING THIS SOME THING IS GOING ON AND IT IS NOT AT ALL FUN ARE FUNNY OK
TAKE CARE PS IF CPS IS CALLED THAT I DO NOT WISH ON ANY ONE PLEASE STAY SAVE AND BE CAREFUL.

Answer 7

could be one of many thing such as:

stress
call for attention
anxiety
medical problem
and or child abuse

Answer 8

det her a dr apt.....have her checked......its sad to say but LOTS of times the child is being sexually abused.......

she may have a urinary tract problem.....

she could even have diabetes.......

the dr can help you, call now.......

Answer 9

STUPID!