How can I become a better person?

Question

I try to be a good person and Christian and my husband and I have a great marriage, I have two beautiful little girls and I love my job. I am incredibly blessed but every now and then I can be so mean and rude, and not think before I speak. How can I change?

I do not "male bash". UB happy obviousy has serious issues with women. If you have been hurt by a woman, please, by all means, don't take it out on all of us.

Actually, I should have been more clear-I am not rude or mean to my husband or my girls. I just wanted to emphasize how lucky I am. I was mean to my mother and I feel really badly. I did apologize.

Answer 1

Realizing that you have this problem is a good start. Work on it. Be kind to others and when your temper or nerves get the best of you and you over react at least apologize. Whenever you have these mean or rude actions ask yourself why you were that way. Give it some time and thought. Meditate

Answer 2

You are occasionally be taken over by the popular ethic that it is OK for a woman to do anything, perhaps? Male bashing, excusing any actions of a women in "defense" of family or possessions, when actually it is just a mean streak allowed to come to the surface?

By asking this question and recognizing a flaw in your own personality, which we ALL have, you have come further than most in being able to identify where the problem lies. You must not only control what you say, but more importantly how you think about certain issues. If you tend to be mean and angry more so over certain subjects, then analyze your feelings in those areas. If you change your prejudices, or develop empathy towards those that you generally lash out at, you will be a better person and will have the feeling that you've really accomplished a lot.
Good luck to you.

Answer 3

Treat others as you would like to be treated. I do the same thing sometimes and you have to just bite your tongue. It's hard sometimes, but you have to hold back if it means hurting someone's feelings. When you want to make a comment, pause and reflect on what might happen if you say what you really think.

It's good to be honest, but it's not good to hurt. I think that you have good intentions, but you are a bit impulsive.

Also, to be a better person--try a little bit at a time. Open a door, give a smile, or say a "good morning". A little bit goes a long way. You don't know, but you might make a difference with a small complement. It doesn't cost anything but a few seconds of your time--how easy is that?

Good luck and God Bless!

Answer 4

the every now and then is part of life dear but you can try this tell your husband and children to tell you to go for a walk when you get mean or rude or angry. i've found having a disagreement with my daughter and i'm a single mother of one, we if its both of us or i would take a walk. walking it off will change the state of mind your in and your more calm when you get back to your house. no one is around you while you walk and its peaceful to think of what made you become mean or rude.

Answer 5

When you begin to feel angry count to 3 before speaking...if 3 is not enough count to 10. If you still say things you regret there must be more to the situation than what is happening at that moment.

Answer 6

It is sad to know in this world we are not perfect and we sometime are mean to the ones that are closest to us and before we know it we have said something to hurt their feelings we must be like the word slow to anger and think before we speak because once we hurt its hard to take it back even once we say we are sorry.All we can do is ask God to help us and we both know theirs nothing too hard for him.

Answer 7

By 'wanting' to be a better person, you've already taken the first step. As for 'not thinking before u speak" ..that makes you human. As with all shortcomings, you repent, ask forgiveness and go on from there. Ask God to take this habit away from you.

Answer 8

i think if u try really hard to have self control, an clench ur teeth, an wait for the wave of anger to pass, each time u will find it easier ♥ also pray to god for patience, thats whut i do cuz i have the same problem sometimes when i get frustrated with my familee

Answer 9

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Answer 10

Study the bible. Diligently. Taking into yourself the word of God allows Him to use His word as building blocks from within, with which He can transform you into the image of His son. Jesus said, "he who seeks to keep their life will lose it, but he who loses his life for my sake, will find it". It's sounds almost back to front...but it's the truest thing I've ever experienced; the more of myself I surrender to God, the more my "true" self, that is, the person God would have me be, I become.