my bf is always saying he loves me but at the same time he lies and gawks at other women in front of me, he gets mad when i question where he has been, he always agree to breakup for a while and then always want to get back together. he has also done things to make me upset on purpose, let him tell it. so why in the hell would he tell me he loves me and wants to be with only me. why is he playing this game. what is his motive for doing this. what is he trying to do to me, and why?
2007-03-02 16:51:14 · 5 answers · asked by eaglestraces123 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've known many guys like this. He might think he loves you, but he doesn't know what love is.
It might be hard to believe this, since his actions affect you so painfully, but it isn't even really about you. It's about his inability to love himself. He can't love anybody if he doesn't love himself. You can't give what you don't have, after all.
Guys like him have no confidence or self-esteem, and so they try to dominate others to build themselves up. Classic bullies, but in a more insidious sense.
He wants to keep you around because he's afraid of being alone. He's purely self-centered and immature, and he doesn't care if he hurts you. In fact, I bet he intentionally hurts you sometimes, trying to break you down so he can control you.
I bet he blames you and other people for everything, and takes no personal responsibility for his actions. He probably never admits when he's wrong, or apologizes.
Honey, if he does things to hurt you and make you uncomfortable on purpose, he doesn't love you. He wants to control and dominate you. Don't believe what he says- look at what he does. This is about power, not love.
I hope you won't make the mistake of trying to change him, because you can't. Only he can change himself, and a man who will never admit he's wrong will never change his behavior.
You need to lose this guy fast. Please know that you deserve so much better. Good luck and godspeed.
2007-03-02 17:44:19 · answer #1 · answered by Rosalie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A guy will tell you what he thinks that you want to hear. Basically, it is up to you to either let him get away with disrespecting you or kick the loser to the curb. You can tell a lot by a man's actions and how he treats you. His words mean nothing without following through on his actions. Don't you hear a guy say..I'll call you and he never does? Same scenario. He tells you what you want to hear so he doesn't have to deal with a girl's "crap". So, if I was you I would kick this LOSER to the curb because disrespecting you and treating you badly is not a good basis for a loving relationship. When you love someone you treat them good because it makes you happy to see them happy. See? That's how it should work. Love..or saying that you love someone without showing it is never enough. Why do you want someone who treats you like s*** anyways! You deserve better. Love yourself enough to leave him and stop putting up with this bad behavior! Only you can stop him from treating you this way! Read the book "He's just not that into you" because if he was he would not treat you like garbage!
2007-03-02 17:58:58 · answer #2 · answered by asiansmile 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actions speak louder than words. He's definetly playing games. It might be to see how much you will take, stand your ground and when you break up with him make sure he knows your serious. Make sure he has to beg to get you back it will make it less likely for him to do it again. He might just come back after a break up when he's feeling really lonely or needs to get some.
2007-03-02 16:58:01 · answer #3 · answered by juniper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
simple: allow me to put it this way: if A says he is a vegetarian but eats meat, what does that make him? reconsider this relationship for your own good.
2007-03-02 16:57:09 · answer #4 · answered by counterculturalist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is selfish,make new friend and forget him.
2007-03-02 17:02:36 · answer #5 · answered by surendra S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋