I dated this guy who was my friend over a year ago who i really liked...but i broke up with him after dating for 6 months becasue i found he was flirting with a girl he knows only from online....recently we started talking again becasue he contacted me and said he missed me but now i'm finding he is so called dating another girl who's crazy about him. I feel hurt because i was so happy to hear from him again but find that he still hasn't changed. And i really care about him and sadly i still have feelings for him. I want to forget about him but i just can't seem to let him go. Any suggestions?
2007-03-02 16:50:28 · 7 answers · asked by debbielou88 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
A first love that is over is always the hardest to get over, loving someone and then finding out that not the same feelings happened back always hurts someone.If he's dating someone else he doesn't deserve a wonderful person like you who he had already hurt once.What if you get back with him and then he dates another girl?You'll get hurt all over again.Do you want that to happen again?He actually might have missed you but if he really cared about you he wouldn't have flirted with someone online.I suggest you try to meet some new people, when you find the perfect guy and then he dumps you or you dump him(if it does happen) don't forget someone else had expierenced it and knows how it feels.Why'd you break up with him in the first place?Because he was cheating on you.Remember, he hurt your feelings enough for you to lose your romantic feelings in the first place and then he comes back to you saying he missed you.Next you find him, cheating on you again exept this time seriously.IF you care about him and want to get back together, talk to him face to face.He needs to know what he did to you has hurt your feelings and if he has feelings for you now would be his last chance.If he says no, just move on..It's just a guy and there will be more...THe right guy won't leave you standing wiht your heart broken..Sorry this had to happen to you
2007-03-02 17:05:17 · answer #1 · answered by Mommy_of_4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First "loves" are always very very hard to get over. Trust me, there is no easy way to do it. It took me 1 year and a half to get over my "first love", but then I met the most amazing person, and he turned out to be the love of my life, and then I realized that my first love wasn't really love at all. It was just a strong level of infatuation. Once you find the one for you, you will realize this, too. Good luck hun, I wish you the best of luck.
2007-03-03 00:55:43 · answer #2 · answered by _hopefull_ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never fully get over your first love. I think they will always have a place in your heart. Try to remind yourself that he is with someone else and is happy. You should just focus on yourself and making yourself happy. Each day that passes will be easier than the last and you will slowly get over your feelings for him. Before you know it, you will have found someone new and things will be good again.
Best of Luck!
2007-03-03 00:55:18 · answer #3 · answered by michellecdnd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will never get over your first love. You will however learn how to control your emotions a bit more. Just give yourself more time to forgive, forget, heal, and move on.
2007-03-03 00:54:23 · answer #4 · answered by First Lady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself... what would you say to your best friend if the same thing happened to her? Probably that he's not worth it and she can do better. Take a step back and realize that you deserve better.
2007-03-03 00:56:45 · answer #5 · answered by blondie22334455 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to start seeing other fellows. This one is a dead relationship. What make you think it was "Love" anyway?Feelings and love are two different things. you need to distinguish the difference in the two.
2007-03-03 00:55:02 · answer #6 · answered by MS Williams 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, smarten up and shed that loser. Drop the zero. Get a hero.
2007-03-03 00:54:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋