Did he cross the line?

Question

I recently had an argument with a guy friend I've known for 6 months. He is trying to progess the relationship and has tried to kiss me. The last time he tried to get together with me it didn't workout because I missed his calls. When I got the messages it was too late. Days later he told me I was imature and rude for not returning his calls and that I am playing games. We have not talked since. Is this enough to end the relationship? Who should apologize here?

Answer 1

Tell him the truth.. that you missed the call cause you where very busy. He just might of thought you were playing with his head cause other women would do the same thing to him in the past.
If you really like him just tell him you still like him. No mind games and that you missed the call and you are sorry for hurting his feelings.

But do it face to face so he can look you in the eyes when you tell him this. He might have been hurt by women who did this to him in the past where they say they like him then ignore him. I have went through this myself with a woman recently she played games.

Answer 2

Well you left out a big detail, do you want to be in a romantic relationship with him or not?

Let's go over what you did tell us.

1) When a guy wants a girl he first has to build up his confidence. Some guys have huge amounts of confidence already and they can instantly go up to any girl and flirt with them. However the guys who are your friends and actually try to get to know you first are the ones who are building up their confidence, and they often lead to the most meaningful relationships.

2) Not know the nature of the messages I can only tell you if he knew you well enough to know when to call you when he was almost sure you'd pick up and you didn't it prob hurt a little, then when he prob waited a few hours and didn't call back it hurt more, and as the day (or however long past) went on it hurt more and more that you didn't call. Then he fired back because he thought you were just avoiding him. In this scenario whether or not you wanted him to be your BF you should still apologize and tell him you didn't mean to miss his calls and give him a honest reason you didn't call him back, then if you don't want to be his GF let him know, don't beat around the bush other wise that's leading him on by giving him false hope, but if you value his friendship don't do it to harsh, just enough to let him get the message.

So be the bigger person, he's hurting. Apologize and lay it down. Do it right and you might still be friends...BUT BEFORE YOU DO think long and hard do you want him as a BF or just a friend, or do you not mind never see'n him again. That will be the biggest factor in how you handle this.

Answer 3

He's being overly sensitive right now, because he wants different things from the relationship than you seem to. It sounds like you need to sit him down and discuss the fact that he wants to take things further -- do you? However you feel, you need to lay the cards out on the table together. The argument is a wake-up call that you need to hash out the real issue. Don't worry too much about who's apologizing where, there's always blame enough to go around if you spend time looking for it.

Answer 4

Ok he did go way over the line, he is just pissed off because your not trying move you two relationship with him. All he's doing is jumping to conclusions. He needs to apologize. I don't know if this should end your two's relationship, he could get like this if you two should start going out. So I don't really think you two should go after each other, or in other words you should break the friends relationship.
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Answer 5

Did you apologize for missing the calls? Since you did know about getting together. But he shouldn't be calling you names. Tell him it bothered you and that you didn't call him any names, for him to come out like that. You shouldn't end it, unless he's immature himself, and can't handle a simple disagreement. You know? Just communicate, it doesn't hurt to try to fix some things....

Answer 6

Of course he crossed the line. Trying to force you to do something you don't want too do , wrong. Trying to kiss you without your permission while knowing you do not want things to progress , wrong. .... If this guy is saying you are rude, playing games, immature and doing things you want no part of, then why are you wondering who should appologise? What have you really lost by just leaving him alone. Come on woman, seriously. Are you going to ponder on this man who treats you with no respect? He's the one playing games and you still want to talk to him. OMG>

Answer 7

I believe that both of you should apologize to eachother for being so immature. You are actually not as immature as he is, but he doesn't know that. You need to explain to him what was going on and that you are sorry he is feeling this way. And I'm sure he feels bad about treating you like that, so i'm sure he'll contact you sooner or later, and he'll apologize for being a jerk. Good luck

Answer 8

he was just lashing out because he would rather argue than be ignored---at least anger implies caring, to some extent. it's a tough call. he probably thinks you should apologize for avoiding him and you probably don't think you did anything wrong. you could apologize, but beware: if you submit to this kind of neediness now, he's probably going to expect it in the future. tantrums may ensue from then on if he doesn't get his way!

Answer 9

Forget him. This relationship is having a hard time getting off to a start. Let well enough be enough. This will never be a successful relationship.

Answer 10

All you did was missed a few calls..he's the one over acting just take it slow and apoligize and tell him how you feel and ask him how he feels about it remember...be calm.