My cat which I loved dearly, passed away from a brown snake bite. I only let her outside once or twice a week, because there are so many bad things for her to play with, so I was really protective of her. On the day that I decided to let her out, this is what happened. Why can't I forgive myself for letting her outside???
2007-03-02 16:43:00 · 19 answers · asked by k_irs_t 1 in Pets ➔ Cats
God. I know EXACTLY how you feel. About 3 months ago, one of my cats, Allie who was only 4 years old and one of a kind, was attacked and killed one horrible night by the neighbor dog who had escaped from his yard, and I was beside myself with grief. My whole family was. (Don't even ask what I'd do to that dog if I ever saw it again.) I thought, "If only we had kept her inside that night...." But how could I have KNOWN? And how could you? Allie had been able to roam free outside for years on an almost daily basis, without incident. Why should that night have been any different? And your kitty was outside plenty of times too where nothing happened. The point is, it's NOT your fault. There wasn't anything you could do. You just couldn't have known. It's devastating to lose a pet. I know. But it will get better, especially if you take this opportunity to adopt a new cat or kitten that desperately needs a home. That's what I did, and it's the best way to move on.
2007-03-02 17:14:37 · answer #1 · answered by laurel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear about your loss! I lost my dog this past Christmas eve and I am still mourning too.
Just judging by the fact that you asked this question shows just how much you cared for your treasured kitty - and that shows compassion and love, something I truly believe your cat could 'feel' from you. Try not to beat yourself up, (I hate to say this part but) something could have easily happened inside your place only to come to the same conclusion. This is a bit hard to write, but I believe that there are some things that are out of our control - and it is the time that we spend together that counts so much more. I still try to remember this - I also decided to find pics and things to make a few pages in a memory book in my dogs memory - this is helping and theraputic - luckily I have her tags and collar too which I am putting in a shadow box with a pic too.
You sound like a wonderful person who has a lot of love and definately very responsible on being aware - I hope one day when you are ready (only when you are ready) you will share that love and compassion with another kitty whom otherwise might have a dismal future. Just one more thing to add, a suggestion really, don't get another kitty to "replace" the void left in your life - I'm sure there is no other that can replace and be as great as your original - thats why I say ' when your ready' because if you do decide to get another - it will more than likely have a completely different personality which is something you might find difficult to deal with and only make things worse for you.
Allow yourself to be human and many blessings to you!
2007-03-02 17:17:02 · answer #2 · answered by Elke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear about your cat's dying. It is very natural to feel sad and to feel guilty. That does not mean that you did wrong to her on purpose or that you ever would have hurt her or let her get hurt if you had known she would. It is so hard to know how to balence protecting them and letting them have enjoyment. Don't be hard on yourself for feeling bad. She has left a big hole in your life. You know she would not hold a grudge against you and that she loved you. She would not want you to hold a grudge against yourself either. It is hard to forgive ourselves, maybe one of the hardest things to do. One thing that helped me when one of our cats died not long ago was to think of setting up a little fund at the vet in his honor to help people who have animals that need care but who can not afford it.. I don't have a lot of money but if I can do even a few dollars each month and can get some other folks to do that too then someone else's pet may be saved or helped. Somehow that makes me feel a little better. You may want to do something like that or think of something else special to do in memory of your cat. Perhaps a contribution to a no kill shelter or plantimng a pretty bush or perennial in one of the places she liked to go outdoors or making a web page with her story and pictures. I don;'t know why exactly but somehow doing something like that helps. So does praying for God to help you through this hard time and give you grace to forgive yourself. He made all the animals for HIs pleasure and He loves them and He loves you.
Mostly I just want to say I'm sorry and I understand a little of how you hurt. (((hugs)))
2007-03-02 20:00:41 · answer #3 · answered by A F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
reckoning on the age of the kitten and how oftentimes you fed it. below 2 weeks previous it needs to be fed each and every 2 hours. 3 weeks each and every 3 hours etc. in case you probably did not take the kitten once you first have been given it to the vet to be sure if it became healthy or not and what to fed it, then you definately did not do the main appropriate component. Cows milk is extremely undesirable for a kitten or any cat. reckoning on age is how oftentimes you're able to feed it and likely around the clock. until now you tackle yet another kitten i might advise you learn on a thank you to look after an orphaned kitten and learn some issues, and get it to the vet. R P CAT
2016-10-17 03:56:25 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost a pet recently, a cat who I love very much, and I understand what you're going through. It's very common to blame ourselves when a person or pet we love is injured or dies. Unfortunately, these feeling come with the territory of being human. The only thing you can do now is remember your friend, and take comfort in the memories of happy times that you have. It's hard to think about now, but the feelings that you are having now will start to subside and you will begin to realize that you are not to blame.
2007-03-02 16:57:36 · answer #5 · answered by santiago29134 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just think about all the good times she had outside, cats love to get out and are proven to live happier lives and show less boredom related stress. Cats love to sun themselves, hunt, and interact with other cats and a whole lot of other things am indoor cat misses out on. Remember life is full of chances, things happen, and you allowed your cat to live a very natural and full life.
2007-03-02 16:55:06 · answer #6 · answered by teenytiny 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry that your kitty died. It doesn't sound like it was your fault this happened. She just happend to be in the wrong place at the wrong time. There was no way you could have forseen that this could happen. You loved your cat, and I'm sure she knew that and had a happy life with you. Don't berate yourself, and cherish the happy memories of your dear cat.
2007-03-02 21:08:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would feel the same way you do if I had let my cat out and he died. That is why I don't give into his meowing and other people telling me that indoor cats are unhealthy, at least they are alive and happy. Sorry about your loss. I know you will be OK the cat is in kitty heaven and is happy.
2007-03-02 17:16:35 · answer #8 · answered by katie d 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There was nothing you could have done at all. If you was to have kept her indoors you would probally feel worse knowing that she wanted to go outside. I'm afraid that this was a accident that couldn't of been avoided. Why don't you select a peice of your garden and plant a tree or something to remember her?.
2007-03-02 22:21:18 · answer #9 · answered by TERRY U 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Please accept my condolences on the loss of your cat. You're feeling badly because you are the one who let her go outside. If you didn't feel anything, then you wouldn't be a caring pet caretaker. You did not kill your cat, the snake did. Again, I'm very sorry for your loss.
2007-03-02 17:02:03 · answer #10 · answered by marilynn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋