My b/f has difficulty in understandings some stuffs. Especially his family, if i say something that is true, he won't admit it instead he would blame me; it is me who trying to fight with his family members or something....what can i do to make him understand in a good way and not to think in a bad way! To be honest, i love his family a lot, they are very nice people but it's him who misunderstood me....this is leading us no where, everytime when i say something or try to explain something he doesn't understand or thinking from my point of view instead taking me wrong and hurting me...one of his family members has this bad habbit interfering in our relationship, that is to control and like to know what we doing or talking everyday and many more stuffs and i feel that is very inappropriate to interfere in our relationship! But it hurts me when my b/f supports them always and fail to understand what i say about them! What can i do with a guy who says, you like to fight with my family!
2007-03-02 16:39:25 · 5 answers · asked by Girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
be silent and listen to him
dont talk 2much
think before u say
SILENCE WILL ANSWER MANY QUESTIONS OF YOURS.
2007-03-02 16:49:27 · answer #1 · answered by dNv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like to me he is trying to make u the bad guy. I think so u will break up with him. He is too coward to come out and tell u there is no "us" nemore. I would ask him straight out to quit playing head games with u and what it is he wants u to do. if u still get all the wrong answers then maybe u should tell him u cant do this emotional merry go round nemore and when he grows up maybe he can give u a call. but dont be waiting by the phone cause most likely it isnt going to ring from him neways. live ur life for u not for others.
2007-03-03 00:49:35 · answer #2 · answered by Dunkyin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off the family is almost always going to try and poke and prod into its offspring's relationships. My grandfather, parents, uncles, and aunts all do it, and you have to learn to dance around it, like the classic smile and nod technique.
The basics here is to remember no matter what you do his family was there long before you where, and its going to stay that way. You marry someone you marry his whole family, and vice versa. However you also need to bite your tongue back, as lashing out is an easy way to make things worse. If one of his family members doesn't like you and wants to break you up your only going to help their cause by expressing your disdain for them epically if its someone close to your bf. However there's nothing more damaging to someone who hates you than to act like it doesn't faze you at all, in fact in most cases if you just turn the other cheek and act like its noting they'll eventually come around and respect you for it.
I don't know your age, or how long you've been dating this guy. But if your not at least college age, and or you don't see yourself marrying this guy its time you weigh the pros's and con's of this relationship and see if its time to get out of it or stay in.
2007-03-03 00:48:39 · answer #3 · answered by Advice4U 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my goodness! i have a similar problem. my bf's mom!! she doesn't attack me she just throws a guilt trip on him. she has kept him living with her for the longest time. he keeps saying he wants to get his own place then she always makes him feel guilty. then when he started sleeping here almost every night and she started picking arguments with him and causing stress on him. i finally was able to talk to him in a civil conversation how i felt she was half of our problems. but i think it was the way i talked about it that time and when i caught him. i caught him when he wasn't in the middle of something and he was having a half decent day and wasn't really stressed out. we had just had an argument that day and after we both cooled off and were able to talk in a civil manner i just calmly stated i really felt like his mother was holding our relationship back and that it seemed as though anytime he wanted to do something for himself she was always there with a guilt trip and tell him how lonely she'll be if he left etc. (his mom is 69 and she conveniently always needs him for soemthing) he actually agreed but added that him and his mom had always been close and he talked to her about everything so i calmly told him just because he moved out on his own and got a life of his own that wouldn't change. so i hope you are able to do the same with your guy and things will get better!
2007-03-03 00:51:51 · answer #4 · answered by butter_cream1981 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not trying to be rude but blood is thicker than water and you'll lose him if you don't stay out of his family's business. He doesn't want you bad mouthing his kin.
2007-03-03 00:45:04 · answer #5 · answered by Im Listening 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋