I was intimate with a guy I really didn't think the relationship would progress to anything more and it was just a physical/long distance relationship. Eventually, feelings factored into the equation. But I was more vocal about my feelings. His non-verbal communication gave me an idea he was interested. But I am one to have hear one's true feelings. I don't assume anything. Out of frustration, I attempted to make him jealous and told him I was intimate with another guy. Needless to say, he went balistic and things between us have not been the same since. He said no man wants to know his woman was with someone else. I had no idea my actions would bother him nor did I know I was "his woman". I really do care about him and I have given him several opportunites to verbalize his feelings either way on where things are going between us. He refuses to give me closure and he won't tell me he no longer wants me in his life. Am I wrong to ask him for closure in this relationship?
2007-03-02 16:18:22 · 3 answers · asked by Mandy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no not at all. just explain that you were intimate with the other guy because he had not expressed to you that he wanted anything other then a casual sex thing. If he can't deal with that then it's time to move on! good luck!
2007-03-02 16:22:38 · answer #1 · answered by xxxlostsocalgirlxxx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was in a similar situation. it's never a good idea to do something to make someone jealous. that always ends up bad. you shouldn't have gotten intimate with someone else unless you were done with the first guy. but since you two weren't actually in a relationship, it makes thing complicated, the best thing to to is tell him how you feel and explain what you did and why ( being that he was giving you signs that he didn't want to pursue anything with you...he didn't even call you "his girl" until after the fact that's his fault). then play off reactions, if you guys can work something out, then props, if not, move on, he doesn't have to gove you closure.
2007-03-02 16:25:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that both of you need to really talk about what is going on
with out communication.with out it you dont have much of anythng
you need to know how he feel. so that you can do what is
best for you. closure is what you need one way or another.
2007-03-02 16:28:00 · answer #3 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋