they find out I am a widow. I don't make a big deal out of it & I didn't kill my husband so what's the problem?
2007-03-02 15:56:42 · 9 answers · asked by Julia B 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am 37. I have been widowed since 1996. I am over him & have been for a long time. I just want a decent man who treats me the way he wants to be treated. I am beinging to think my standards are too high LOL!
2007-03-03 06:35:28 · update #1
Unfortunately its just a "spooky" subject....
To date a woman who's been married before is to deal with her ex husband on occassion.
But, with a widow.... its almost "is he watching me with "his" wife"
But - any man worth having will get over this aspect and love you for you and accept and love the past you have.
2007-03-02 16:02:19 · answer #1 · answered by going_crazy_30m 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a widow too, so I know what you mean. I think they don't know what to say. Some are afraid that you are on the vulnerable side and will use them as a shoulder to cry on, or try to make them a replacement of your husband. Some men are just weird no matter what your situation is. My advice be careful there are lots of men who will take advantage of you and feed you pretty lies. Pray and ask God to send you a good man. That is what I did and he answered that prayer with a wonderful christian man that loves me very much and I love him too. When my husband died I dated one big loser out of loneliness. But then I prayed and got the man I have been dating now for 1 year and 3 months. Best of luck to you!
2007-03-03 00:14:03 · answer #2 · answered by memeemelissa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't know what that means but my grandma is a widow and she is not weird i have 2 grandma's now i lost both of my grandpa and both of my grandma's are widow's and they are not weird and they did not kill there husband's i wish people would not think that just because some people are widow's and there husband's have passed away that they think the wife's killed there husband's was your husband in a car wreck or what not i mean car wrecks storms any thing could do it even natural causes sweetie i would not worry to much about it as far as i know you are just a widow that lost your husband may he rip and i hope this helps i am not the brightest color in the box but i try to help in the best way i can
2007-03-03 00:05:31 · answer #3 · answered by free spirit 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's a good question now that I've read it. I had a friend last year tell me he wouldn't data a widow. When I asked him why, he said "because".
Me personally wouldn't have any issues with dating a widow
JW
2007-03-03 00:00:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing strange about being a widow dear. it is a fact of life. maybe they are the weird guys..just be strong and confident in your self.
2007-03-03 00:10:28 · answer #5 · answered by wongfiehung2003 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how old you are. It is unusual for a young person to be dead, so the news that your husband has passed away probably catches them by suprise.
2007-03-03 00:05:01 · answer #6 · answered by Randy G 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's weird. They must not be the right guys for you.
2007-03-03 00:00:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because they don't believe you didn't kill him.
2007-03-03 00:00:25 · answer #8 · answered by S h ä r k G û m b ò 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They are insensitive and ignorant. They cant help it.
2007-03-03 00:06:58 · answer #9 · answered by beautiful_chocklit_sista 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋