well when i was 13 years old my mom was in the hospital and i had to stay with some people till my mom got home well when my mom come get me i was no where to be found i did not know any thing for a very long time but next friday will be 14 years to the day i was kiddnapped and taken to flordia i was druged my drink was spiked and i could not tast any thing odd in the drink next thing i know i am wakeing up in another state i was beaten raped and druged for a long time i have been in hospitals and been on med's and foster homes you name it and by the time i was found i was half dead from not eating since i was not aloud to if i did i would get beatin worse then before i still have flash backs and night mares of this and i just turnd 13 on march 9th 1993 and till this day it still haunt's me i try not to thank about it but every doc i have seen in the hospitals told me it dose not go away so easy i know i am lucky that i made it back home alive it took my mom 2 years to get me back
2007-03-02 15:55:15 · 12 answers · asked by free spirit 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Wow.
It sounds like you are very lucky to be alive.
The best advice I can give is to keep talking about this. It sounds like you have PTSD - Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. I had that after I was mugged at knife point.
Try finding a support group to go to and talk. For me the only thing that really helped was to talk about it. One therapist I had asked me to think about the fears I was holding onto (getting mugged again) She asked me to remind myself that the chances of this happening to me again were SO very slim that this was not a rational fear. The more I thought of that, the more I knew it was true. The chances of this happening again are 1 in who knows how many millions. You need to remind yourself that you are safe now. Feel free to email me if you want to talk more. I'm wishing you all the best. Take care!
2007-03-02 16:20:53 · answer #1 · answered by michellecdnd 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
good god! there is no 1 that can help u iam 31 now and my mum was just like them pep that did all that s*** 2 u it will never go away thats that i have tryed lots of things and it just stay with me all the time but u can live with it so its not all bad i now have 5 kids and a good man u can go on u can do it and u will b just ok trust me on this 1 u need 2 look at it a way ur not now u still here ur bk with ur mum the world it now urs again and whatever u do it now up 2 u plz try 2 think on what u have now
2007-03-03 13:06:20 · answer #2 · answered by dragontears330 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to confront the people who did that to you. Be angry, Be Sad...but get it all out!!! If that means you have to write a letter or put up a website and name names or have them thrown in jail after going through the courts...
Whatever it takes, don't allow them to claim your life and your soul. You aren't the only one that something like this has happened to and that may not give you comfort but I truly hope it does comfort you to know that there are people out there who've been through the hell you had to endure too.
Look at Shawn Halbeck...(sp) He just endured over 4 years of this abuse after being kidnapped. He is assisting in going after the S.O.B that did this to him. THAT is part of his recovery.
Your experience will always be with you but you can either submissively cower to it or you can allow it to empower you and make you a stronger person.
It's your choice.... Don't stand there... make it!!!
2007-03-03 01:28:59 · answer #3 · answered by ~Me~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well one thing is find a good doctor and keep talking about it til things come back and you'll hae to work through the abuse and stuff it wan'st her that was bad and i guess you will just have to grow up and not let it bug you i know that is hard but witht he right doc and stuff you can make it out of this mess and be a better person for it.
2007-03-06 22:36:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm very sorry. I have no idea how that could be, but I do have a borderline stepdad who goes over the edge sometimes. All that I can say is love and be loved, make friends, don't let what happened destroy your life. Make friends, if you have trouble get help from you family and friends.
2007-03-03 00:02:03 · answer #5 · answered by rcdraco 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im so sorry about what u when through! It must have been a horrid experience! Dont dwell on it so much :) Its all over. Your safe now & back with ur mom.
Time heals all wounds. Take care of urself & stay happy. Thats what matters :)
2007-03-03 00:01:01 · answer #6 · answered by Shobha 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i myself have been a victim of rape from age 5-13 and no its not easy to get over i dont let it bother me as much as i use to and no the person who done it to me never got prosicuted i hope yours did , all you can really do is try to put it behind you and make sure if you ever decide to get married make sure the person you marry is very understanding and willing to stick beside you untill you get control over it i was blessed with a very patient backwards man who i told straite up what i had done to me and he promised never to push me into sex or anything and we been together 17 years now but my advice is to join a victims club in your area that may help you start looking at the positives in your life like you are back home now and you can eat what ever you want and you can have a good life even though you been threw this and when you are ready to have childeren you will be one great parent because you will double watch your childeren i know i do mine i am very protective of mine who they stay with and where they go . i wont let them stay with anyone except my parents or his parents , just keep looking for positive and if you let your mind keep thinking about it you are letting them win you cant let them do that to you you have to win i look at the positive things it done in my life like i dont dress volger,i dont let my kids dress volger, i can spot a child who has been raped just by watching there actions , believe me you can use it for posivive things me i try to get the childeren who has been raped to open up some do some dont but use it help someone else and win the battle dont let it punish you its not your fault or your moms its thiers the ones who done it .. i also had to say out loud ok lord i forgive him and i want you to forgive him too , and i had such peace com eover me when i did it . give it to god they will get there punishment from him when its his time
2007-03-03 00:28:51 · answer #7 · answered by family fan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can go to a doctor and ask them more medication, i'm sure there is something they can give you to stop the nightmares. Maybe it's good that you dont remember every detail.
2007-03-03 00:51:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow..wow..wow..you were kidnapped?..were u on the news?..well..just pray..ask God to comfort you..and he will..try to get a hobby or something or travel..thats always gets your mind off things..take care..and God Bless You..hope u will be ok :)
2007-03-03 00:00:59 · answer #9 · answered by kdm :) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow that sucks and a real doc might help good luck
2007-03-02 23:59:17 · answer #10 · answered by TEBOE7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋