okay so on this sunday im going to be going out with my gf for 3 months, her mom knows and is cool, her dad isnt cool, and he thinks we broke up, anyhow, my ex gf broke up with her bf today because they have to much arguements, and before she didnt with me, and i still like her alot and she does to me to, we broke up because she thought i was a player wich i proved her wrong, now i want to get back with my ex but i dont want to hurt my gf, i dont know what to tell her, i love her atleast i think i do, but i have strong feelings for my ex and really want to get back with her! someone please help, my gf has always been their for me and so has my ex, but [people] tell me that my gf flirts with this one guy alot, and i told her his name and she got shocked and turned red, and she said that shes not going to talk to him no more if i dont want to, and kept telling me over and over who told me this, but i dont know what to do, thats her neighbor! please someone help me before i get down =[
2007-03-02 15:54:02 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
OK first things first. You know the truth of how you feel. But there are all these social rules telling you you aren't supposed to feel that way. The problem is, Feelings do not listen to social rules. Eventually almost everyone breaks them becaus of that, then beat themselves up over it emotionally. The entire contry, ( I don't say world becaus in other places they are more enlightened. ) would be better off if they Stopped opposing their feelings in relationships so they lie and cheat then feel bad. Simply be honest with your self. and Both the girls. almost assuredly one will try to make you Choose one. or ask who you love more. the best reply is. If you have 2 kids, Do you love one more? do you Choose one? NO! you love them both, you love each one diffrent. Do you have two parents? can you only love one? you have more than one freind, can you love more than one? must you Choose one freind, one child, one parent? the Truth is people do not simply care about one person. many people are forced to hurt themself and some one they love, becaus the Social rule says. Choose one. this behavior is to my opinion, immoral hurtfull and wrong. If one of your girls refuses to accept that, it is her choice. and you aren't a player if you are honest. A player lies just to get what they want use lots of people and throw them away. An honest person, is that Honest. everyone has their beliefs, and values. We must all live with them. and in any relationship we must share these and work on what we can accept and what we cannot. Be truthfull with everyone involved, even if it is frighnting, and it will be Much better than living a lie.
2007-03-02 16:17:37 · answer #1 · answered by krimlen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you should sit down and think what exactly is it that you feel for both of them. Do you love your ex more than your current? How did it feel when you were with your ex? Were there many problems? Then make your decision. You should be honest to both of them. It might cause conflict but its better than hiding your feelings and if your gf finds out one day that you were hiding this from her it'll be much worse.
Your gf is willing to change for you which means she really does care for you a lot.If you're unsure whether you love her or not, y did you be with her in the first place.
If you want to be with your ex then tell them both. Love can't be forced. If you think you and ur gf do have a future, just forget about your ex. The past is the past. Live the present to the fullest and do not worry about the future for it has yet to come. Mayb you can just wait and see wat happens.
2007-03-02 16:07:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you need to be honest with your current gf and tell her that you still like her but u have feelings for ur ex. if she truly was flirting with another guy, then she might want to get with him and then everything works out
2007-03-02 16:00:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow...this is something you have to decide on your own...lol...plus you sound like you are young and don't really know what you want yet...so just do what you think is right for you..try not to hurt anyones feelings..
2007-03-02 15:57:47 · answer #4 · answered by hey_thanks_you_guys 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
AR yu male or female do yu wantto suck up the hair on his chest or do yu wantto find another sexy man.
2007-03-02 16:05:14 · answer #5 · answered by zyp_john 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some like a rebound
2007-03-02 16:05:35 · answer #6 · answered by zqx357 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
RUN! i have no idea, its really what your heat has to say (wow that sounded gay) but yeah, i hate drama like this, it makes me angry.
>:(
2007-03-02 15:59:47 · answer #7 · answered by Jack H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋