I let someone go. i do still have feelings for him. But i want him to be happy and i know he doesn't have feelings for me and thats fine. But i'm the jealous type and sometime it hurts because even though i want him to be happy it hurts that i can't be the one making him happy. Like i'm not good enough. I mean i'm doing fine but sometimes it just hits me hard. Is it selfish to feel this way? if he's with other women...i'd be glad he is happy but at the same time i wouldn't want them together because i want to be the one with him. I wouldn't try to break them apart. It makes me sad to see him sad of rejection from someone else. We don't talk much but i wish we were better friends.
Other ladies tell me they like him...they jsut want him to happy.. but me...after all i just said.. Am i being selfish?
2007-03-02 15:46:52 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm with someone else thank you very much.
2007-03-02 15:56:49 · update #1
You know, This has nothing to do with you. You can not make your heart feel what it don't. And you can not make him like you. Maybe it was not meant to be right now. But all you can do, is let him know.
2007-03-02 15:52:40 · answer #1 · answered by tuffchevy86 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How can u be even considered selfish if u let the love of ur life go; only because u wanted him to be happy :)
That's a huge sacrifice. I know it hurts, at times probably even unbearable. Its his loss to let someone as awsome as u go :) but then again love cant be forced. It either happens or it dosnt, its really unexpected. It cant be planned.
Dont worry about it. You'll get over him one day, maybe not as soon as u hope, but u will. Especially when someone new comes along & u fall in love all over again :) when u do, the feelings u had for ur past love would be wiped out completely.
Take care of urself. Hang out with friends, but most importantly have fun! Treasure the people around u that u do have & u'll realise what u have been missing out on! For all u know, ur prince charming is not too far away :)
God bless dear!
2007-03-02 15:57:01 · answer #2 · answered by Shobha 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think about what it means to you to "see him happy". Is that just something you said to make the break-up easier? It seems like you have deeper feelings for this guy, but he doesn't feel that way about you. Just on a side note here, the details you included are all about you. I mean each sentence starts with "I...." which leads me to think you are being selfish. It sounds like you just need some help leaving this guy who doesn't share the same feelings as you do. Don't worry about him, he'll be just fine. If that's not good enough, then keep in touch with him, but remember, you have some dating to do with someone else!
2007-03-02 15:55:03 · answer #3 · answered by daughter_helping 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do not think that you are selfish at all. The fact that you think you are being selfish because you want to make another person happy proves this. Honey you have a good heart but you are wasting your time trying to make someone care for you. There are people out there that would nuture and protect your sweet spirit just wait. To try to make this person have feelings for you is useless but you see that. Now stop wasting time worrying about who is going to be his "lucky" lady. Start spending time finding out how to make you happy.
2007-03-02 15:55:33 · answer #4 · answered by newyorktilson 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it's not being selfish..I have been through this with a girl I extremely loved. She was a friend of mine at one time and I loved her and she didn't love me back. She told me she would never love me back. I cried for days . She would tell me about her dates and how she loved two guys...and how she got together with them and had sex with them and it would kill me ..I was so down I wanted to die and thought about suicide often.
I finally couldn't take it anymore...she knew I loved her more then anything in the world and she still killed me anyways.
I had to stop being friends with her ,stop talking to her...I felt sooo worhtless and not good enough..
So you must put a stop to all contact with this guy or you'll never , never get over him and everytime you see him you'll fall to pieces an become compeletly depressed ..even more so then you are now. Trust me here.
If you need to talk to someone contact me K.. I know what your going through.
2007-03-02 16:02:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey I was in this same exact situation and since I know your pain and I used to wonder the same thing, but i realized that its feelings you cant help and feelings you'll have to learn to be with, and i know your hurting so be as selfish as you want so that you can let all that frustration out, do whatever you can to feel better...thats how i got through it.
2007-03-02 15:51:25 · answer #6 · answered by sadgreeneyes3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are being selfish and very immature. Give your Love to some one who loves you. This guy is not interested in you. "Let Go" you are setting yourself up to be used. there are people out there that will use you when you show that you care more for them than they do for you. Learn early in life so you will not suffer so much.
2007-03-02 15:54:41 · answer #7 · answered by MS Williams 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i don't think you're being selfish at all. you're dealing with it naturally. you may want him to be happy but at at the same time, you think you're the one best thing for him because you still love him deeply. good luck!
2007-03-02 16:05:04 · answer #8 · answered by Mimi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Broken record.... but anyways there is nothing wrong with being selfish. I'm selfish as f*** but I don't care, you need to get over him, slap your self in the face, take a cold shower, do WHATEVER (except cut/overly beat yourself/commit suicide/take drugs lol) it takes to get over him, and go out with other guys, and maybe he might come back to you, maybe he won't but so what you should try and owe it to yourself to be a catch, and be a challenge.
2007-03-02 15:53:13 · answer #9 · answered by A_2__the__E__Adrenaline 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋