I have this crush on this boy, and I ask him who he likes, and he gives me hints, and it's equal to me! Except, people say that he hates me. This is what I don't understand : If he hates me, then why would he give me desriptions about a girl that is equal to me? I am so confused! Does this make any sense? Does he like me? If you think you know , or you do know the answer to this, can you please tell me what the answer is???
2007-03-02 15:45:36 · 12 answers · asked by clandestine 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like he likes you but may be hiding that from everyone else so he is not teased.
2007-03-02 15:49:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are confused by wishful thinking. His description of "what he likes" sounds to you as the same as YOUR idea of what you are. His idea of what you are like may have (and probably does NOT have) any relation to your idea of yourself. You can not see yourself as he sees you. Now, the other side is that people often will deny that they have feelings for someone when they do - because admitting it will make them vulnerable. So, like they say: live by the sword then die by the sword - - which means if you BELIEVE what others say he says then you're pretty much stuck. Once you outgrow the gossip, maybe you'll be able to live using your own eyes insead of "what they say". If you've asked him and he didn't get the hint then it doesn't sound like theres much chance, sorry. So, to sum up. You asked. He responded but didn't take it any further. You saw some hidden meaning. But others say he doesn't like you.
You could try one more time before you move on, something like: "you said you like a,b and c AND I am a, b, and c - do you think its possible...?"
2007-03-03 00:01:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK, if he hates you he probably wouldn't be talking to you. Do these people who are telling you this also have a crush on him and are trying to get you out of the way?
anyway, it is possible he is describing someone else and you are desperately trying to make similarities to his descriptions and you just so you can fit his profile.
If he likes you then ask him, heck, tell him you like him, if you are afraid of rejection then now is a good time to start getting used to it. If you are afraid of people teasing you because you told a boy you like him then now is a good time to begin growing up. By that I mean you need to have a sense of humor about yourself. People tease because they know they can get a reaction, don't give them the reaction (or better yet, joke about it yourself) and it leaves them nowhere to go. not only will you be left alone, you will probably catch the attention of more boys who think you are cool to hang out with.
2007-03-02 23:53:34 · answer #3 · answered by cobra2140 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You never mentioned your age, or his age. IF someone is an adult he/she will let you know if he/she really likes you, and won't be afraid to tell you they love you.
A lot of teenagers go through phases, and wonder "IF" this, or that.
As long as the person wants to be with you and you get along together, be happy and enjoy their company, and don't listen to what others say about them if you know he person better than they do.
Don't push it or you may scare them off.
Don't worry so much! If it's true caring, the person will continue to see you, and won't care about what others think. IF someone really hates you, I don't think they would want to always be with you. Time will tell! Don't get too serious too fast. You have a lifetime ahead of you.
2007-03-03 00:01:19 · answer #4 · answered by Stargater 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask him straight out and tell him how you feel. You cannot listen to what people say. People gossip,lie,get half the story,add details to a true story-all kinds of ****. Whether it is intentional to start drama, make themselves look better or someone else look bad, or who knows why; or if it is unintentional (heard it from someone who lies, etc) only trust about 10% of what people say regarding things like this. Do the person/people that are telling you he hates you know YOU like HIM? If so, do they/he/she have an ulterior motive to lie about this? Like maybe they or one of their friends likes him thereself, are jealous of you, dislike you for something from the past? Also, it sounds to me like he is shy and is trying to let you know it is YOU he likes without out and out saying it, in case you dont like him he doesnt want to be embarrassed. Also, if he "hated you" he would not be talking to you at all. I do not hate very many people, but those I do, I avoid like the plague. GOOD LUCK
2007-03-02 23:56:20 · answer #5 · answered by Brandi A 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's someone with the same personality as you! Don't believe what your peers say. If you really want to know the answer, then ask him flat out! If your friends are right, and he says he hates you, then maybe he's just trying to hide it! Anywho, good luck, and I really hope you get what you want!
2007-03-02 23:50:52 · answer #6 · answered by 1tuffcookie 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Boys will often tell their friends one thing, and the girl they like another. That way, if that particular girl rejects him, he is easily out of the interrigation situation by saying "I hated her". Also, sometimes when boys are fliriting, they can be mean and too playful. (Hey, they are trying to figure things out, too!)
I cannot garuntee that this is even about you. Sometimes we girls get so excited, that we can minipulate any situation into one in our favor. I'm afraid you need more than just this one situation to determine your status in this boys mind....
...but consider this:
Why won't he tell you straight out who he likes? ;-)
good luck!
2007-03-02 23:51:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
just ask him straight out dont listen to what people are saying all their doing is confusing you and making the situation worse...
2007-03-02 23:48:20 · answer #8 · answered by sadgreeneyes3 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He doesn't want to hurt your feelings by rejecting you. He probably knows how that feels. He probably doesn't know how to communicate that he only likes you.
If he does like you like you like him then he could be to shy to say, but he probably would say if he did.
2007-03-02 23:50:35 · answer #9 · answered by wsorenson_60 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think he probably likes you, but is to shy to really tell you and maybe to embarrassed to his friends that he likes you.
2007-03-02 23:51:06 · answer #10 · answered by Khris 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋