Moms with kids in day care?

Question

how old was your baby/child when you put them in child care?

or what do you think is an appropriate age?

i would love to stay home with my daughter the whole time, I NEED to work, unlike to opinionated stay at home moms, I like to bring home some bacon!

Answer 1

My son was 6 weeks old when he went to day care. It took us some time to find the ideal situation. As he got older, he loved being in daycare, liked his friends and teachers, and loved learning things I wouldn't have had the patience to teach him myself. I worked both as a choice and out of financial needs. The quality of the time you spend with your child is as important as the quantity. My son is now 10, and is bright, well-adjusted, gets along well with others - children and adults. He has made lifelong connections with his care providers - has been invited to weddings, etc. My two best friends are both stay-at-home moms, and had a tought time understanding why I would choose day care, but you need to do what you have to do and/or what is right for you. Putting your child in daycare doesn't make you a bad parent, or mean you love your child less than someone who can or chooses to stay at home. Millions of kids go to daycare and turn out to be fine people. We found a licensed day care center to be right for us, after trying in-home care. Take your time making this decision, weight the pros and cons, then if you decide to put your child in daycare, spend a lot of time investigating, observing, talking to others. If a daycare doesn't welcome you to spend as much time as you need observing and talking to staff, find a new one! My son will bargain with me to get to stay longer at his after-school care, or go on days he wouldn't have to, but I know he also loves spending time doing things with mom and dad. Good luck to you!

Answer 2

This is a very hard decision. Some people say never, you should raise your own kids. However, seeing as these days it seems almost impossible to live on one income, it can be hard. I would weigh out your options. I am lucky were as my mother watches all my children (3, ages 10, 4 and 2). It makes it easier for me to go to work. I have to work. There is no way that we would make it as a family without the both of us bringing bacon to the table. There is nothing wrong with going back to work, as long as you can make it work for the best of the whole family. And just because you want to work, doesn't make you a bad person or mother. You want to help your family grow and there is nothing wrong with that. As you will have many roles to play. I would recommend trying to find someone who does in home day care/babysitting, hopefully someone you know or who is related to you and your child. And just because you want to work, doesn't mean you want to have someone else raise your child. Don't listen to people who have too many opinions on what you should do, these days we all have to have an open mind to change, as it happens thought out the course of all our lives. I hope this helps. Even though I think I didn't really answer your question, this is just my opinion. Good luck to you.

Answer 3

That's My daughter was about 8 months old when she first went into a "day care". It was my mother's home based day care, I was going to school at that time and working part time. When my daughter was 16months old I put her into the day care on the base her father was stationed at which was about 5 minutes from where I was working. An appropriate age is what the parents of the child feel is appropriate. I have worked in day care and some parents choose day care within weeks of the child being born.

Answer 4

First of all, I have 5 kids. I have also worked at a day care. I know what happens on both ends. I know babies are not cared for like they should. I personally think it is ok to put your child in day care as long as they can talk. That way if something happens you can always ask the babies opinion. Another thing is, make surprise spot checks even after you drop kid off. Also, when you are trying to decide on a daycare ask for references and put the word out on the street to find any info on the daycare. Word of mouth will tell you alot.Good Luck

Answer 5

My son will be starting daycare on the college campus I go to and he will be 3 by then and to those saying raise your own kid umm hello some of us do work for a living , we can not very well take our kids to work with us.

The way prices are going for houses, vehicles and so fourth within the next 10 years more then 80% of both spouses will be working, heck right now you can not even get a really good paying job without a college education.

toomanyco putting your child in daycare for a few hours everyday does not mean someone else is raising them, that was a very dumb comment you made.

Answer 6

According to my child's day care coordinator, most kids under 1 year tend to adapt better than older ones. My son did not attend day care until he was 19 months, and it took him good 2 weeks to be able to be ok. Now he does great because he loves to be with other kids and he has a great teacher. Word of advice, when choosing daycare, take your time. Visit every daycare, ask for references, and ask parents, because some daycares may seem good, but they are not compatible with you child's interest and needs. Do not settle because its cheap!

Answer 7

Well I think as long as you have a place you trust in mind I say right away but take about 3mos of searching and visit some places after lunch time that way its near the end of the day you can see how they operate after being around a bunch of toddlers for 6hrs.

Answer 8

Mine was 2. He loved going then and he still loves going now (he's 3 1/2)...we have a really good day care...make sure and check out the day cares and make sure they are excellant!

Answer 9

their is nothing wrong with staying home with your child and it relly is a hard job, and i think that one years old is old enough good luck!

Answer 10

you should work at home. that way you could be there all the time.