My baby is a boy, 2 and a half. My daughter is just 6 and has a learning disability.
Neither of us has filed for divorce. He thinks that my having the kids a week and then his having the kids a week is too much time with me. During his weeks, he has a baby sitter pick them up every night from daycare and cook dinner. He arrives home at 7 and promptly puts them to bed at 8.
I have a mommy track job that allows me to drop them off an hour later than he would and pick them up myself and spend at least three waking hours with them each night. On many weekends, he goes away and leaves the kids with his mother, who has beginning Alzheimers, and his father, who is being treated for cancer. Without telling me. Or he has about 8 people who baby sit for him. I recently learned that he has actually left them with one of the babysitters for a weekend while telling me that he and the kids were away together.
Go figure.
When he makes the time for them, he is good with the kids, so we
2007-03-02 15:19:18 · 3 answers · asked by jazz41 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Make sure you document all his behavior, including his seemingly wreckless choices in caregivers. Meet with a counselor who can advise you on adjustment disorders in children and suggest a good amount of time for the children to be with each parent before switching back. Here's a sample custody order for you to review: http://www.fathersrightsny.com/legal_samples.htm
2007-03-02 15:28:15 · answer #1 · answered by Heather Y 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're going to have to fight for sole custody. You will need a good lawyer. The best thing to do is get sole custody, then agree to one or two nights a week and every other weekend, one or two weeks vacation, plus a holiday schedule. Make sure it's all spelled out, including pick-up and drop-off times, in the agreement.
2007-03-02 23:32:12 · answer #2 · answered by Uther Aurelianus 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He needs a wake up call. Write to judge Hatchet.
2007-03-02 23:29:05 · answer #3 · answered by oldmanwitastick 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋