I have no friends, no job, no life...I used to have it all. I got caught in a rut...some "friends" got me in trouble with the law..I didnt even do anything!.Now I dont trust anyone at all- ever. How do I start living again??? Im sooooo sad. I dont even get out of bed somedays. I have no family- and the mother and father I do have are crazy-Im always afraid Im going to turn out like them. My own father wont even come to my wedding because me mom is going to be there!
2007-03-02 15:17:46 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're getting married!! You need to be happy for what you have, or stop the wedding till you're sure you have the life you want...
2007-03-02 15:24:54 · answer #1 · answered by paradigm 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hey, Jessica
Sounds like you need several things in place. First, get a great, progressive therapist. It doesn't mean you're disabled or anything like that. It just sounds like you could use someone to talk to. Someone to bounce things off of.
Also, join innoccuous groups such as reading groups, cooking classes, or anything else related to a hobby that you may enjoy. That's the best way to meet people with similar interests.
So far as your parents go: I know it stings, but there's nothing you can do about them. They're adults with their own mind-sets. The best you can do is change how much you let it affect you.
Aside from all that, do your best to realize that how you're feeling now is not how you will always feel. Things in life are transient. This, too, will pass. Best of luck, J-
2007-03-02 23:35:19 · answer #2 · answered by rougelatete 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you and u are not alone... there are a lot of people with big problems that just don't go away in life. You however sound like you are stronger than you think you are because you're looking for a way to solve your problem instead of moping in a corner and doing nothing.
Just to keep the ball rolling, keep trying for a job, stay friendly and open-hearted to people that you meet (not asking you to trust them immediately, just have a friendly attitude towards them) and gradually with time (and all your past experience that you have accrued so far that makes you more street-wise now), you will know who to trust and who is a true-friend candidate. A true friend is always there for u and WILL NOTsacrifice your well-being for selfish gains.
Start surrounding yourself with things that make you happy or your talents within you...:) hope this helps...
luv mellowsoup
2007-03-02 23:34:03 · answer #3 · answered by mellowsoup 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to look on the bright side- you mentioned your upcoming wedding, so you must have a fiance right? That means you have someone who truly loves you and wants to spend the rest of their life with you and that is something alot of people never really find. Ask him if he has any friends who have girlfriends or wives about your age that you might get along with. You guys could try double dating and you and her might hit it off and become friends. From there you could meet more girlfriends through her and so on and so on. Also, my parents are crazy too and you have to realize that doesn't mean you will be. You won't ever move on until you realize you can't change them or your past and genuinely forgive them for their shortcomings. Your life will only be what you make it, so go out and start living it.
2007-03-02 23:34:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds like you are in a pretty low place right now. Just try to start over. Maybe start with a job. From there you might make friends from that job. I am also very sorry about your family. Everyone should have family to back them up. Just be strong, and make yourself get up in the morning.
2007-03-02 23:21:43 · answer #5 · answered by The BecaNATOR 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hang on a sec. You can't have no life if you are due to get married. I understand that your situation with your parents is compounding the problem, and that there seems to be little way out. I would suggest trying to rebuild your life through your job, hopefully that can prove a springboard to other facets improving. Good luck!
2007-03-02 23:27:24 · answer #6 · answered by bovie 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have to work twice as hard to show that you are better than your father. There is life after problems. Seek professional help in dealing with your problems. Not getting out of bed is a problem.
2007-03-02 23:21:03 · answer #7 · answered by eddie4306 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know the feeling hun...I felt like that all my life. No one loves me , no one cares.. everyone I love abandons me when i need them the most.
Tell you what I will be your friend , your buddy if you want .
Contact me ..my name is Kevin and I'll listen to you and talk to you email me anytime ok. And if you want you can even IM me.
We can talk and I will help you. If you want I'll be your friend..Cause I know what its like to be so alone !!!! It's prue hell.
Contact me we will talk . I mean it. I hate when people abandon me I know the feeling.
2007-03-02 23:27:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you're such a mess then why are you even getting married?
2007-03-02 23:22:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
try to do more work on your problems. like write down ideas and see what you come up with
2007-03-02 23:23:38 · answer #10 · answered by chyann r 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋