My son is 13 month olds and I started giving him timeout when he was 12 months old. I'm not sure if he understands it but he has been better since I started doing it. He WILL stop doing something naughty when I tell him that he will get a timeout. I think he is more advanced for his age. I get crap when I tell people he gets time-outs already. I do time outs by Supernanny's rules, and I explain to him him why I put him in time-out and I think it is working. Do you think it's to early for him to understand it? When did you start doing time outs?
2007-03-02 15:02:40 · 10 answers · asked by Baby Julie due 5/12 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
If it is working for you than don't change it. I think it varies by the child and their own development.
I tried with my oldest daughter around 16 months and it didn't work until she was 2. I haven't yet tried with my 20 month old, probably because she is my last child and I still see her as a baby.
Parenting is a learning experience. A wise friend once told me, If it is working don't change it. If it isn't working, you can change it whenever you are ready too.
2007-03-02 15:09:37 · answer #1 · answered by Angela T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure how early it was for our children, but I believe in time outs. I did what you do. I explain to our children why they get a time out and try to talk to them about inappropriate behavior. At first you don't think they are understanding, but they learn fast! We couldn't believe how much the children remember at a young age. Since children are quick learners, I think you need to start discipline as soon as possible. There are too many parents out there that don't believe the child understands so they wait and later on it's harder to control the child since they have gotten away with things. I would rather start early and have a child that doesn't attack others in daycare or preschool and that knows manners instead of being called at work all the time for behavior issues. Of course every child is different and as a mother you have a bond with your child and generally know what's going on. If you feel there is understanding, then keep going. Your child will grow up to be a better person and you will be proud.
2007-03-02 15:13:59 · answer #2 · answered by San Jose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have worked in child care for many years with all age groups and I think 12 months is just fine to start with timeouts. Just be consistant and firm - one minute per year old, but restart it if he breaks the timeout and explain to him what he has done wrong and why he has to sit out and for how long. TRUST me they know and will eventually catch on to good vs. bad behaviors. Also, remember to reward as well, just negative reinforcement is not healthy. Positve reinforcement of good behavior will encourge him to do it more often. Best of wishes to you and your son!
2007-03-03 10:48:15 · answer #3 · answered by Brandi P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Supernanny is the QUEEN! If it's working keep doing it, our daughter started her naughty mat @ 12 months, it's great & she knows that mat can travel so we rarely have any problems with her & if we do it just takes one time of telling her she'll sit on the naughty mat & the unacceptable behavior stops. Tell the others that are blowing you crap to get over it, it's your child, do what's best for you & them!
2007-03-02 15:45:18 · answer #4 · answered by mom of 3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
About 12 months.
2007-03-02 15:12:12 · answer #5 · answered by JustAnotherEngineer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my son was 9 months when he got his first time out (he got put in the crib for 1 minute) i only did it when i repeted "no that is not a nice thing to do" or something along those lines 3 times. he got the three strikes your out rule now he is a very very well behaved 2 year old. Sure he throws some tantrums but in general he is better behaved then most kids. He listins to no, he does not try to grab for things in the store, he sits when i ask him to sit and so on and so forth i belive each child is difrent when they are ready for disipline.
2007-03-02 15:08:37 · answer #6 · answered by Gypsy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it feels like my son's life is just one long time out. However, it is a form of behaviour modification and it helps him understand what is acceptable behaviour. Boys usually need it more than girls, but I am an equal opportunity type of guy so my daughter also gets to spend some quite time reflecting on her actions.
As for when I started? Whenever they started acting like wankers.
2007-03-02 15:14:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I started at 18 months. That he stops the behavior at this point may have more to do with the fact that he is distracted from it than because he actually understands. But eventually he will make the connection.
2007-03-02 15:09:09 · answer #8 · answered by Heather Y 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are doing a good job. It is not too early. Timeouts are better then beating your kids. It doesn't matter what other people think. Good Luck!
2007-03-02 15:14:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as he understands why he is getting time out.
That is the purpose of it anyway.
Ignore those people.
2007-03-02 15:11:46 · answer #10 · answered by Tumbleweed 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋