my mother had a bad childhood, her dad was in jail for 18 years, her mom beated her up bad, for the first 22 years of my life she made my life hell, she constantly put me down, saying i don't deseave any men, even i was very popular with boys, she asks my dad to beat me so i won't be spoiled, she was so happy when my loving dad punishes me, also she compares her house to my house, her job to my job until today, i've moved out 6 years old, how can i deal with this crazy woman?
2007-03-02 14:48:56 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
First, you moved! Protect yourself. You're mom had it really hard growing up and she passed her knowledge onto you. It's sad and I am sorry for you. I recently had a conversation with my mom about her mom. The similarities were mind blowing!! I can't make my mom happy, she could never make her mom happy. Point is, try your best to understand where you're mom's head is at. Be empathetic towards her. More caring than normal, but DO keep your conversations with her to a minimum. If she only puts your down, then limit your time with her for a while. You can suggest counselling for her, but she might chase after you in hatred.?
You are working, taking care of yourself, and have your own place to live. Keep living, keep going in your positive direction. She won't change, but you can.
Telling your mom how you feel may be a big waste of time. Showing your mom how you feel, might grab her attention. I have faught with my mom and never really showed her how hurt I was. My mom says crying doesn't do any good, so I never cried around her. Except when my cat died 2 months ago. I'm 35.
2007-03-02 16:54:22 · answer #1 · answered by daughter_helping 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I know what is wrong here, you life sucked face it, your mom will always be in your life because YOU allow it, you are asking this because yo can not figure why but the true reason is YOUR allowing this to happen. YOu need to do what I did finally and tell your mom this "I love you mom no matter what ever your problem is but I dislike what you do and it is time for me to say goodbye untill you get some help" Then YOU need to keep busy and avoid her and no call to see how she is ( you'll hear from someone) then you need to not worry about what SHE thinks anymore because seriously who cares whos house looks like what or whos job is better. You will never forget about the abuse ever but you can learn to forgive you have to or you will be miserable trust me, I have learned to forgive and that is why things for me are better
2007-03-02 23:12:26 · answer #2 · answered by Gina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run do not walk, away!! Get away from her poison and her petty crud and live your life in a happy way!! She will never change, and it will never get better...trust me on that. I can see my own mother in every sentence you have written. One thing I have learned is that you can't choose where and who you come from...but you can control who you are and who is in your life once you move out. Be happy and make a new family for yourself with the kind of friends that will be with you through thick and thin. Be happy..
2007-03-02 23:09:31 · answer #3 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forgive your mom
not for her but for you
when people do things like this they take power over you i mean hell your worrying about this while your moms sleepin at night,it doesnt make any sence for why you have to suffer,but you have to forgive and move on
(i do also reccomend the staying away from her comment)
2007-03-02 23:12:20 · answer #4 · answered by Tydie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get as far away as possible! (im not kidding)
2007-03-02 22:55:47 · answer #5 · answered by BlondGrl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋