Am I in love??

Question

I have a big prob.
All of a sudden I'm falling for these two guys that I've know for a while now.

One of them I've known since last year in 6th grade,
and the other since kindergaren but transfered in like 2nd grade.

The only major problem is that I am ranked number 2nd (at least) on the 7th grades most hated list. I'm a tom-boy that doesn't like to talk about boys, hates shopping, pink, and doesn't wear make-up! And they both despise me entirely!!

I feel like crying alot of the time i think about this!
I've thought about telling the one i've known since 6th grade how I feel, I mean i've been nice to him..........sometimes....

HELP!

Answer 1

Wow, I can remember those days, but now it seems like school is more cruel than ever.

First, I hope you can confidently ignore a ridiculous idea such as a "most hated" list. I'm so sorry you even have to experience something like that!

You should celebrate being you, and you should love yourself for you, and if that means no make up, no shopping, and no pink, then good for you! No one has the right to judge you for making your own choices in life -- it's your life, right? Right!

The truth of the matter is that most people, yes, even so-called "grown ups," get into the most trouble in life by trying to be like everyone else, and worrying about what other people think of them. Even the President makes major decisions for the whole country, like going to war, because of how he wants the world to look at him! And, that causes nothing but trouble and heartache.

I know school is, sadly, all about peer pressure, but HANG IN THERE! Be confident to be YOU.

You know what happens when you're confident for being you? You begin to attract the right kind of people in your life -- friends, even boyfriends, that will love you and care about you for being YOU. And, that's a true friend, someone who says, "Hey, that's great that you're a tomboy, and that's great that you don't wear makeup, and good for you for hating pink!" Now, that's going to be a true friend. And, when it comes to love, finding someone who REALLY accepts you, for you, is even MORE important.

So, if you have two guys you like, who despise you entirely, then they aren't the guys for you, right? If you start changing yourself now, just to please people, and especially just to please a guy, you'll never stop pleasing people the rest of your whole life, and that's no way to live, and it's no path to happiness. The best person to please is YOU. If you love yourself, then you will attract others to you who love you, for YOU.

As for being in love, no, I don't think anyone can truly be in love with someone who doesn't love you as you are. And, thankfully, you have plenty of time to find that person, so don't feel like you will never find someone just because these two guys aren't the right ones.

Work on finding yourself, and loving yourself. Please don't get caught in the trap of thinking that you are only worth loving if others love you -- if you do, you'll be chasing that love forever, always trying to live up to others expectations of you, and you'll never find true love, or even true happiness.

I know it can seem like now is all you have, but you have lots of time to meet a guy, and the important thing is to meet the RIGHT guy, a guy that loves you for YOU, not a guy who is only going to be there if you pretend to be something you're not.

Shakespeare said, To Thine Own Self, Be True. That's as good of advice back then, as it is today -- for life, and, most importantly, for love.

Hang in there, you'll be okay!

Answer 2

You are in last if u have dated them and still are friends and knewl longer and whatever you tell him he comes back to talk more.You know if u feel like picking up the phone and talking for hours.

Answer 3

I think you should seriously forget about BOYS, and focus on school. You seem like you need a Psychiatrist or something (not trying to be rude).

Answer 4

Honey, if you were in love, you wouldn't have to ask the question. Save yourself for a better soulmate. You'll be glad you did.

Answer 5

nowhere near it.youre like 12.you should be doing something like eating lolipops or playing with dolls....you arent ready for love.not for a while.

Answer 6

dont fall in love in high school it will fad away after both people move on. wait to you are settled in your career and where you want to be then can you truly find love. love comes at us fast and sometimes we are blind. when you are truly in love you will know it. trust your instincts.

Answer 7

Nope, ur not in love. You don't experience "love" until your married. Love goes through ALOT of things.

Answer 8

No worry, wait til you get a lot older.